furious

I am so damn mad right now. I hate my dog. I want him put to sleep. He attacked my neice in the face. she is 18. He bit her bad. she was just trying to put him in the house. he bit her all over her face and actually bit her tooth out of her mouth. I tried to hand him over to animal control and the police. I wanted him put to sleep. My husband got mad at me. called me a f...ing .b and said he would get rid of me first. in front of the cops and everyone. he acted like it my neices fault. we arqued. I left, at my daughters house. you all dont know the chaos I live in. no one ever understands too. leave they say. not as easy as said. you wouldnt understand. Im just mad as all hell and dontknow what to do rightnow. it sucks.

OMG, that's horrible!!! Did your niece get medical attention? Is she going to need plastic surgery? What kind of dog is it? Did animal control come? I know where I live they will atleast temporarily quarentine the animal until they investigate & the animal owner doesn't get a choice...

I had a dog that was a husky/chow mix. He was a great dog for years. He had a sore on his back that we didn't notice right away & a neighbor kid touched it & he turned around & nipped the kid in the face...just missing his eye...he was quarentined & treated for the sore....

He went on for many more years...as he got older he started having more pain in his legs...

My daughter Lily was 3. She walked by him...not touching him or nothing...I saw the whole thing...he went from a sleeping position to having a hold of her whole face before I could even jump off the couch.
He had his bottom jaws on her right cheek & his top jaws on her jugular
He let go almost as quick as he bit her but I had to have him put down at that point...it sucked but I had to have him put to sleep after that...
Lily fortunately only needed a few stitches & has a small scar but is ok.
She doesn't show any fear of animals from it either since then but it scared the crap out of me.

Also my oldest daughter was attacked by a neighbors dog awhen she was in 2nd or 3rd grade when she was walking to her bus stop...
They reacted alot like your husband did actually blaming our daughter even though their dog jumped their fense & attacked her at her bus stopped.

We have alot of pit fighting that goes on around here. I love animals but I hate having these in our neighborhood...

As for your husband...tell him to take his dang dog & shove it up his back side if that's how little respect he's going to show you, he's not worth the oxygen he's taking up

((((((((bear)))))))) i'm sorry. being in a safe place is important. i hope your niece will be ok. tc.

(((((((((((((((( bigbear )))))))))))))))))))))
I am sending some hugs for you and your family.

Its really upsetting. I spent the night at my daughters. Imgoing home soon, but Im very upset

I aprreciate that. hugs back at ya

Thanks...safe place? whats that
my life is turmoil and chaos. how much can one person take?

Such a terrible thing to happen! But I'm equally concerned that you feel so trapped living there. That is no way to live, and no one is required to live that way. Why do you think you allow his desires to override your own? Why is he allowed to act like he does and get "away" with it when you aren't allowed to make such an adult decision? Why isn't there balance and love in this relationship, do you know?

You don't have to answer...but don't you find it ironic that you were able to advocate for safety because of your niece, about the dog, and yet you haven't even done that for yourself?

What kind of support do you want, and need, to change your terrible situation? PC is here for you.

Thats just awful bear. I agree with lion tell your husband to stick that dog up his butt and leave. He'll see that havin a wife is better than having a vicious dog. If not then divorce him. He aint worth it. Like you said easier said than done. But you have to do what you think is best for you.

I can't imagine that if that dog did that kind of damage to your neice that he was not taken away by the police/animal control??!!!! That's mandatory when a dog bites someone.

If you want options about getting out of the situation you are in with an abusive husband, I would contact your local woman's shelter. Tell them what's going on. They should be able to help you with resouces to get out of there. Good luck.

Thats horrid. Can you call animal control from outside your home and anonymously report the dog? Otherwise I guess its just a matter of time until the dog hurts someone else. I feel bad for the dog - but I feel horrible for you. Your husband sounds like a jerk. I'd say you'd have better luck going to the police and reporting your side of things. If your niece had medical attention, perhaps that might be an avenue to have the dog put down?? To check for rabies or other possible medical reasons for its mood? Otherwise... dropping it off at a vet would be another suggestion.

As for the husband? If he's acted like this for a long time without changing - maybe you should consider some time apart? Trial separation?

Yeah, I think Pom's right on here. I'm assuming it was probably Geo from your photo album. It's ashame, cute dog. It doesn't have lock jaws thank goddess it could have been even worse. It doesn't look like a breed that is predisposed to aggressive behavior, although I admittedly can't tell exactly what breed it is by looking at it. I'm assuming just from the vibe of your initial post that this dog has been like this for a while. That along with the disgusting way your husband spoke to you in front of people leads me to be conserned that he's not only verbally abusive but also physically. A lot of batterers also beat animals, which would lead to that sort of behavior....If that's whats going on get a hold of a shelter just like Pom said...you don't deserve that

Sky,
Ive been trapped inside myself all my life, I am working on it. Its hard.
Bear

Everything is confusing, I dont know what Im doing yet

It was Geo, and its sad, he keeps trying to cuddle up to me. I cant. but I feel bad because he is in love with me the most and always trys to sit on my lap as big as he is. I cant believe this happened. Im confused right now

(((Big Bear))) I've posted many times about the bad experiences we've had with dogs. I'm an animal lover myself, but the one thing I will NOT tolerate is an unsafe dog. Fortunately my husband is in complete agreement with me... although not all of his family agreed with me.

A few years after my daughter was severely mauled (and still bears the scares today although she's still a beautiful young woman it is a constant reminder of that horrible day. Her ear was shredded and tore partially from her head and still pains her in the winter to this day) our nephew was bitten in the face by my sister in law's dog. He was about 3 at the time and the dog nearly took his eye out. Oddly both of these things took place at my father-in-laws house.

I do not recall how I happened to arrive for the holidays before he did, but I came shortly after it happened while they were waiting for the ambulance. Hubby called to say he'd be there in a half an hour or so and I filled him in on what was going on. My husband is a very blunt man that does not have a filter on what comes out of his mouth. He stated in no uncertain terms that his sister and roommate were responsible for the dog's actions. The dog was old and "snappy" but they knowingly brought him into a situation where there were no fewer than 15 young children running around. Which caused a huge arguement between him and his father.

My Aunt's dog bit my youngest twin twice, once in the face very near his eye too. Her son was/is the animal control officer in that county. He was present for the second bite and was very upset to learn that the dog had been biting for some time. He had planned to put the dog down but his mother (my Aunt) and his daughters were freaking out, not because my child was bleeding but because the dog had belonged to my uncle that has recently passed away and they couldn't lose her too. Had my uncle been alive the dog would have been put down as soon as it bit someone the first time.

Some people just don't get it. I love my animals almost as much as I love my own children. In some ways I am closer to them than any other living thing on the planet. They are bundles of love. But as with children, owning pets comes with a huge responsibility.

But as Sky mentioned I am more concerned about you. What a horrible thing to go through then to have it compounded by your husband's attitude. I can only say that I am truly sorry you're going through this. Out of curiousity, how did the police respond to this?

((((((((BigBear))))))))

Sending love and hugs and hand-holding to you as you figure this stuff out....

I know it's not easy.

Seems like you eyes are opening wider too, and you do not like the view.

All the same, I am sending beautiful thoughts your way for the peaceful life you dream of...

Love and Support,
Night
xoxoxoxo

p.s. lots of good advice on this thread ... xoxoxo