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Dec 03, 2013, 01:05 AM
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Does anyone else get triggered by just thinking about their family? I was just reminded today that we have a family dinner on Christmas eve and suddenly I just feel really nervous and like I want to cry. I'm not usually this emotional and I don't cry very often. I don't know why it's scaring me so much. I told myself that I could skip it if I want to but even skipping it makes me so afraid because I know they will get angry and I'm afraid of them getting angry and saying all these things about me. If just thinking about it makes me this anxious, how am I supposed to actually go for it? The strange thing is that the person who did it to me isn't even going to be at the dinner but I'm still so afraid of everyone else. Is this normal??
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Dec 03, 2013, 07:28 AM
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Family is by far my biggest trigger in my life... I can't even handle it when friends refer to themselves as "family" (I have a few here like that.. it's a really transient community so a lot of people don't have family around). Like, how whacked is that? To get super anxious when you hear someone refer to you as part of their Town-family?
So, I get what you mean. I get really anxious if I choose to go back - and I make the choice to do it to try and be a good daughter!
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Dec 03, 2013, 06:20 PM
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(((Wolfie))),
Yes, this can be a strong symptom with PTSD. Unfortunately if someone who struggles with PTSD's family isn't made aware of what PTSD means and how to be supportive, they tend to treat their suffering family member in some very unsupportive ways. I have dealt with that myself and it made me want to "avoid" my own family badly. Unfortunately people are so uninformed about what PTSD means and how the person challenged genuinely struggles and they can't "just", the result is people tend to constantly say "just comments" that only aggravate the PTSD. The reason why you feel like crying is because "it is sad" when one's own family members don't show support, caring, and understanding. Our family is suppose to be a safe haven for us where we feel loved and understood and accepted, not a group of people that we feel uncomfortable, threatened by, or that will be dismissive and negative. Are you seeing a therapist? ((Hugs))) OE |
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Dec 04, 2013, 01:50 AM
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wolfie sorry you are feeling like this. I can relate...my family is possibly my biggest trigger, my mother especially because of her treatment(or lack of it) of me has left many scars. She is due to come and stay over the christmas break and will be here for 2 weeks...the thought is horrid for me.
I hope you have a T? My plan over the next couple of weeks is to do some planning with my T around managing around my mother when triggered. Gah!! Take good care of yourself wolfie 
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