[pinkpony]

Hi,

What do u guys do when therapy becomes the problem and starts to stress u out. It could be anything- becoming too dependent on ur therapist, living only from session to session, not trying to get on with 'real life' and putting ur life on hold while waiting for therapy to work, SIing partly because you now have an 'audience', knowing that the person who you feel cares so much(therapist) is around only because you pay them to be, etc.

Is it a good idea to quit therapy? Sometimes I feel like maybe i should just forget about it. try to get all my 'issues' out of my head & stop dwelling on them (because the more i think about them the more 'real' they become), and just get on with life.

Sometimes therapy just feels like another drama tht i've created to keep myself from dealing with the real issues.

is it a good idea to forget about therapy if u feel this way?

btw, i felt the same way about psychiatric medication and i feel the same way about all kinds of 'help'. like im just using it as another way to avoid doing what needs to be done.

Hi pinkpony,

Do you feel like you have made any headway with what you call the "real issues" in therapy? Have you talked about those with your therapist?

Also, have you told your therapist anything you just posted?

Hugs to you...I know what you are going through because I feel some of the same myself.

[rainbow8]

I don't call myself a therapy addict for nothing! I know what you mean. Therapy becomes more important than RL, so how do you know if it's helping or hurting you?

Have you discussed this with your T? I suggest doing that first. Do you have goals for your therapy? My goal is to heal whatever is wrong with me so that I don't have this never ending need for the therapy. If I could just quit, I would. So therapy is already the problem, but underneath that, are needs that haven't been met. Do you think that's the case with you?

[3velniai]

I believe that if you could just forget your issues and move on, you would've done it long ago. It's not that easy. I tried it, just quit therapy, forget about everything and move on. Yeah... I survived a month or two and went back. To a different T. The part when therapy seems a bigger problem than those that brought you to T in the first place is temporary. At least for me it was. Change of T helped a lot. I'm not saying that you have to change your T, but for me part of the problem was the first T. Also, a good T would not allow you to create a drama out of therapy to avoid real issues, they have ways to prevent it As ppl here on PC say, trust the process

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by pinkpony

becoming too dependent on ur therapist,
living only from session to session,
not trying to get on with 'real life' and putting ur life on hold while waiting for therapy to work,
SIing partly because you now have an 'audience',
knowing that the person who you feel cares so much(therapist) is around only because you pay them to be, etc.

try to get all my 'issues' out of my head & stop dwelling on them (because the more i think about them the more 'real' they become),

These ^ are all the normal issues that many people have come up in therapy so you must be doing a good job in therapy.

This IS what therapy is about and this is the path of healing.

The only way out is through, keep going......

[pinkpony]

Thanks everyone for the replies and for all the support!

@tractionbeam0610 - I think I have made progress on some of the real issues. I've talked to my therapist about them but therapy itself is becoming a (major)separate issue and I don't wanna talk to her about it becoz its just embarassing!

@rainbow8 - therapy addict? that is such a scary term! bcoz with the type of personality i have, i'm probably in danger of becoming one too. i haven't talked about it with her. I do have goals and perhaps you're right maybe it's because of other issues, i hadn't thought about that!

@3velniai - thanks. one sentence out of your post ("if you could just forget your issues and move on, you would've done it long ago") really made sense to me. That is very true and something I need to keep in mind for a lot of things!

@Sannah - thank you. your post has been very reassuring!

[Perna]

I try to go toward things that are difficult for me (stress me). I don't believe one can understand what is going on or work through the stress unless one does. I don't want to avoid stress, after awhile there is too much of it and the "space" one lives in gets too small. So, I try to understand what is stressing me so it doesn't anymore.

[unico]

For me, living from session to session helped keep my suicidal impulses and depression under control for awhile, but I started seeing the therapist less eventually, when I was doing a bit better. I still think I need to see a therapist more regularly, but can't afford to right now. If you think therapy is causing you more problems than it helps, then I can understand stopping, or at least seeing a new therapist. But I don't know how you weigh how much it's helping vs. causing more problems.

[Oceanwave]

Originally Posted by pinkpony

Hi,

What do u guys do when therapy becomes the problem and starts to stress u out. It could be anything- becoming too dependent on ur therapist, living only from session to session, not trying to get on with 'real life' and putting ur life on hold while waiting for therapy to work, SIing partly because you now have an 'audience', knowing that the person who you feel cares so much(therapist) is around only because you pay them to be, etc.

Is it a good idea to quit therapy? Sometimes I feel like maybe i should just forget about it.

Well, maybe you are right and you should just forget about it if it is not making any difference or makes things worse.

If you are actually SI-ing though that to me indicates that most probably you need to be in therapy - in which case all the above questions are up for discussion with your T.