[Karissa258]

Does anyone have resistance to feeling their feelings? I know I do, and it's causing me some trouble. I know I need to feel them, but they're overwhelming and unpleasant, and I'm afraid that if I go ahead and feel them, that they won't ever stop. Anyone else feel the same way about theirs? Any suggestions?

[Tracy1980]

Yes, I also have a difficult time sometimes feelings my feelings, especially the painful ones. For example, I recently had to feel my feelings of hurt and rejection when this guy that I liked did not reciprocate feelings back to me. As much as I did not want to confront these feelings, I was able to. In time, they became easier to feel, and I feel that I have moved that much closer to moving on from this person as a result.

[pachyderm]

I think not really feeling your feelings is very common for people here. Take a look at the Psychotherapy forum, for instance.

[Angel_of_the_Past]

I am sooo very numb right now from all that has happened. I think I've lost my ability to feel anything except fear and pain. My T thinks I haven't lost my ability to feel, I've just put them away for safe keeping.

[Karissa258]

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Tracy1980 said:
Yes, I also have a difficult time sometimes feelings my feelings, especially the painful ones. For example, I recently had to feel my feelings of hurt and rejection when this guy that I liked did not reciprocate feelings back to me. As much as I did not want to confront these feelings, I was able to. In time, they became easier to feel, and I feel that I have moved that much closer to moving on from this person as a result.

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Thanks Tracy. Sometimes I think maybe if I just go ahead and get it over with and feel them, then they won't be overwhelming anymore, or that I'll get somewhere if I do. Thanks. I'm glad it helped you in getting over that guy.

[Karissa258]

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pachyderm said:
I think not really feeling your feelings is very common for people here. Take a look at the Psychotherapy forum, for instance.

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Ok, I'll do that. Thanks. At least it's good to know I'm in good company. What do you do to handle your feelings?

[Karissa258]

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Angel_of_the_Past said:
I am sooo very numb right now from all that has happened. I think I've lost my ability to feel anything except fear and pain. My T thinks I haven't lost my ability to feel, I've just put them away for safe keeping.

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Maybe sometimes it's ok to not feel them, to wait a bit until you can handle them better. I'm sorry that you're hurting. You can PM me if you want to talk.

[pachyderm]

> What do you do to handle your feelings?

Just TRY to watch them and examine them and see if I can understand more about where they come from. It is not easy at first but becomes somewhat easier with time. You learn to modulate them so they don't hit you full strength. The thing that does not work permanently is to suppress them or avoid them, although you can do that temporarily if you need to. Very difficult because I, at least, have avoided them for many years and avoiding became so automatic I didn't know it was happening. Now I am aware of it.

[Karissa258]

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pachyderm said:
> What do you do to handle your feelings?

Just TRY to watch them and examine them and see if I can understand more about where they come from. It is not easy at first but becomes somewhat easier with time. You learn to modulate them so they don't hit you full strength. The thing that does not work permanently is to suppress them or avoid them, although you can do that temporarily if you need to. Very difficult because I, at least, have avoided them for many years and avoiding became so automatic I didn't know it was happening. Now I am aware of it.

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Thanks pachyderm. I've stuffed countless feelings for a pretty long time. Finally, finally, hopefully, I'm learning to deal with them properly. I'd love to learn how to modulate them, that would be fantastic. I'd love to not be afraid of them anymore.

[Junerain]

Thank you Pachyderm for how you cope with strong feelings..

.........................modulate them so they don't hit you full strength......

Thank you thank you thank you I am going to try a little modulating, especially while I'm studying to be a nurse...I'm going to have to stay objective, especially while we study mental illness.......

[In_The_Darkness]

I definitely get that. Except a felt my feelings for one second and I'm prone to them. Everyday I wake up, and I feel my feelings -- and my feelings, of which I feel everyday...lead to more feelings (including guilt and rage,) because of what I do to try and stop myself from feeling my feelings.

I know what you mean. If I had one chance to go back - I'd never even think of feeling my feelings...then again - Im too weak to stop myself

[Karissa258]

Junerain,

I know, I feel the same way about his post. I'd love to learn how to modulate them, so I don't have to suffer them full-strength when I feel them. Good luck with nurse training, what a wonderful profession.

[Karissa258]

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mikkyhill said:
I definitely get that. Except a felt my feelings for one second and I'm prone to them. Everyday I wake up, and I feel my feelings -- and my feelings, of which I feel everyday...lead to more feelings (including guilt and rage,) because of what I do to try and stop myself from feeling my feelings.

I know what you mean. If I had one chance to go back - I'd never even think of feeling my feelings...then again - Im too weak to stop myself

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Hi, nice to see you! And always nice to hear that someone understands. At least you're in touch with yours - I'm in a good place, but sometimes I think a bit numb to them...I'd like to not be afraid of them, and of myself.