I am one of the people who are forever defending the chat room, people say we are rude and ignore some users and I come out and say no we dont etc.

Well three times this week I have gone into the chat room and said hi or good morning etc only to be met with silence, now I know they was talking before I came in as on each occasion they have made a comment to each other as I came in. The first two times I made a comment about it and on one of those occasions I recieved a hello back from several people, on the second time I recieved nothing on the third I left before any comment was made as I was a bit cheesed off and didnt want to be rude.

Now if I walked into a room with people in it said hello to them and was ignored then that would be classed as very very rude what is the difference here ? None.

I am not so mad for myself as I am a big girl now and it is water off a ducks back to me however what about new people who come in ? They will leave and may be in need of help at the very least ! At worst it could trigger them into feeling worthless as they are ignored in the world in general.

Come on everyone get a grip.....

If somone comes into the room then have the decency to notice and say hi.

[Fuzzybear]

Being ignored hurts! But, I guess if someone has nothing "nice" to say, its better to say nothing

Not assuming thats whats happening here, I have no clue.

All I am asking is for people to say hi to people when they come in a room ! I dont think thats too much to ask.

[Fuzzybear]

Nope, I completely agree

This July will be a year that I have been going into the chat room I understand how it works, they was already talking to each other and then went quiet not a great hard ship to say hi.

As I have said I have defended the chat room in the past.

Anyway this is not about me its about in general how nice it would be for people to say hi to people entering the chat room, then go about the conversation as normal at least have the decency to reply to an hello from them !

[anna342]

I'm sorry that happened Tish. You gotta remember though, most people will say hi, just a few ruin the reputation of chat. ((((tish))))

[Rissie_and_another]

i agree tish i have often been triggered by no "hello how are you"s from chat.

[Fuzzybear]

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This July will be a year that I have been going into the chat room I understand how it works, they was already talking to each other and then went quiet not a great hard ship to say hi.

As I have said I have defended the chat room in the past.

Anyway this is not about me its about in general how nice it would be for people to say hi to people entering the chat room, then go about the conversation as normal at least have the decency to reply to an hello from them !

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[onlymedid]

I have been put off by chats for that exact reason(only go to DocJohns weekly). I tried to go into a chat room a couple of times, tried to ask a question and got nothing so I gave up.

I agree with you and it really hurts and feels lonely when one goes in and gets nothing in return. How are we to feel ok going to chat?

[Fuzzybear]

It does hurt and feel lonely. Good post ((((((((( BJ ))))))))) (looking for solutions as well as identifying a problem... and not pointing a finger at one person)

[Lenny]

One of the great sins of man...being impolite...

I'm sorry that you have felt the rash of such a burn...

But,,,you have expressed your chagrin and that is all you can do...

And you did it politely

Lenny

I know anna .... lol

I must be in a unforgiving mood lol.

Thank you for all your replys its nice to be supported in this.

[Rissie_and_another]

((((onlymedid)))))know that if you do come to chat again i will always be there with open arms and ears for you and for anyone

[(JD)]

Yes, there is a chat etiquette that everyone needs to learn and perform.

I know some members are slow readers, and some slow typists, and I allow time for that. Then, if there is an active conversation, they could all be reading or typing up a reply (wouldn't matter if fast or slow.)

But yeah, if you are in PM to each other, and that's how you are going to chat, I think it has been suggested that you make a private room. This is especially important if you have chosen to sit in the LOBBY and not reply. Please?

We have new members who instinctively go into the Lobby, and it's much better if no one is there rather than a few members who aren't chatting publicly.

It's a tough call because elapsed time does not show up on a chat copy...

I don't mind if others wish to talk privately, no, not at all. I enjoy it myself at times. But try and remember that you might get into a good conversation and totally exclude others in the chat room.

Peace!

[complic8d]

When I go to DocJohn's chat, I usually don't say "hi" to everyone that comes in. Since there are so many people, if everyone said hi to me, or anyone else as they came in, I think it would be distracting!? I'm sorry if I seemed rude to anyone, but I also don't think, in THAT chat, that all the people (sometimes 20+) should respsond hi back to everyone that comes on. I really don't mean to be rude, but I guess I feel in that chat that it's more important to let Doc answer questions and others ask. (I guess I feel like I shouldn't just pop into the room with a big "hi" when others are conversing, maybe I relate it to real life?)
IDK, this is just my opinion for Doc John's chat.

