i am sooooo mad!

I saw my psychitrist today(i see him once a month) for meds. He asked me how I was...and I answered truthfully..."not so good"

He actaully rolled his eyes and said..."now what?!"

Then he said...let me guess...your not happy with your meds. Right?

I was on the verge of tears before i went in there...and I just started bawling. I told him I hadnt been sleeping...and my anxiety attacks were getting out of hand. I am on busbar and lamictal.

Then he folds his hands and crosses his legs and says..."You make me feel like I'm not doing my job right" I can't keep changing your meds everytime I see you.

I was so angry--it was almost as if he was blaming the meds not being effective on me somehow. Do doctors really want to know whats going on with you---or do they just want to hear that everything is fine and their choice of drugs was the best possible solution?
I just got so mad---and did something completely out of character for me...I fought back.
I said to him...I don't care how YOU feel...I dont come here to talk about your feelings...I am here for me.

Then I focused and said...I need something for anxiety...and I need to sleep.
I dont know why the meds arent working for me...I honestly dont see an improvement.
I have been on this combo for four months now---i'm not a doctor---but I think its plenty of time for the full effects to be seen and felt.

My anxiety has actually increased. My panic attacks have doubled. I am so angry all the time and I am starting to doubt this doctors professionalism as well as his abilty as a doctor.

My first inclination is just to shut it and take it. But there is a part of my brain screaming...NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

I didnt ask to be taken off any of the meds I am on. He scribbled out two scripts...one for klonapin and one for lamictal...and told me to go.

So I guess I'm not on busbar anymore...

Hi lorieann,

Sorry that your Psych is reacting this way to your honesty. I probably went thru 30 meds before finding the right ones for me. It's not unusual for people to go thru a lot of trial and error before finding what's right for them. Our docs know that. Some are a lot more patient than others. Mine has the patience of a saint. I know there are a few here that have had good luck with Buspar, but most of what I've heard, and from my own experience, it doesn't seem to work for most people. The klonopin should help you, but watch what you take. It is a very addictive drug if taken to excess. I've taken it for about three years, and I take one week off every month from it just to detox my system a bit.

Again, I'm sorry to hear that your doc wasn't a little more realistic and receptive to what you're going thru. I wish you all the best with the new med. I know how debillitating anxiety can be when it's out of control.

Take care,
Greg

P.S. Good for you for standing up for yourself. We gotta do what's best for us, right?

thanks so much for that quick reply!!!
Yes--it kind of made me feel like maybe he was doubting my judgement...or maybe he thought i wasnt taking the meds like i should have been. anything but to think that maybe the choice of meds just werent working out and my body needed something else.

I am so tempted to just tell him next time that everything is fine (hopefully it will be) but i am not above lying to avoid a confrontation...until i can get me a new docand therapist...at least.

well---i need to lie down...my eyes are like half mast...nighters

What a jerk!!!! Sorry he upset you. That was very unprofessional of him to say that. My father takes klonapin. He likes it. He has been on it for years. He has tourette syndrome with anxiety. Is it possible to find another psychiatrist? I know it's a pain, but you didn't deserve to be treated that way.

"you only have one chance to make a first impression"

This man sounds like an idiot! Good luck with kicking him to the curb and finding a new doctor!

Take care,
Fuzzy

Get another T - he had no right to treat you with such disrespect and intolerance.

You were right to voice your opinion - you are there for YOU, not him. I hope you look for someone more sensitive to your needs.

Mary Alice

I've been on Lamictal almost 3 years, it has been most effective for my Bipolar and severe depression.
Klonopin and Ativan (taken as needed only) have helped tremendously with getting quality sleep, during the times I have a problem.
I wish you lots of luck with this, if your pdoc is not being a help to you but just agitating you, that is nonproductive, and you may want to seek out a new one, just a thought.
Again lots of luck and welcome to our forums

DE

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

Hey hon ,

I would not be impressed if my doctor did that. That is very unprofessional, but he is right he can't always change the meds, but what he said to make you feel like that is wrong.

If you are feeling uncomfortable with him, and think that he is no longer giving you the support that you need, can he reffer you to someone else? Rolling eyes? Wow i've never had that happen, I think i'd snap if it did.

Hang in there, I know it's rough and you are frustrated and angry, which is understandable, Hang in there hon, and please keep me posted.

<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>

I have been thinking of leaving this doc/therapists/ office for some time now. I have had a couple weird experiences there. Plus I don't really feel like I am going anywhere with this therapy. Maybe I have outgrown them. I have to think about myself and get out of this life long habit I have of expecting the people in authority in my life to do the right thing.

Just because their doctors and therapists doesnt mean they are allowed to take their bad day out on you--or talk down to you--

I guess--the bottom line is, if you leave there feeling worse than when you came, maybe you need to re-think the whole situation. I am going to find another office before I go though...

the bottom line is, if you leave there feeling worse than when you came, maybe you need to re-think the whole situation.

You hit the nail right on the head with this. There are times when you'll have a bad session because you've been talking about a sensitive time in your life or something like that, but if you feel worse everytime you leave your doc, it's time to show HIM the door and look for someone new.

I hope the next one is a perfect fit, and has your best interests in mind.

Greg

You are right, doctors shouldn't take it out on you when they are having a crappy day, espeically if this has happened more then once.

Are you thinking about asking for a refferal?

<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>

I don't think I will be asking for a referral. I am actually kinda cheesed off about it too---because i searched long and hard for this clinic to begin with. Its called Downstate Mental Health---its an anxiety clinic...supposed to be excellant.
The therapists there are very focused and caring...but the doctors really dont know whats going on with the patients and half the time they are late or MIA.
But I will find another place. One that has doctors in it that listen and make a plan that works for me.
I have decided from now on---whenever someone in a position of authority(or even in a situation where I think they are running the show) that I am not gonna take any more crap...i'm gonna stop biting my tongue and say whats on my mind...its just I get so emotional... I cant seem to get the words out thru the tears and i just look weak and stupid.
This is something I am going to work on. I just need to breathe deeply and focus and speak.

Oh you definatly don't have to put up with situations like that that has made you uncomfortable, i'd be cheesed off too.

You will find someone else to talk to, just take care of yourself for the time being... hang in there.

<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>