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Old Jan 22, 2012, 11:14 AM
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It is important to keep in mind when you feel this way that these people that invade "your space" also do the same to others. The truth is, THERE ARE DISRESPECTUL SELFISH HUMAN BEINGS. Yes, we can be effected by them and it can be very upsetting. However, what I have learned by taking time to truely face the triggers that upset me, even cripple me, is that I have to LEARN how to grow past the way it upsets me.

unhappyguy, I have really been working at understanding this disorder. It really is a challenge and though it does cripple me, even leaves me with terrible thoughts about myself, feeling like I am a failure. I have come to a point where looking back the truth is, I truely didn't learn "HOW" to stand up and speak up for myself.

Yes, I have every reason to be angry and I still am, because what changed my life and everything about my life, came from someone's neglegence. And when I do experience these various "triggers" what I am learning is that what they signify are times in my life where I honestly didn't "KNOW" how to respond effectively and protect myself. However, I am truely not alone in experiencing this, you and countless others experience the same struggles.

So what are we going to do? What can we do? All we can do is understand where we did not stand up, often that we were not able to stand up, but know we can LEARN how to progress IN SPITE OF OUR FAILURES IN OUR PAST. Your a good man unhappyguy, and so are many others here. No matter "HOW OLD WE ARE" we "DESERVE" the right to "LEARN' how to progress in spite of the people in this world that are preditors to all those they come in contact with.

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Old Jan 22, 2012, 02:52 PM
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PTSD is like being slugged in the chest with a baseball bat at a noise, or shadow or a look. All the air is stolen from my lungs and instinaniously being impaled by billions of tiny needles over every square surface of my body.

Or it can be a time a machine and I'm 7 again crouched in a corner, hiding.
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Old Jan 22, 2012, 05:19 PM
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ptsd also lets me know that i survived..because if i had not been strong enough to survive then there would be no ptsd. there would be no me. does it suck at times..**** yes. but you what...it beats the alternative.
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Old Jan 27, 2012, 04:12 PM
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its like the movie ground hogs day
you wonder when will the next day come?
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Old Jan 31, 2012, 12:20 AM
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is like drowning..................
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Old Jan 31, 2012, 12:23 AM
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is like sheer pain....ne'er knowing where the next bloody dream will come to punch you in the gut and take your breath complete...........
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Old Feb 01, 2012, 12:45 AM
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PTSD is The Living Dead
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Old Feb 01, 2012, 12:23 PM
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PTSD is like being in a very different Maze. Everyone has their own life maze and they begin to learn their way to see obstacles and turns and even pathways that can lead to dead ends. But for people who are stricken with PTSD, the forward motion stops, instead all of a sudden something seems to push them backwards. It is scary because by going backwards, one cannot see and often what happens is the person can be thrust into a hole they had been in before and somehow struggled to get out and continue on the life maze.

The person who has PTSD cannot understand why they cannot seem to move forward like they used to. And everytime they are somehow suddenly forced to go backward, it gets very upsetting and confusing. And when they talk about it no one seems to understand because all they talk about is YES, there are dead ends, scary parts, scary people, difficult parts on their paths too, but that is the life maze, JUST KEEP MOVING AND DEAL WITH IT.

Oh, how frustrating and lonely and confusing it becomes, not being able to somehow move forward, no matter how much one seems to try.

Eventually, if someone is lucky and finds a good therapist, they learn that each time they are pushed back, stuck in a hole or obstacle, calm down, look around, pay attention and talk about it. The therapist reaches out a hand and helps the person struggling to slowly climb out and calm down. In time the therapist explains what it means and that yes, this can happen, your not alone and don't blame yourself every time you are sent backwards. Each person who struggles has different holes and obstacles they can be sent back to, however, it is important that each person understand this in not thier fault and they can learn how to move forward again.

A therapist slowly teaches the sufferer that it doesn't matter if the person cant do the maze like others, they can learn to do the maze their own way, and no, they are not going to do it the same as before, however, they can eventually learn to still do the maze, maybe even better than before.

