whats your response?

I went wondering in the cyber world out there, and I tried to join this forum for schizoids............. and this was the invitation letter I got. Thought I'd bring it to the gang back home..... I'd love to know your initial response to this... everyone, but particualarly: Justice, Fnordian, voN. ??

I'll tell you mine after .............??

<font color="blue"> Dear Prospective Member

Thank you for your application

We value your application and look forward to you joining our group

We provide very valuable information about healing from SPD

We only invite those serious about healing who will make a contribution to other members healing journey

We do not take silent lurkers

To prove you are serious about healing we require a 7,500 word essay on your life experiences and how they have led to you disorder:

- what did others say, do, feel and think
- what did you say, do, feel and think
- what beliefs did you form about the social world and how to fulfil your desires

You may wish to refer to www.Coping.Org for assistance in writing your therapeutic autobiography.

I look forward to receiving your 7,500 word therapeutic autobiography at suavemontecrsto@yahoo.com

I look foward to welcoming you to our support group
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I'm stunned.

The "serious about healing" idea is good.

But the "essay"?

my initial response to a 7500 word essay requirement would be...

"go $&%* yourself."

after thinking about it for a bit, my considered response to a 7500 word essay requirement would be...

"go $&%* yourself."

i am with you FS

I tried to join a similar group on Yahoo for VoNPD's, Thought I'd be a perfect fit. After writing a bried description of why I thought I'd be a good candidate...and waiting 2 months for a reply... I was DENIED. No explanation, just "Not accepted".

My inital gut feeling is that this is some sort of scam, and some person on the other end is collecting information to 'use'. But that might just be my paranoia kicking in.

I'd say "go F^%*$*$ yerself" is an appropriate response, River.

A

Hi RiverX,

I agree with everyone else-- who needs to be in a group that is going to be so judgemental?
They act like they are so elite like one is applying to Harvard or Cambridge!

Sorry that group seems so harsh-- I know you've been looking for some support.
BTW(by the way)-- a PM going your way.

take care,
mandy

Thanks everybody, I loved the ((((((((((responses))))))))))))))
they gave me an inner smile to go. and fnordian was a definite LOL.
I did get triggerd by it.
I think he was an N. ('he'?). What he did was made himself the frame of reference for weather you
sincerely want to recover. So, in other words, whatever genuine real self motivation one might have had about recovery, he was setting himself up as judge of it, in other words, 'appropriating', what is naturally yours, which is what Ns do, so it would no longer be about your recovery, but about his approval,... there it is.... 'its all about me' And also the essay, sets u;p the 'slave-master relationship', he gets the schizoid 'doing his bidding', uughhhh! he gets to feel the authority and in power.

Well when I read that, I watched myself go into my pd response, I wanted to climb the wall and stirr up trouble, rescue those poor fools who had got in there, - if they were alive. And also I got that wierd physical response that i do to hidden agendas. But I just watched myself do it, and it was only slight, and there was no way I was really about to get tangled up with this.
It was nice to share it here instead.
thanks for contributing all your sanity here.

river

River, i continue to be impressed with the quality of your insights. Also, your ability to check things out with others and get feedback to help back up what you think that you know. That guy does sound really controlling, which can be attractive to others who have personality disorders (especially dependent). He's setting himself up to play master or God or whatever to a following of vulnerable people. I'm glad you didn't fall for it.

Thank you Rapunzel. It is really, helpful to me, to recieve affirmation. I havent been successful in my life, although I talk sometimes in a cavalier way about the disorder, I know it has corroded every aspect of my life. It would be a long story to go into here.
So, when I discovered the understanding, first, Sam Vaknin, then Masterson + co, I didnt stop reading, and stil havent stopped. Its like with 'the determination of a drowning man', because, I am drowning. I know it sounds dramatic, but theres truth.
So, when I get recognition for my truth, it is like a help to build my life raft. Its the recognition of my reality that, like so many of us I didnt get in formative years. My mum was N. ish, and me and my sisters were products of her fantasy world, we were actors with which she aimed to trample on anything 'ordinary' aka real, which she forever tried to get out of. There were 3 of us girls, we split into the 3 disorders that I have read about: borderline, narcissist, and me exile, (aka schiziod). But I was in recovery for many years when I came accross this understanding, maybe thats why I have learnt to connect in someways and i dont always seem like the classic schiz. But if you knew how much time I spent alone and how much in fantasy conversations, you'd probably recongise more of the classic type of behaviour. Even my deeply emotional response to here, PC, is schizish because I have invested emotionally here whilst not haveing such intense emotional relationships IRL.

Thank you for listening, and giving me the opportunity to pour all this out.

yeah - my first thoughts were Oh My God. That's nuts. "No silent lurkers" - no one has the right to force people to talk. And that essay! I have to write shorter things for grad school!

There's an idea, Kiya, maybe it's a psych grad student wanting others to write his/her papers! LOL.

I think also that you did well to double check yourself on this one! I don't know anyone who would open themselves up to that kind of a group without knowing them. That supposition includes ppl who have no mental health issues. Why would a virtual reality community need to know so much about you to begin with? Perhaps it is not your issues of paranoia that caused you to (properly I think) pause, but [i]theirs?