I'm in trouble now

I had to leave the computer earlier to take a phone call from my kid's psychologist. He used my last voice me as an excuse to call me, I'm pretty sure. He wanted to check in and see how I am doing. He also mentioned that he talked to my T a few days ago at a meeting. (Uh-Oh!) Trouble starts here. My last contact with my T was a week and a half ago to schedule an appointment at his other office. Prior to that by 4 or 5 days I left him a note at the other office 4 pages long handwritten about all the stress I was having, being afraid of this new place, meds, etc, and that I was really wanting to do some serious purging. I was really open and honest with everything. Well, I gather that my T told my kid's T everything--or at least the basics. He knew that I had a new appointment with my T coming up next week. It's not my turn to take my kids to their appointment for another week. I am hoping that the kid's T won't be giving me any lectures or anything. He was really quiet on the phone, and talking about things seemed to bother him.

Two things here... these people have your best interest at heart. Please don't try to hide things from them, they won't be able to help you to the best of their ability if you do so.

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Aside from that, I think it may be extremely unethical for them to be discussing you amongst themselves, a violation of privacy. I'm not really sure how the ethical code stands on that since they are both doctors in the same field. But I know that the release that you sign to allow others to know about any aspects of your mental illness INCLUDES having to give explicit permission to your medical doctor (at least it does in New Jersey).

I think you may have said at some point back that you gave them permission to talk to each other or something. I don't think it is a bad thing for them to be talking together and sharing information that might help you. But whether or not they do share should be under your control.

But I notice you said "I gather" so maybe this didn't happen at all. Maybe with all the stress and depression it is making you more suspicious, which is normal, and part of the negativity of depression.

Anyway good luck with it, please try not to worry about it and remember that these people want to help you. I am so happy that in spite of all the difficulties you are having you are still seeing your therapist and considering it a priority to get the help you need and do as much as you can do, which I know must be so difficult.

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I know in my state (Massachusetts) you can sign a release for a T to talk to a T. I signed one so my doctor could talk to my T. BUT!!!! There was a definite time limit applied to it.

It is good that your T talks to your kids T, but I think that would make me more guarded in my own therapy. I wouldn't mind the two talking, but I would like to know why they need to talk and when. I guess that is where the time limit comes into play in this state. Mine was for one month. I like the time limit as I can know exactly when people are talking.

Don't worry. Talk to your T and see whats going on. Just because you want or feel you need to purge does not mean you have to.

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