Chat Room

Also, it is absolutely ok to come into chat and just say something like "Hi, I dont really feel like chatting but just wanted to sit and watch for some company" or something like that. Ive seen people do this

I agree that it's not all that hard to say hi to people entering the room. Even in the middle of the conversation, I can't even imagine not responding if someone comes in and says hi. The only thing I can think of is that they must have had the PM box maximized.

(((((Tishie))))) When I first started going into the chat room you were the friendliest person I met.

Hi tish!

Also remember that some of us are generally quiet (See: myself) but usually if I don't say hi its because I have multiple windows open and am browsing something else on the internet. A lot of people don't use the away button either when they go afk which makes things difficult. I think the chat is generally good though, takes some getting used to but I always say hi whenever I can

-Sig

Thank you everyone for your replys, hopefully now it will be as it should be ......

I know some people are busy doing other things thats fine, I know some people are shy that too is fine its just to say hi to a room full of people who are talking IN the room at the time and to be totaly ignored is not a nice feeling for me who is thick skinned so I was/am concerned about the poor people with low self esteem, newbies etc.

(((((((Tishie))))))))) this too has happened to me recently on more than one occassion. They are talking as you enter and then silence. I have even gone so far as to carry on a conversation with myself there to let them know I feel ignored or unwanted.....still nothing. I agree, a hello isn't that much to ask for. If the people in the room are talking about something they would rather I not be there to hear, I would rather they ask me politely to go to another room or let me know they are discussing something they ren't comfortable sharing with me. Because I can see that they were talking on the screen as I entered the room. Say something for pete sake! That would be perfectly fine with me. And much easier to accept than the cold shoulder approach a few seem to use to get people to leave.

I was in the chat room this morning for the 1st time in a long time, it was nice. Everyone was cordial, and I was not ignored. Sometimes, I think it would be hard cuz I'm one of the old fuddy duddys' but everyone makes you feel at home!

Dee

you left too soon!

I do not mean to say or sound as though I am saying chat is alltogether a bad thing. I have had many wonderful times in the chats. I was just agreeing that it is the polite thing to do to acknowledge people that come in the room by returning their hello.

Chat is a wonderful tool that I love to use. We just all need to make sure we don't make people feel badly by ignoring them.

Had I known you are such a hunka chunka burnin' love, I mighta stuck around

Chat in and of itself can be a tricky place to be at times. Since this is a mental health site, there are many folks here who are tender and it can be hard when it seems that folks are ignoring them.

There are many reasons why this can happen. Many reasons that we can be unaware of and it's hard not to jump to a conclusion as to why there is no comment back from some folks.

Getting everyone in chat on the same page is probably not going to happen...I think we have to be realistic here. Yes, common courtesy is a good thing....I'm all for it. But not everyone is going to agree, or going to be in "that place" at any given time.

All any of us can do is the best we can do at any given time. I know that at times its hard not to take something personally when we walk into an ongoing chat and then there is silence. It can be difficult to jump in and say hello for some folks, for other's it's more easily done and some have better communication skills than others do. I think it's very important to do our best to not take things personally if at all possible.

If anyone becomes upset with being ignored or left out, one can always jump to the Support Room and wait for someone to come in to talk to them and help out. I do know that flying off the handle and getting angry and lashing out certainly makes things more difficult than it does to help solve the problem Positive communication is always the key!


sabby