[MINIME]

How do you guys get anger out of your body? cant do it this way.maybe this way. I feel like talking except I dont have anyone to talk to.

[cantstopcrying]

******whisperes to you****** (I scream) Just a from the gut AAAAAAHHHHHH. I sit in my car and do it or I bring up word on the computer and just JL;QEURJOQIEURJLKJ;AJFDFAKSDFJA!@#$@#!#$!. I also have a Koosh ball and a little stuffed triangle shaped guy that when you throw him he says "Oh, gee, you're bugging me," or, "don't be such a pest". The first two are my favorite ways. If you want to scream online, pm me and scream away!!!

[pegasus]

((((((( MINIME )))))))

It is a difficult emotion. But it's not one that should be bottled up either. It is important to let it out in a safe way. Pillow-bashing is a good one, you can even draw a face on it if you want to.

Sometimes a more subtle way of letting it out is more helpful, like writing an imaginary letter to your abuser, not sending it but letting all those feelings out. It is quite liberating to do.

Sometimes just going for a long walk, bike ride or singing along to a loud song can help also.

Take care.

[MINIME]

cant stop hey i want one of those balls. LOL where did u get it.? Thanks peg for your help. I have just recently learned its ok to be angry. Im not sure how to deal with it. I learned calling and leaving mesages that yell at my T are not good. I have learned that calling them and saying I am angry about this is good. But calling them and saying I dont like you now I am mad you are thinking this and this and uggghhhh leave me alone. LOL thats not the best way. Yesterday at my daughters school meeting the teacher made me so mad. I smiled at her and said thanks for this. LOL when i was thinking about throwing her water in her face. I have yelled bad words at the starbucks guy when I said I want a small hot chocolate ( I never go in there) and he said by small do you mean short or tall???????? I was like just fu+++ng suprise me why does this have to be so fu++ing confusing???? Ok so that was bad. This has all been in the last 4 days and my anger has really came up. Its weird.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by pegasus

((((((( MINIME )))))))

It is a difficult emotion. But it's not one that should be bottled up either. It is important to let it out in a safe way. Pillow-bashing is a good one, you can even draw a face on it if you want to.

Sometimes a more subtle way of letting it out is more helpful, like writing an imaginary letter to your abuser, not sending it but letting all those feelings out. It is quite liberating to do.

Sometimes just going for a long walk, bike ride or singing along to a loud song can help also.

Take care.

((((((((((((( MINIME ))))))))))))))

[cantstopcrying]

Originally Posted by MINIME

cant stop hey i want one of those balls. LOL where did u get it.? Thanks peg for your help. I have just recently learned its ok to be angry. Im not sure how to deal with it. I learned calling and leaving mesages that yell at my T are not good. I have learned that calling them and saying I am angry about this is good. But calling them and saying I dont like you now I am mad you are thinking this and this and uggghhhh leave me alone. LOL thats not the best way. Yesterday at my daughters school meeting the teacher made me so mad. I smiled at her and said thanks for this. LOL when i was thinking about throwing her water in her face. I have yelled bad words at the starbucks guy when I said I want a small hot chocolate ( I never go in there) and he said by small do you mean short or tall???????? I was like just fu+++ng suprise me why does this have to be so fu++ing confusing???? Ok so that was bad. This has all been in the last 4 days and my anger has really came up. Its weird.

Actually I got it for my girls a long time ago at the local dime store and they stuck it in their drawer or closet, so I kidnapped him for here at work. Good guess on those explosions not being the healthy way to release anger. LOL. But, if you've never known it's ok to express anger, you're like a kid in a candy shop with endless money. You have to find the balance. Smiling at the teacher, saying thank you out loud and mentally sticking your tongue out is a good way. I have to watch myself because sarcasm sometimes just flows from me before I can stop it and that's a coping tool I need to ditch. Take your baby steps and you'll find what works for you!

[Sannah]

Would it help to write it here or PM me?

[MINIME]

yes I will later thanks sannah

[MINIME]

Oh i forgot to add i fired doc john today. I just hired him back.

[(JD)]

You have several good tips posted for you here already.
How about I take a different tack? You say you have no one to talk with, so I guess that means no therapist either.

Try and work slowly on what is causing the anger. Removing the day to day anger is a good thing, though we all need anger to motivate us for those special situations, imo.
Often anger is created when we feel we don't deserve something we have, or aren't receiving what we think we do deserve. Not a good place to be. Sometimes we create anger when we try to control something that is out of our control. Denial that it is out of our control keeps us attacking it, and creating the anger from the frustration of poor results (in our opinion..regarding the issue.)

Being able to, as many use the Serenity Prayer to do, step back and see just where we are spinning our wheels, and wasting our energies so we can make a better plan for our lives, is a good thing.

Since you posted in the PTSD forum, you probably have anger about what gave you this disorder in the first place. Remember that this disorder can control you in an out of control manner. The more out of control and frustrated you become, the worse you become, feeding the disorder.

Breathe. Live in the here and now. Take responsibility only for what you have responsibility for: right this moment. Don't dwell on the big picture. It's too big a chunk of picture to handle with PTSD. Small bits, chewed slowly, will eventually get the whole cake eaten.

[MINIME]

I actually have therapists. One was out sick and the other one had been busy. Things just built up. On thursday my emdr therapist came in after being sick and found an hour for me to come and talk. It helped so much. I also became clear about what the next level of therapy I needed. Which was listening to me and listening to me. I need to take a break from processing and just talk and process what i have already.

[pachyderm]

Do you mean a T listening to you, or you listening to you?

[MINIME]

probably the t listening to me. I get tired of listening to myself.LOL i always finish my own sentances. LOL

[Booney]

Originally Posted by MINIME

How do you guys get anger out of your body? cant do it this way.maybe this way. I feel like talking except I dont have anyone to talk to.

Anger is hurt inside out. If you get in touch with your hurt the anger will dissapate.

[MINIME]

U know everyone seems to have great ideas on how to deal with anger. The thing with me is my mind is such a mess. I dont now what I am angry about half the time. I then I do then I dont.

[inside]

[Mouse_]

Yes, the anger!!!! Doesnt it feel like you are committing a mortal sin???

[MINIME]

((mouse)) it feels good sometimes and that scares me. I then feel guilty.

[Sannah]

This is an interesting comment Mini. Do you want to explore it more? Anger is not a bad emotion. It is a message to us that something is not right for us. I guess it gets its bad name because as a culture, people have named it bad and try to suppress it. As a whole we haven't really learned how to deal with it well. This has actually made it worse.

[MINIME]

Im not sure sannah. I think its because I get mad at someone and I feel bad. ii dont feel like I have the right to. Then I get scared.

[Sannah]

You must have gotten the message when you were a kid that you are not allowed to be angry?