Does anyone else with BPD have this trait?

What I mean by everything is a crisis, is that when something doesn't go your way, in the slightest, it feels like the whole world is crashing in on you and everything is wrong.

[_Hope_]

I was like that but over time I have trained myself out of that trait. one thing that would help it to look at things backward, instead of saying , this happend and it is going to snowball in to this , ask yourself "am I going to die?" "is my life going to change for he worst forever? those kind of things, then when I realized the worst was going to happen I could put tragic events in a reasonable perspective ,

it worked for me , i hope it will for you , I remember how I hated everything in my life being such a drama

good luck
linda

[pachyderm]

Isn't everyone that way?

I think for my mother everything was a moral crisis. And of course I learned that. Now unlearning...

[Direction]

Yes I have this...

[500Birch]

Since the diagnosis with BPD I have found such relief and understanding and compassion for the parts of myself that fly into rages and scream inside and feel as if things often are in crisis. Just recently I've been looking outside of myself instead of living in the craziness of it all and it helps. Yesterday at work I lost it and broke one of the bathroom doors-oops I couldn't believe my strength and no one saw me do it.-I have some guilt there. I have a new boss and it is very difficult to deal with. She chastised me during a group meeting when she could have done it individually. I sent her an e-mail asking to sit down with her to see what her expecations are going to be. Her behavior changed for the positive today and that really helps take the stress away. I'm thinking the crisis we go through are exaggerated and repetitve in our minds at least my mind and I'm slowly learning to deal with it-broken doors and all! Thanks, Birch

[AlteredState01]

Yup.

[SweetCrusader]

Yes! And it makes me feel weak, and sometimes like I'm crazy

[Fuzzybear]

I've avoided posting here, but I also have to say yes.

[starfishblue]

Yes, me too. I am better recognizing this behavior now, so sometimes I can catch myself before going over the edge - and sometimes I can't.

thanks everyone for your responses. Maybe we can brainstorm what we can do to prevent things from becoming a crisis. What are your ideas?

[starfishblue]

2 things I do when I am in crisis mode - well, 3.

first, I realize I am in crisis
2nd, I stop, take a deep breath and clear my thoughts for 5 mins - not allowed to think about the crisis issue for 5 mins.
3rd - I figure out the very best outcome and the very worst outcome. Then I ask myself if I can handle either the best or the worst outcome. If the answer is yes to both, I know I can handle anything in between the best and worst. If the answer is no, I talk to someone - T, friend, Psychcentral post - get help. I don't have to go through a crisis alone.

So, that's what I try and do when a crisis hits.

Starfish -

[pachyderm]

I think I, at least, learned crisis thinking as a child, when for me lots was a crisis. The brain is saying it is still a crisis, sending messages and pumping hormones to keep me prepared to act. Only we (I, at least) could not act as a child. The only ways I could figure how to act were prohibited. Now the crisis is over (yes, it mostly really is). How to learn that, in the face of the brain messages telling us it is not? The only thing that seems to be working for me, and that very slowly, is to take a few tentative risks in therapy and other places (such as here), and find out that something is wrong with my thinking. Very slowly I am coming to realize that what I think is happening that requires an immediate response is not happening, at least not the way it seems. Very hard.