What should I do? I'm going to fail.

I'm taking organic chem III. I did really well with my first midterm. I got 97%. But then something went wrong and I got 50% on my second midterm.

My pdoc also reduced my med Risperdal because I did really well. But I got unstable. I was in crisis for a long time and I didn't study at all. I think the combo of the meds decrease and the bad midterm mark just made me break down.

I'm back on the regular dose now and I'm no longer in crisis, but I'm really really behind and I don't think I can pass my class.

I feel trapped.

I'm only taking this one class.

I'm having a lot of anxiety right now and procrastinating. I can't make myself study, mostly because I don't think I'd pass.

Is it possible to drop a class after the drop date?

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Can you get some extra help from like a tutor or even someone that does well in that class? I think having a study partner would be a good idea, you would be getting feedback from someone other than yourself because it sounds like you are being very hard on yourself. Are you trying relaxation techniques?
I wish the best of luck.

if a doctor will give you a letter saying you need to withdraw or take an incomplete for medical reasons, then you should be able to do so. talk to your doc, the counseling department and your prof. you don't have to get specific, just that it's a medical reason.

I think I need to do that. I am having a ton of anxiety right now I've tried to study and I can't. Even though my exam is not until the 20th, I feel totally overwhelmed right now. That crisis made me get behind a lot.

I'm totally stressing out right now. I feel like puking.

just try to breathe, and look into it. it's a huge relief to take an incomplete, or even a medical withdrawal. it'll work out.

at our school officially undergraduates can only get an incomplete if they get sick or have an emergency after the withdrawal date. (it tends to be more flexible for grad students). but my guess is that it would vary with the strictness of the instructor.

even if you get an F, honestly, it's not the end of the world. you'll take it again, and you'll do better next time. My husband failed a whole semester because his girlfriend left him, and years later I failed a class because I met my husband. on my transcript it said that i had repeated the class, but only the later grade counted in the GPA. husband is a college professor now.

later in life you will be astounded at how little grades matter and how many other people have screwed up in that area.

In the past I've done really terrible things. I've just skipped exams or I would OD. I'm not going to OD this time. It just makes things 100 times worse.

I am just so anxious right now. I can't face this. I want time to stop.

Hi Green. I totally agree with e-sort - if you fail or withdraw from this paper it really isn't the end of the world. I know how it is when you're right in the middle of it and this thing is hanging over your head though - it really feels like This Is It; if i don't pass this it is The End.

But, you know... it isn't. If you fail a paper, life goes on, and you either do it again at a later date or you don't. But life goes on.

Like you, I have skipped major exams before because I simply couldn't face them (I think a part of us when to the beach and made a hut during our final high school exams ) and at other times the overwhelming fear of failure has led to very self-destructive behaviors including su attempts. ANYWAY, the thing is, I can relate to what you're experiencing right now and if it is too much and you really just can't face it, it is OK to make a different choice. It's OK to say... I'll finish this paper some other time, when I am in a more stable place, when it doesn't place such enormous stress on me to complete it... Your health really must come first.

Seriously... if it is too much, let it go. To withdraw now would probably mean the loss of fees and the loss of a successful pass for now, but would instantly relieve the stress you are under because of your current inability to study.

It's ok to do that if you have to. Really. Your mental and emotional health is far to precious to sacrifice for a chem paper.

Yeah, I know rationally it's not the end of the world. It just feels that way to me. I just feel like such a failure right now.

My pdoc is going to be very disappointed in me. I've gone back to old ways of coping, avoiding things.

I hate this.

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I don't think that your pdoc should be disappointed with you at all, you have been giving this a try and it sounds like it is in your best interest to drop this class or just fail it. You are so overwhelmed, sometimes it is the best thing to withdraw, sometimes self protections is the best option. Several times I have gone into my T session thinking that she would be disappointed about a decision that I made. Instead I usually get congratulated on recognizing what was the best option for me and practicing good self care. Don't worry you can take this class again and do a lot better next time, several very sucessful people have "failed" at some point before they reach greatness.

Green, I don't find you to be a failure at all. You are not the first person to need some accommodation for a class, and you won't be the last.

Talk to your prof and or the guidance counselor or your advisor. Explain the situation, and ask for a do-over and for more time. There's no reason why they won't work with you on this, especially with the economic crisis. They want to keep every student they can. ((((hug)))

Thanks for the support. I feel a bit better, not a lot, but a bit. I have to go to work now, I'll reply more tonight.

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Been in the same situation...

What you need to do is this: talk to a doctor, get a note deferring the final exam if that's what will help. Talk to your prof, explain the situation and ask for an extension on things...

If that fails, you can drop a class after the dropdate has passed, but I think it appears to be negative on your transcript. But it's an option you shouldn't consider until you've looked into the other two things.

I would find someone I could help tutor me? and/or I'd look at how all the other people are doing. My stepsister was taking chemistry and had a test coming up and my husband tutored her for like 5 hours and she still felt horrible and like she didn't know anything but she got a B on the test. Seems everyone felt the same way. Could be other students are doing as poorly.

I'm glad you're "worrying" about this now while there's still time. I'd see if I could find a tutor or a workbook or go talk to the professor and explain you've been ill and missed and ask his advice catching up, etc.?

Green,

It takes awhile to change our patterns, so please be easier on yourself.

Do not beat yourself up, My Friend.

There must be a good way to work this out between having a tutor, note-taker, whatever is available to you through the schools 'disability' center, I think it is... I hope no matter what, you continue to find the support you need.

You aren't a quitter. Your Green, and you can get through this.

Love, night xoxo
Seasons Greetings Dear Green ~ Feel Peace, ok

Hi Greensleves,

Its worth doing it all . call your Doc for the note. And get a toutor. I had to do that many times. Take many drops and incompletes. I know how you feel . It was difficult for me know my teachers knew or what they were being told by whom and what. Looking through fresh eyes as to why papers and presentations were so difficult for me . Thoughts, fears all cascading on one another. My mind feeling like I had so many irons in the fire there was no room for any wood. Get yourself some more room .

The pressure will lift and your focous return.

Aurora

I saw pdoc today. I know she will not write me a note. She says I need to face this and get studying.

I feel a bit more confident right now. I'm going to try to study.

She told me to write down a list of things I should study. She also bumped up my Risperdal. I said I've been feeling nauseous, lots of dry heaving. I wasn't sure if it was anxiety or if it was physical.

Ugh, i'm stressed. There is also a bus strike here.

I'm going to study now.