Self Worth

Hello to whom is reading,
I have been latelly stuck in my room trying to figure out what and why things happen around me. I have a beautiful girlfriend who lives in a larger house in my neighborhood which has rather larger houses than normal, she was born into a familly with wealth and just the most pefect enviorment. She learned from her parents inspiration to play the piano so graceful and meaning. She is in the highest classes available in my high school getting all a's. She is looking at the finest colleges not worrying about the pricing or concerns for wealth with her fathers income. She has a great personality and also has been smoking weed which i resent and how can someone just be so perfect she is loved cared smart can be succesful has lots of money is gonna be driving a nice new beamer via her father and actually surprisingly has a great familly relationship with her mom brother sister and father. I am stuck at home only in my average courses getting a's and b's worrying about how i am going to pay for college and with my lower class car i feel i have certain attributes to my personality that the biggest bundle of cash could not buy. i am sitting here in tears trying to understand how someone like her is taught and raised to be the most perfect person and has so many great qualitites i dream about a girl like this and relaize the chances of us seeing each other after high school are super thin. i wish i could meet her ten years from now. she wants to grow up being a lawyer and can probably afford and achieve that ogal with ehr smarts. can you please help me try to understand how to handle why i have to struggle through life with a smaller and more satisfied life but i have a hard time pursueing my goals of being a psychaitrisist kinda ironic i am on this website but i have the hardest times understanding ym own emotions. i write down on paper any time i am having a hard time what i can link to my behaviours before i sat and wrote this i wrote down infornt of me.... she has no sign of dissatifaction and loves life, has lots of happiness and lives her life to the fullest. how money affects her personality, what was given at birth and how it will affect her forever, and how her goals can become realistic with the help of the people around her and where are the people around me i have god but he isnt going to help me pay for medical school. i think i have a sense of ignorance which leads to my depression but my emotions seem so strong sometimes i cannot function or get caught listeniong to music for hours and hours without realizing i am. music is my way of transforming my emotions to my desire. Please help i am in need or will listen to any comments or anything thank you

Studies show that, beyond having basic needs met, having more money does not make people happier. There can even be more stress and more pressure to live the perfect life such that it interferes with living and enjoying life and the things that really do make you happy. Comparing ourselves to others just brings dissatisfaction. It isn't easy to learn to manage emotions, especially in high school, but it can be learned. You might try reading "The Feeling Good Handbook" by David Burns, M.D. If you want to be a psychiatrist, the best place to start is to learn about and understand and work on your own feelings. Music is a great tool too. I use music a lot for self-soothing and getting in touch with my feelings. And God might help you find a way to pay for medical school if you ask Him.

Anyone can get into trouble emotionally when they compare himself to another. What are you doing to take care of your depression? I agree with Rapunzel on that book. You can also get a kick start on CBT by checking the sticky post at the top of the psychotherapy forum 10 Common Cognitive Distortions. I suspect you are committing a few of them against yourself.

Music is emotional expression to me too.

Are you working with a psychotherapist to help you to feel better?

I have experienced that being jealous of others, whether it's over what they have (things) or who they are (self-worth), only served to drag me down into the muck.

From age 15 to about 30, I could never look at certain cars because my envy was so strong that it would make me angry for days. Why should these people have such awesome cars and not have to work for them (I imagined)? I live in a big city so I would see these cars often = I was always very angry inside. It used up SO MUCH of MY ENERGY that I finally had to LET IT GO.

Over 15 years later I still have to remind myself that perhaps these people are very unhappy in other ways, and I force myself to appreciate the vehicle without lamenting why I don't/can't have one.

Ask God to take away the envy and replace it with His Divine Providence. If it's in His Will, you WILL go to school and be a successful Psych. Dr... with or without Mummy and Daddies money. And what a great thing to say about yourself - that you DID NOT have the 'silver spoon' handed to you - you had to work for it!

You will have a much broader experience than your friend will.

Not all riches are measured in $ or £.

Focusing on others will never get you the self understanding that you desire......

The sup[port i recieve is amazing and i would like to first of all thank everyone for responding to my thread and i also have a topic i would like to discuss is what problems do the higher society face like the middle class looking to strive for excellence it must be hard at the top but every time i am introduced to their lifestyle it seems to be full of happiness and joy. I was looking to read a book called Outliers by Malcomn Gladwell, or the blank slate, a book called the price of privelage, or a two volume set called affect, immagery, consciousness. If anyone has read these book or please leave what you have learned from the book and if you would recomend it please i love reading any psychology book.

Hi Echoes i was thinking about seeing my psychologist in school but im afraid of what people will think or the reality of knowing i do have a problem which i dont want i just wanna flow through life and it has not been that way at all. will seeing my psychologist at school be as sufficient as seeing one outside of school, its free and i really should of taken advantage of it but i dont know what to expect what will happen what do they do

... by the way... the avatar you chose is very beautiful!

Psychotherapy is about learning about yourself, a self-exploration. It's an intelligent venture where you get to learn about yourself and that all people have the same needs, desires, longings, wishes....

You could see the school psychologist and see how it goes. To see what kind of therapy and what kind of therapist you might want to pursue, now or later, you can research here and on other sites such as www.guidetopsychology.com (nice Q&A section there).