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ok, so I never work thursdays - my working week is sat to wed - now theyt have changed my days to work thursdays - sun to thur - no big deal - but I got really anxious aobut it - about everything lately..... sigh.... and then I realised why I had changed my days two years ago -
we have outpatients clinic on thursdays - ex patients come and see the dr on my ward - the guy that attacked me is an ex-patient - I dont know if he still goes to the clinic - I don't want to see him - EVER!!! he probably doesnt go anymore..... im probably being silly.... it's been 2 years - over two years.... I dont think he would still be going to clinic - but I'm still afraid.... and dont want to ask in case they say yes he does still come - he probably doesnt - it's been two years - and it sounds so easy - to just ask... but it's not... then they will know I am not over it.... sigh..... ![]()
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phoenix7,
the fact the you still get affected by him or his presence means the you are really not over it. although it is precipitating at times, exposing yourself to the ones who did something bad to you may have helped it a little. i know it is hard but who knows? in a week or two, you are through with him. please do take care and be safe... snowflakes
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thanks snowflakes - dont think i could face them (them ?) him - wouldnt trust myself - id either run or ...... dunno ..... cant think too tired - don't want to play this game anymore!
![]() ![]() doesnt really matter - if I see him - I see him - if I dont I dont - I have no control of that - sigh..... off to bed - maybe things will look better in the morning... night all. take care P7 ![]() ![]() ![]()
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I think that you should be able to find out if he is still a patient and I think that you have every right to know if and when he is coming in and to not have to deal with him at all if he is coming in.
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thanks Sannah - I got up the courage and asked my boss if she could find out and she said she will - fingers crossed. ![]()
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I am glad your finding out if he is still at the clinic. I think it stays with us with the person, because I can still remember every detail of the person that held me at gun point more then ten years ago. If I see him in store I drop my stuff and go out the door. I still do, even people that look like him a little bit make me scared.
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It's great that you are finding out. You shouldn't have to worry about running into him there. That is your safe place. I'm sure he doesn't go there anymore, but just say he does, you can figure out an alternative day or schedule or something to make sure you don't run into him. I moved six hours away from everyone I knew to avoid dealing with, seeing, or running into my molester or rapist. That was definitely not the right route. Avoiding dealing with it at all festers terribly until it finally comes out. You are very brave for doing all you can to make sure to get better. I'm sure things will work out for you!
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I think your courage is wonderful. I have been reading the posts made in response to you since this thread opened...and i must say this kind of hits home on one of my issues.
I am terrified of my bio. father. We do not live in the same town anymore but i am only 20 min from him. Every time i go into his town i feel my nerves kick in. I stay away from places I know he would frequent and when i go food shopping i find myself circling the parking lot looking for his and my step-mothers car. I have often said to friends that if he walked around the corner in a store I would probably pee and pass out; I always say it with a chuckle. I believe that is my way of handling it...by trying to make a joke. I have yet to run into him and to be honest i pray that I never do. I wouldn't know what to say or do beyond trying not to have a coronary. I hope that someday I will have the same strength as you. To do everything i can to over come this fear. I think the fact that you haven't turned down the change in schedule and that you are trying to deal with this head on proves to me that strength is out there. ![]() ![]() |
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Hi susie2009 - im sorry that you still have to see this person - its a shame he doesnt move away
![]() Hi froggie2 - I think of myself more as a giant chicken lol ![]() ![]() ![]() Hi miray, work is no longer my safe place ![]() ![]() Hi Kumid, I dont have a choice in turning down the schedule change or I probably would have (my middle name should be avoidance or denial! ![]() I have just been getting so anxious about it that I asked - so prob not brave at all - I use humour too to get past things where I can ![]() I was hoping there would be an email saying if he was an outpatient or not when I got to work sat - thats 3 days after I asked about it - but no email - ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
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Hi Phoenix.... I truly hope this all works out for you. Just seeing all the posts that have been made it sure is nice to see all the ppl in your corner. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
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so my boss didnt ask - shes been too busy - so I went and asked and they cant tell me because they dont have the list of whos coming....
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Don't give up Phoenix... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() You are in my thoughts as i go through my day! Be safe and Be well ~~ Jenn
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thanks Kumid - I guess I will just have to see who turns up tomorrow
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thanks fuzzybear - he didnt turn up last thursday - am workingthis thursday so will just have to see if he turns up then- hopefully not
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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????????????? Is it a walk in clinic or something without appts?
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no its all prearranged but the dr doesnt give his list til the last minute cos he thinks the world revolves around him
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Can you look at that list at the last minute then? Could you explain to him what you need to know so that maybe you could get more info earlier?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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will try tomorrow - no luck today - sigh... wish me luck
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Good Luck!!!!!!!!!
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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couldnt see dr - was on tenderhooks all day - SO I should feel better now cos I didnt see him - right - then why dont I ...... will be ok tomorrow -
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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The thing that would help you to feel a lot better is if you knew for sure that you would never see him again. You don't have this guarantee so I would assume that this is what is keeping you on edge?
I know that if you saw him you would be really triggered but you can handle a trigger? Was his attack a "patient out of control" attack that might never happen again? I guess what I am getting at is what is the worst thing that could happen if you do see him again?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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![]() I have changed anti-d's and am waiting for the new ones to work which doesnt help - I havnt got another thursday for a couple of weks - duringthat time i think i just have to find the dr and ask him - but i am having so much trouvle staying in control at the moment - dont know if i cna talk about it or ask - everything sets me offf - its like all my alarms aare set to maximum - can tground myself ..
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts ![]() its how many times you get back up! ![]() ![]() (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ![]() When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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I understand Phoenix what you are saying. Can't wait til you can have your therapy appt. I wish that I had a way to help you to feel safe!
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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