Who do you present?

My T dresses very casual too. I get the impression that she grew up in the country but adapted a more funky style, which is not bad.
I say that because she wears big jewlery sometimes. Like a very plain necklace with a big stone on it, or a bracelet with large stones, not hippy but similar. She wears skirts a good amount of the time as well. Definately reminds me of a country girl

My T is very stylish, and very casual. It's really cool, cause she's mostly ladi back, and you can tell she's comfy in what she wears. So wardrobe isn't really a huge thing between us.

pdoc does the suit/tie thing, but maybe pdocs are expected to do this. i notice when he gets new shoes (another floor starer here!). sometimes he wears nice cufflinks, and i really like that. he reckons he has the best ties in the hospital, but i'm not really a tie connoiseur. i do try to nod encouragingly when he points out a new tie and wants my approval.

new-T doesn't wear clothes, he wears 'outfits' . everything is impeccably put together. some (most) of it is very stuck in the 70s, but he would have been the most fashionable kid on the block in those days. he wore a really awesome shirt last week (just a plain black buttoned business shirt, but the cut was perfect) and i wanted to tell him, but then i was like, ****! you're checking out your T!! all because he's wearing a nice shirt that shows off his nice body and hmmm nice body.... so i decided to keep quiet.

I have the same problem. Especially when my T is wearing a low-cut top or something...I can't help it xD

Im usually always in my pyjamas id live in them all the time if i could. The only time i get dressed is when i have to leave the house. When i do get dressed its always jeans a long fitted top (has to cover my bum) and if its cold a boys jacket/hoodie and thongs or a pair of skate shoes(again sometimes boys ones). I dont wear girls jackets cos none of them fit properly. The jeans i wear dont do up cos im too fat but the nice jeans dont go up one more size so i wear a size 14 without the button done up. Also 99% of the clothing i wear is black grey andwhite. I cant dress exactly the way id like to cos im too fat and plus my friends wouldnt like it, pfft. If im just going to the grocery store or to pay bills ill just put my hair in a ponytail and no make up. But if its somewhere else ill either burl or straighten my hair (curl it more than straighten) and ill put make up on

Deli, I think it is something about red. I have a pair of red puma trainers with a white stripe and I only wear them when I am feeling really "up". I wear a red shirt on those days too so I match. T always comments if I wear the red shoes. He says he likes them.

T sometimes wears cowboy boots and this gives his usual casual wear a more dressed-up look. He has also been known to wear leather sandals with socks. The first time I met with him, he was quite dressed up for him and had shiny dress shoes on. I wonder what that was all about?

My T is always dresses very nice. I've taken to noticing, too, when she wears her hair straight and when it's curly... I like it better curly.

well T willl sure get a surprise today then. I was determined to ditch the brown and black today, but the only other thing in the closet that was possible was a navy-and-red thing.

And like Deli said - I feel like I am dying inside.

My T dresses totally different from the way I do--more sophisticated--and she has so many outfits that in 6 years, I think she wore the same one only once! I'm very conscious of how she dresses because, how can I put this, I get intimidated by someone who looks/dresses so much differently from the way I do. I don't wear much make-up, either, and my clothes are casual. My T wears jewelry that I would never wear, also. Showy type things.

One day she came dressed in casual gym clothes. She was a little embarrassed, and said she messed up her schedule and didn't have time to change. I felt so much more comfortable with her during that session! We talked about why her clothes make such a difference to me. I think it's because I judge people by the way they look. If they are unlike me, then I don't think I can relate to them. But I learned from my T that outside appearances don't matter. It's what is inside that counts.

That is so the truth! It is always the way that I want to be viewed. So I always just present myself as me. I'm not the glamorous type. I remember T once telling me that he wasn't into fashion either. Then I relayed to him that sometimes I save money by cutting my own hair. We both had a laugh over that one. I suppose it is most important to just be comfortable with yourself...no matter what you are wearing.

but if I was comfortable with myself I wouldn't be in T now would I?

I guess I am more with the poster who called her outfit her "shell" - consciously or unconsciously, apparently I project what I want to be seen.

Good point! Darn therapist voice won't leave me alone now, lol. Maybe it's something to work toward then?

I'm fairly comfortable in my own skin, and that's something that T has noticed about me by what I wear. On various occasions, she's picked out certain parts of my outfit for the day, and complimented me on them. Just to put things in perspective, I have a very weird fashion sense. So the idea that anyone would like it is almost unimaginable. I'd really like to see her "outside of work" dress, just to see if it's dramatically different from her work clothing.

Great thread. When I first went I always wore jeans and a t-shirt; casual. Then I started going on work days and I changed my outfits and still do at least six times on therapy mornings. I didnt want to go low-cut (because of ET) so I always made sure no cleavage of any sort was visible; I didn't want to look ugly (because of ET) so I always make sure I'm wearing sometihng pretty. I sit in front of the mirror to see what I look like sitting down (don't want to look fat). Ok, so there it is: pretty much everything I choose is because of ET----LOLOL

Oh, but I do remember a few occasions when I wore my most adult clothing (serious business suit type stuff) so I could make sure I presented my adult self --- as if my child wouldn't show up..........HAAAAA

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sorry if this is a dumb question, missc, but what's ET stand for? i can only think of *fingertouch "et go home"* . and i doubt you would look like that, whatever you worse.

SAWE - how did the red/blue combo go? it's sometimes really weird when we change how we typically present ourselves e.g., over summer i was working, so i would see pdoc in my work outfit afterwards. he needed to take a bit of time to adjust - he said he didn't recognise me the first few times he came into the waiting room (this is true - he called 2 ladies who were booked for sessions after me ) and then he was all "argh, i can't break through your professional face to get to the deli inside". because usually i wear my "therapy face", and that is a mask, but it's a less difficult mask to get behind. my professional face is cool, calm and collected. he very much treated me more like an grown up when i came in my work gear.