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Old Jan 07, 2009, 07:56 PM
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just having a bad day, anyone got some good news out there - could do with some....

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Old Jan 07, 2009, 08:39 PM
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My husband and I are doing great, and my son is a happy, healthy, and very bright 8 month old boy.

Sorry you're having a bad day.
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Old Jan 07, 2009, 08:46 PM
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thanks christine1123 i just needed to hear that there was still good things happeneing out there - take care P7
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Old Jan 07, 2009, 09:01 PM
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My furnace got fixed--no charge. My mortgage company offered to remodify my loan. You are loved.
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Old Jan 07, 2009, 09:11 PM
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My furnace got fixed--no charge. My mortgage company offered to remodify my loan.
Woooo Hooooo!
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Old Jan 07, 2009, 09:12 PM
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I know!! I added gray hairs for nothing!
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Old Jan 07, 2009, 09:24 PM
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grey hairs can be very fetching!i am growing some now! LOL

I am going to have a test in about 6 weeks time - its not a big deal - ive waited for this for over 10 months I should be able to handle 6 more weeks - I had a good therapy session on monday talked about some hard issues - then my T asked if my Su thoughts were because i had my test coming up eek! thought I had put that back in the box at the back of my head where it belongs - at least for another 6 weeks - but now i realise that as the date gets closer - ........ anyway thats why i needed the good news - thankyou for your replies - it means a lot
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Old Jan 07, 2009, 09:29 PM
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I will keep you in my prayers!! It is a long time to wait, even if you have waited a long time already.
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Old Jan 07, 2009, 09:37 PM
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I keep telling myself its just 6 weeks I can do that - but today it doesnt feel that way - it doesnt feel like i can make it - grrr whinging again ! must stop being so ......... oooh so many words come to mind! lol suck it up girl and get on with it

thanks cantstopcrying for your kind concern

I think i have to let the adult get back in charge and tell the child in me to go back to her room and draw!
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Old Jan 07, 2009, 09:43 PM
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Ah, you can be a kid for a while...being an adult isn't all it's cracked up to be!!!
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Old Jan 07, 2009, 09:53 PM
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nah, she's too scared, she keeps saying i cant do this - cant cope and wants to cry but cant - the adult she is in control of herself - she can handle this - better she takes over - put everything back in the box for 6 weeks - sometimes i am so weak - but thats not true - I ams strong - I can do this - I cant change what will happen - so I have to .... i dont know ... just stay in control - i'll get there thanks
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Old Jan 07, 2009, 09:59 PM
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Well, just make sure the adult part of you at least gets to color once in a while, too....it's a good stress reliever. Putting things in their place as a way to cope is good. You sound like me---I often tell myself to "put your big girl panties on and deal with it." Though I would never tell anyone else to do that!
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Old Jan 08, 2009, 11:50 AM
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Good news lets see................sometimes dr Phil eats an almond butter sandwich and it makes it hard for him to talk yeah yipee
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Old Jan 08, 2009, 04:08 PM
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nah, she's too scared, she keeps saying i cant do this - cant cope and wants to cry but cant - the adult she is in control of herself - she can handle this - better she takes over - put everything back in the box for 6 weeks - sometimes i am so weak - but thats not true - I ams strong - I can do this - I cant change what will happen - so I have to .... i dont know ... just stay in control - i'll get there thanks
You can do this, you are strong. It's okay to cry. I hope everything works out for you.
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Old Jan 08, 2009, 05:20 PM
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Good news lets see................sometimes dr Phil eats an almond butter sandwich and it makes it hard for him to talk yeah yipee

thanks MINIME you made me smile on a day when tears come to my eyes but still dont make it out lol my sister hung up on me last night - she rang and hung up on me .... my fault - she was just looking for support - I have no supportive bones left in my body - they're all broken LOL shes been in a bad relationship for about 25 years and recently left him for her own life - and ive been supportive all that time - but she keeps going out with him - and wants me to say oh thats ok - and I have

Ive said he controlled you for 25 years so you will still have battles to fight - last night she wanted me to say that again - but i just said if you dont want to go ring him back while im on your other phone and cancel - she said she cant see him hurt (she has told me many bad things he has done) and I said stop talking S**T and call him - she said ok so im full of S* and hung up on me - she'd been drinking so she wasnt listening anyway - Im having trouble putting one foot in front of the other to carry on - ......... so im a terrible uncaring person - i know that - i know what i should have said - but it just came out - god i can be so stupid! I should change that to my middle name - if i had two the other one would be useless! - sorry for this .... its been really hard recently and i just want a break - a bit of peace - selfish!
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Old Jan 09, 2009, 02:55 AM
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thankyou to eveyone who supported me recently when i went totally off the rails and into the garden

- ok so i was a bit ...out there - out of control - when i made the last post hmm when i made my last few posts - eek! - but im back - i have picked myself up dusted myself off and climbed back onto the healing road -I am baaaacccckk in control! for how long who knows? but make hay while the sun shines as they say - I decided to put up or shut up - so I rang my work psych - maybe he can help me deal with the appt thing - I cant lock it up as much as i try so i have to find ways to deal with it - I see him next tuesday - and as for my sister - thats a neverending cycle I just have to deal with - back on the road people! make a space for phoenix7 - there's room for all of us come on ! lets walk it together

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Old Jan 09, 2009, 07:26 AM
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Wooo-hooo!! Way to be strong! HOWEVER....don't beat yourself up over your sister. I know she needed you, but YOU needed someone, too. Always remember it's ok to take care of you first.
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Old Jan 09, 2009, 02:27 PM
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Phoenix.........
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Old Jan 11, 2009, 08:12 PM
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thanks MINIME you made me smile on a day when tears come to my eyes but still dont make it out lol my sister hung up on me last night - she rang and hung up on me .... my fault - she was just looking for support - I have no supportive bones left in my body - they're all broken LOL shes been in a bad relationship for about 25 years and recently left him for her own life - and ive been supportive all that time - but she keeps going out with him - and wants me to say oh thats ok - and I have

Ive said he controlled you for 25 years so you will still have battles to fight - last night she wanted me to say that again - but i just said if you dont want to go ring him back while im on your other phone and cancel - she said she cant see him hurt (she has told me many bad things he has done) and I said stop talking S**T and call him - she said ok so im full of S* and hung up on me - she'd been drinking so she wasnt listening anyway - Im having trouble putting one foot in front of the other to carry on - ......... so im a terrible uncaring person - i know that - i know what i should have said - but it just came out - god i can be so stupid! I should change that to my middle name - if i had two the other one would be useless! - sorry for this .... its been really hard recently and i just want a break - a bit of peace - selfish!
You are not a terrible or uncaring person. You obviously care a great deal about your sister. It can be easy to lose patience with people who go back to the same people who are hurting them over and over again. I've done that to my sister and regretted it. It doesn't make you a bad person. You are not stupid or selfish. The anger you feel is righteous because this abusive man keeps hurting your sister. That would make anyone upset.
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-Katherine Mansfield
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