[(JD)]

(((comlic8d))) good to see you! I think hosted chats are different for sure.

I've found that when I go into the chat room & I basically just go into th main one that you get put into automatically as I'm kind of clueless & don't know how to switch rooms or anything!! But people there have been very polite & say "Hi" & "How are you?"

Sometimes they are in the middle of a deep conversation so I just listen til I understand what they are talking about then if I have anything to ad d will throw in my 2 cents worth. If I don't understand what the topic is, I'll ask what they've been talking about. Sometimes they have been quiet & ask me how things are going & I'll tell about my stuff.

Sometimes I'm obviously "out of place." I have no knowledge or interest in the subjec, the others all now each other & have a relationship going (& I don't feel hurt since I'm not a regular in the chat rooms) so I'll just say something like "I'm afraid I'm ignorant on this topic so I'll head off, but you all have a great day/night. Talk to you soon."

When I first come on & several people are saying "Hi" rather than respond to them all & take up a bunch of time I just say "Hi, All" or Hi, Everyone."--Suzy P.S. What is DocJohn's chat room?

[Blue93]

If you want to enter into a specific room, hold your mouse over 'Chat' and you will see the rooms. Click on the room you wanna go too.

I've never really noticed to much about people not saying hi. Generally not everyone says hi but that is usually because they are multitasking and not looking at the room at that time.

So... I wouldn't for that reason not go to chat... Why miss out on such a great thing (in my opinion anyway) because sometimes people didn't say hi?

I know I usually say hi except for when I was distracted or something. I know most people do this.

The only thing that really annoyed me a couple of times is of people logging into the lobby, saying nothing and then immedeatly going to the most busy room, like support.
That kinda annoyed me especially when I said hi and got nothing back. But i generally shrug my shoulders and think ooookkk... whatevs.

I do wanna take the opportunity to ask people to please not crowd the support room? It's not social or lobby and lots of people who need help cant get it that way, because they feel that it is to crowded for example.

Just my opinion.

Blue

[(JD)]

The Auditorium is where the hosted chats are held.
I think it would be good to welcome those who enter the hosted chats, if it's already engaged, is by PM. Why not?

I agree also that there is a tendency to crowd the support room. IF the support room already has members in it, and you need support, create your own support room... just don't put a password on it and name it so others know you want support (as opposed to waiting for a specific friend to chat with.)

If you don't know how, ask... or go into an empty room and play with the options! (Click on all buttons)

TC!

[Brian37]

wow....we have chat room?

[seeker1950]

LOL, Brian
I have come to the conclusion that I'm just not good at chat. I've been going in a few times lately, and people are polite, and acknowledge my presence, but are usually already in another conversation and I just listen mostly.
Sometimes people really ARE discussing some deep problem, and if I can offer insights, I do, but for the most part, chat, for me at least, is a place for casual conversation, and I don't seem to be good at joining in. This isn't a bad thing, nor do I feel ignored, but there does seem to be a lack of substance in it, and I have nothing to offer. I am thinking it's an age thing also. And what's the point!?
Patty

[Blue93]

it takes time and to get used to chat and feel comfortable there. When I first entered i didnt either. But i kept going and got to know people and made some friends...
But that takes time and effort
and not everyone is willing to do that and thats ok...

[I_WMD]

Good thread ,, and Great info and advice ,, Sometimes chat takes ya away from your comfort zone ,, But in time It works within Room Description >> i.e. ,,,>>>.. Support ,, 21 room Or Social ,,,ect...

Those that have a reluctance to make contact >>> or are Just quiet ,,, ,,,,, Come in and Maybe ,,, A mountain in RL will be easier to Navigate ...

[(JD)]

Absolutely come in! I know one member here who sat and "lurked" for maybe a year or more... and then only began making small talk through chat PM... that isn't what we were discussing I think...

It's not even greeting someone when they come into the chat room.

But certainly you can say Hi! There are smileys in the chat room too... click on the smiley face at the bottom of the text window...and choose one, then hit send. I'll take that for a hello!