Please help me; I am begging for help

My mom just called. My dad was just taken to the UofA hospital by ambulance.

He has not been feeling well, and my parents did not say a word to anyone. My dad has been in the hospital and was released. He had to go back today from severe pain in his chest. They found blood clots heading to his heart.

The fear in my mom's voice; oh God. Help me with this please. I just need someone to talk too.

Justy

If you're still on-line, I'm here. I wish I could get in the chat, but, no, this compy doesn't allow chat.

I am trying to get myself together here. I phoned my kids dad to see if he can arrange to take them for a few days. I need to go to my parents.

Anger has hit so hard, not that this will help any. Why the hell did this have to happen now? My mom is going in for this new treatment, they just sold there home, just moved, now this. The stress they must be under.

I have issues with my dad, but I still love him. I am one that tries to forgive, which is hard. But I can't stand them being put through all of this. How much can they endure?

As much as my mom tried to tell me whats going on, as hard as she fought the tears, she just fell apart. I wanted to jump through the phone and hold her. They are in finanical difficulties, they are so worried about whats going to come. They are not even recovered from her last treatments. Now she is driving two hours by herself to get to my dad. Poor thing.

I am only an hour and a half away from where they took my dad. Its finding child care for the kids. I want to scream.

Justy

Thanks Kayleigh. Sorry, I panicked. I am trying to soak this in. I am shocked thats all.

Just trying to figure out what to do here. I can't just leave. I got a call this morning as well. My son made some serious allegations towards someone and we are not sure if its true. Now they are looking at suspending him. GRRRRR. This is too much at once.

I am okay, just freaked out. I was not expecting this at all. My dad is in good hands. I can't stop this from happening. I really want to be there for my parents. This just sucks!!!!!!!

Justy

You're allowed to panic. It seems like you've had a really rough time lately... maybe (hopefully) some day soon you'll finally be able to take it easy for a little while. Even if it is only for a little while. I really hope everything works out okay. We're all here for you anytime you need anything, okay?

I am just going home from work......my computer is screwed up at home, so I can't be online from there......I'll keep you and your dad and mom in my heart all evening...okay? xoxox Pat

Oh man u all. Thanks so much. I had some help in chat. Feeling a better, thinking clearly now.

I am going to call the hospital to see if I can get any info on how my dad is doing. I will be on later if I am still here. If I can arrange to go, then I will. I will let u know either way.

Thank you sooooooooo much. You are great. Thanks Silver, Leslie, and Down for talking to me in chat. Made a huge difference.

Justy

(((((Justy))))) I don't know what to say except I love ya, and I'm listening.

*huge safe hugs* Hang in there, and vent all you need to sweetie

Love,
Angela

Thanks Angela.

Well, my dad had a heart attack. He is at the hospital and they don't have much information for me at this time.

So I am not sure what they are doing or how he is. The nurse I spoke with would not say much. I asked when I can call back to get some answers. He was pretty friendly but something is bugging me now. He started to say something, then paused. I heard someone's voice in the background but couldn't make it out. He said to call back in a couple of hours.

So I shall wait and see. My mom should be arriving soon. I don't want to call her on her cell while she is on the highway. She won't know anything anyway. I will let u all know.....

Justy

((((((((((Justy))))))))))) my thoughts are with you & your family

Justy 123847629;
You're in my prayers; let me know if you need a friend.
Blessings,
Jon

((((Nerak and Jon)))); thanks very much.

Ha, I miss that Justy125232455. You always made me giggle.

I do need friends but you are already here. You are all my dear friends and I am grateful. Thanks for the prayers and well wishes. Do you see how wonderful you all are??

Justy

Justy, hang in there, you will get through it and you are strong enough. I am sorry it's falling apart in all directions right now. Any way you can just take your kids and go to mom's? School is not the b all and end all and they can bring work with them. Here, in the states we get so locked into the regimine of school and work and it is not written in stone. Family comes first, whomever you deem those people to be. Also, my FIL has had three heart attacks and has managed well with proper treatment. So while it is scarey maybe it is better then your fear. Take a deep breath, let it out, drink some warm herb tea and tell us what's happening with dad and son. I wish you peace.