Patience, time, and support is essential.

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Old Feb 02, 2012, 03:14 PM
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ptsd is like walking in what to everybody else looks like a beautiful green field..but to u ..its like trying not to step on landmines that are on every corner somewhere.
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Old Feb 02, 2012, 03:21 PM
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C-PTSD Is Like ... Just when you thought you'd safely made it up and out of the vent, you're suddenly sucked back down into the magma chamber again ... YIKES ... !!!

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Old Feb 02, 2012, 03:40 PM
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PTSD is like a demon haunting you even during the day time ... that is like a ball chained to your leg
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Old Feb 02, 2012, 05:39 PM
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PTSD is like a demon haunting you even during the day time ... that is like a ball chained to your leg
For some reason this made me think about in the original super mario... when he is being chased by the ghosts while he's running, but every time he turns around they stop.

Hmm randomness
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Old Feb 05, 2012, 05:42 AM
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Complex PTSD is like . . . a never ending hell that keeps repeating itself. Wanting to fight back against the people who abused you and did terrible, mean things, but instead, being re-victimized all over again by your thoughts and feelings because you can't get back at them and they have gotten away with it. And, you feel like the loser/victim all over again . . . and you are. This is not a life and it keeps repeating and repeating.
Yup, Yup. And life keeps happening too. And when more bad stuff happens or you are just put through a very stressful time, it just re-victimizes you all over again also.

I hate that the people in my life got away with the things they did. It was wrong, and they have perfectly wonderful lives and I suffer.

I completely understand where you are coming from.
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Old Mar 01, 2012, 10:23 AM
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... Always waiting for the other shoe to drop ...
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Old Mar 02, 2012, 03:37 PM
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PTSD is like...wearing a mask over flayed skin that is constantly shocked by triggers and burned by salty tears that no-one else can see. All that others can see is the "normal" mask and wonder why you should be constantly exhasted.
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Old Mar 02, 2012, 07:59 PM
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PTSD is like...being woken out of a deep sleep, the sound of that dreaded phone call in the middle of the night.
But day after day, not knowing when the call will come again...and not being able to turn the ringer off.
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Old Mar 03, 2012, 09:02 AM
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PSTD is like having fiction vision.
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Old Mar 09, 2012, 12:30 AM
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Ptsd is like being in a horror movie and the scary music starts playing and the monster is going to appear any minute and....
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Old Mar 10, 2012, 05:14 AM
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Being lost in a dark hole, and being sucked in further each time something goes on in your mind.. being helpless to sort or think it out.. it sucks living with ptsd.. but life goes on i suppose..
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Old Mar 21, 2012, 09:50 PM
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Knowing it's there ... Seeing it there ... Falling into it anyway ... !!!

It?

The "Hole" ...

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Old Mar 21, 2012, 10:19 PM
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PTSD is like standing next to a worm hole and getting sucked into a different time. And then you jump back to the now and have to catch up.
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Old Mar 21, 2012, 11:44 PM
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I agree 100%
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Old Mar 28, 2012, 04:20 AM
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PTSD Is Like ... Finally getting it all together only to forget where you've put it ...
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Old Mar 28, 2012, 09:13 AM
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PTSD is walking down the street it is a nice mild sunny warm day.
Everything is fine,
FEAR_
FEAR_
FEAR_
hits from nowhere.
Maybe you smelled a smell, it jerked you back, you saw out of the corner of your eye, was it, no it couldn't be, .....FEAR it is here, RIGHT NOW___
, can't breath,

GOT TO RUN.....where........................................................................................................................................................................................alone. lost that is what PTSD is like.
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Old Mar 31, 2012, 09:50 PM
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PTSD to me is forgetting to breathe. Grabbing at a throat that has closed up and subconsciously you are willing yourself to stop breathing. Choking for air that can't guarantee you safety. Then realizing it is the past and feeling f__king retarded for feeling this way. Yet can't stop..and only getting worst. Can't f__king deal with it. I just want to drink my way away from it again
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