[MsRS]

My husband says I'm suffering from PTSD and continue too. I think maybe he's wrong. I think I am coping fairly well.

I was a flight attendant and was originally based in Boston. Those folks (crew) who died on 9/11 were my co-workers. I can tell you who had kids and what their hopes and dreams were. What they did in their spare time, etc. I think if you compare my situation with someone who has had a family member killed and the killer never caught. It takes a long time to get over that and you never completely recover. I no longer fly, I am happily married with a very supportive husband.

I am however having a terrible time with my grown daughter. She has all but broken my heart with her behavor to me. I know she has her own set of problems, but I can not stand the pain when she verbally attacks me. We have not spoke for 3 mths. Not mother's day, not Easter, zero communication.

I came to this site 'cause I couldn't find exactly the chat I was looking for... I am having a hard time dealing with this and now I'm on medication to keep me from crying at the drop of a hat. She has just simply broke my heart. I can't fix her, I can only fix me. I know that. But I don't know how to fix me.

[(JD)]

I think your spouse is right I fully understand ..not only do I have PTSD from an industrial injury, but have a relative at Logan who also knew everyone.

Perhaps she, too, has been traumatized? I think so. Please seek help. Putting it off if it IS PTSD won't make it go away...and will make it tougher to recover. There is no cure for PTSD but it can be managed to where it would intrude into your life every day... maybe your entire family could benefit from counseling?

Welcome to PC. Sorry you need us, but glad you found us

MsRS

I'm so sorry to hear about your co-workers.

Seven of my husband's co-workers were on that same plane.

You said:

I think if you compare my situation with someone who has had a family member killed and the killer never caught. It takes a long time to get over that and you never completely recover

Pain and sadness is a very personal matter and cannot be compared. Two people can suffer the same loss and react in totally different ways. Your pain and suffering matter just as much as anyones.

Are you seeing a therapist? PTSD needs attention.

We're here to listen and lend a shoulder to lean on.

Welcome to PC.

[Soidhonia]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry for your loss. the best thing that you can do at this time is to focus on yourself and try not to worry about what your daughter is doing continually. You have been through a traumatic ordeal and your daughters behavior is a trigger to you in your emotional state at this time. Taking medication and getting therapy helps a lot to ease the discomfort of loss. Just try to stay openminded about your daughter but keep your boundaries to keep yourself Safe as well. I hopethings get better for you soon. .Take care, soidhonia

[heyjoe]

What does the doctor giving you the medication think you have? It is really hard from the amount of information you posted to make an educated guess.

[finestitcher]

MsRS, I can only begin to imagine what you must have gone through on 9/11.

Your daughter, if you are comfortable doing so, can you share a bit about what it is about you these days that seems to set your daughter off into verbal abuse?

I do also have to ask if you are seeing a therapist. If not, you should probably do so, and maybe include you spouse and daughter in a group therapy.

I am so sorry for the friends that you lost.....and the way in which you lost them..

It is important that you find out if you have PTSD..so you can get the right help for it....and then you could perhaps go from there...

[heyjoe]

I re read my post and it sounds harsh, which i didnt mean it to be. PTSD symptoms include flashbacks, physical reactions to thinking about the incident,avoidence, hypervigilance,increased startle response,feeling emotionally numb, feeling distant or cut off from other people, difficulty concentrating and/or sleeping, loss of interest in activities. Of course no one will have all of them, but it is common to have many of them. I think the stress that you have with your daughter would also exacerbate whatever symptoms you might have. You may well have PTSD from 9/11 and the loss that you experienced. It is also something that never goes away, 9/11, its on tv, in the papers, on the radio, constantly. You are reminded of it over and over. Going for therapy may be a good idea for you. It may help you. AS Sky said it is never cured but can be controlled. I was also affected directly by 9/11 and have ptsd from it.

[heyjoe]

someone just pointed out to me that the original post is two months old and the person hasnt been on since the post.....hope things worked out for her

To MsRs I never saw this post. Hope all is well. A old dear friend of mines"sister in law" was suppose to be on that flight as attendent too. It took her forever to find her. I remember her heart ache.
To Heyjoe you are not harsh you just say ti the way it is.
To all tc

[heyjoe]

ok now the same person has pointed out that it is from 2006, so its a year and two months....am i ever slipping