Justy darling;
I just looked in the mirror, and I did see how wonderful I am.

HA HA!

I'm so glad I can make you giggle.
You're a real sweetie.
Take Care,
Jon

I hate mirrors. They usually make me cry

((((((((((Justy))))))))) parents are like that EVERYONE I know who's parent had a problem... were NOT told until sometimes weeks after.. go figure. Of course it must have been the stress that finally made this happen, but it's a lifetime of wear too...

it's always tough when a parent gets ill... we can't help But react!

One foot in front of the other. Someone will help you...

((((((((((((justy))))))))))))))))))) So sorry about your dad. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care of yourself. Big hugs.

Hi everyone. Thanks again. Had some giggles and some tears. See I told ya, you are wonderful.

I hate mirrors too; lolol. No really I feel for u Kayleigh, I have this issue as well.

Okay, mom called. They are testing dad as we speak. He has a blockage of some sort. Mom said depending on what they find it could be a simple surgery or open heart surgery. Not very many answers is it. But it takes time for them to figure this out. My dad's doctor is really good I hear. She said he is in the best place and they will get to the bottom of this. There are obvious complications with his heart, just need to find out why.

Mom said she is going to the hotel soon. She was in so much pain she was crying. She feels so guilty. I told her its not her fault. Her cancer is in her back and spine; of course she is in pain. She refused to take any pain killers to be able to be with dad. Just breaking my damn heart. I am sorry all, I can't help but be angry. Sad and angry. She sounds horrible. I am glad she made it there okay and is with my dad. But I hate to see her in so much pain.

We are leaving in the morning. I am taking the kids with. Their dad said he can't help out. So fine, they are coming too. Want to hear this one; its my dad's birthday tomorrow. I feel bad for them. Too much to deal with. I am worried about them. Should we go?? Maybe he does not want us there right now. I am just unsure but just can't sit here. We are planning to leave at about 9am. I will let u all know. Sorry for the anger and silliness. I need to let this out. I want to swear but can't; lol. Not like it will help.

Justy

{{{{{{{Justy}}}}}}}}}

I'm glad that you are going to go, and take the kids too. I get the impression that your children are well-mannered and will not be a lot of trouble. Of course, do remember to take the children out and get lots of breaks for you and for them. Waiting around a hospital isn't a lot of fun. I'm sure you know to take things for them to do.

Take care! And hope and best wishes to your dad and mom and whole family.

Love,
Rap

I sure will my dear friends. They do need to come as well. This is hard on them just the same.

My kids are good. My son is a hand ful at times but I think he will behave himself.

I had mentioned about the school phoning with an issue. It was solved. My son did see what he did, but it was not him invovled; it was a different child. My son said it was him because he did not want to get someone else in trouble. So they are proud of him for speaking up as this incident was not too good. I am proud of him too. We talked about it and he feels much better about things. He is a sweetie, very kind hearted young boy.

So I am not worried about the kids not being good. We will give them tons of breaks. I will take them for ice cream; that will help; lolol. We are going to get my dad a bday card and something to help cheer him up. I am taking their school pictures so he can have them with when we do have to go.

I will let u all know..... thanks for ur caring, you all touch my heart in so many ways.

Justy

Sorry, just talking about my son and made me wonder if I had told all of u about his up coming specialist appointment.

I think I did; lolol. He is finally getting into see a neurologist. Finally figure out these migraines and headaches. This is a relief. Maybe he can finally living a healthy normal life for a 8 yr old little boy.

Justy

Just wanting to let u know that we are leaving in an half of an hour. I slept in a little. I could not help it; so tired.

So I will come on when we get back. Thanks everyone.

Have a good day all!!!

Justy

Hope it goes well for you & your son today Justy. Please let us know how it went!

((Justy))

I hope all went well. I'm sure you're dad will be glad to see you and the kids. I'm thinking about you! We'll all be here when you get back!

Rayna

From one who worked in a hospital......don't read something into what the nurse did. They are so rushed and so overworked that there is no telling what was going on in background. Perhaps he saw his doctor go in to see him and knew he'd have more news later....just don't project......xoxoxo Pat