[Kacey2]

Just humor me ok? Anybody who looks at this thread for the first time would you be so kind as to answer the following questions. Obviously I can't make this anonymous which would even be more fun. However this may be something that we could have future discussions about.

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t.
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients.
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise.
4. I want to be t's favorite client.
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client.
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life.
7. I love my t.
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers.

Thanks to all in advance for participating in my survey. I do not have any real ideas of what to do with the results except to compare my feelings and see which ones are the majority norm to therapy and which ones are my own yuck. I will answer my own survey first. And just a side note on the last question. I had a really weird dream a couple of weeks ago and it was that we found out that we all had the exact same t! In my dream PC turned into mayhem.

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. TRUE
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. TRUE/BOTH
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. TRUE
4. I want to be t's favorite client. TRUE
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. FALSE
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. TRUE
7. I love my t. TRUE (and hate)
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. FALSE

[krisakira]

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. FALSE
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. FALSE
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. FALSE
4. I want to be t's favorite client. FALSE (used to be true with past T)
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. FALSE
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. FALSE
7. I love my t. FALSE
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. TRUE


I think that the results would be different if I still were with my past T, who was my favorite T, before I had to move and get a different one... still miss my old T though

[Dark_Dreams]

This could be fun

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. False
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. False
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. N/A
4. I want to be t's favorite client. False
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. False
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. False
7. I love my t. False
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. True

[mightaswelllive]

lol I feel like this poll was triggered by me though I fully realize that I'm just projecting

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. False (here is why: attachment is not an "issue" - it is a necessary part of the process. A true statement would be: I am attached to my T.)
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. True (very polite, concerned jealousy )
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. False
4. I want to be t's favorite client. True
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. True (/am. )
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. False (OK: equally... though I'm not sure what context of therapy you are referring. Based on the other questions, if you mean T: False. If you mean the issues I work on in therapy, then yes, equally.
7. I love my t. True (don't you?)
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. False (sorry... that's a horrifying thought. mine.)

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t.FALSE (and I don't really understand them in others).
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients.FALSE. I'm not a jealous type.
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. DOES NOT APPLY
4. I want to be t's favorite client.FALSE. I simply want him to give me attention and care that I deserve as his client. Again, not the jealous type.
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client.FALSE. That would be pretty naivve amd presumptuous of me
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. ABSOLUTELY FALSE.
7. I love my t.TRUE
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers.TRUE

True or False

1. I have attatchment issues with my t. TRUE ~ not obsessive, but I depend on her.

2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. TRUE~ with other clients

3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. TRUE

4. I want to be t's favorite client. FALSE ~but I don't want to meet or see the others!

5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. FALSE

6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. FALSE ~ although I do think about therapy A LOT! Therapy is a work in progress not just the work we do in each session. A lot of the work is done between sessions.

7. I love my t. TRUE

8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. Not sure that I could discuss her and what she talks about with all of you. That would difficult. So I guess may answer to this one is FALSE.

[suzzie]

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. true-cant attach (wish it were false)
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. false
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. true
4. I want to be t's favorite client. false (dont want the attention!)
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. false (dont want the attention!)
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. false
7. I love my t. false
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. true

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. true
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. no, i just don't want to hear about them or see them
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. True, I think there should be a manual for beginning trauma survivors in therapy, it is so confusing
4. I want to be t's favorite client.false
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client.i secretly believe t hates me
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. false
7. I love my t. false, hard to love someone when they hate you
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers.i feel if i were a good enough person i would be able to answer "true" the real answer is "false"

what a great idea

[sittingatwatersedge]

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. true/false (trust issues yes, authority issues yes; not sure if ths is what you mean. some kind of problematic love feeling, no)
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. false
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. true (or any other issues)
4. I want to be t's favorite client. true only in one sense
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. false in any sense
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. false
7. I love my t. false
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. true

my $0..02 - its a little concerning to read other PC'er comments on how much they love their T and how much T's love means to them. No criticism is intended in saying this; but if this is essential to therapy, I guess I am missing the boat.
After all thsi time I still think of her as Mrs _____, and if she cares for me it doesn't seem to strike me anything like it does others. I like her a lot, she's kind, and authentic, and is very family-involved which is so admirable to me; I feel lucky to work with someone with the wealth of experience & knowlege that she has, and I realize & value her talents as a therapist - but love - well I guess not, so it seems I am failing at therapy.

[venusss]

my $0..02 - its a little concerning to read other PC'er comments on how much they love their T and how much T's love means to them. No criticism is intended in saying this; but if this is essential to therapy, I guess I am missing the boat.

I guess it depends on what kinds of problems is the person facing. I guess some can do just with the "teacher/trainer", some need the strong relationship as a motivator. You can still trust person whom you aren't deeply attached to in their advice... I guess it depends on how much does the person believe in themselves, if they need more reassurance or rather need to be called out on their behavior...

[sailboat]

first post

1. I have attatchment issues with my t. False (not yet true)
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. True
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. True
4. I want to be t's favorite client. False (who wouldn't like to be some person's favorite anything? But it's not an issue for me)
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. False
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. False
7. I love my t.False
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. True

Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge

but love - well I guess not, so it seems I am failing at therapy.

((((((((((((((((SAWE!!)))))))))))))))))

Everyone needs different things from therapy, and not everyone's therapy will take the same path. That doesn't mean you are failing, any more than someone who loves T is failing. Each individual needs what they need, and feels what they feel. And it's okay.

It reminds me of my T telling me how important our ruptures/repairs are for my therapy (even though we both admitted we don't like going through them). I asked "Are they important for everyone's therapy?" and he said no, that it just depends on the individual client and their history/needs/issues. So, I'm not a failure for having ruptures, and other clients aren't a failure for not having ruptures.

Be gentle with you. You are a good person, not a failure

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. - Not anymore. I used to, but now it feels like a secure, healthy attachment. I'm glad I'm attached.
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. - certain clients, yes. one in particular.
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. YES, BIG TIME
4. I want to be t's favorite client. - True!
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. - LOL - I don't know if I am, but I TELL him I am. Once his phone rang, and I said "oh, there's your favorite client...oh no, wait, it can't be, because your favorite client is sitting RIGHT HERE" lol We talk a lot about why I want to be the "favorite". The feelings is smaller than it used to be, but I still feel it.
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. False, but there was a time earlier in therapy when that was true.
7. I love my t. True, for sure.
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. I think it would be hard to read about T's interaction with other clients. Our relationship is precious to me. But would I still be able to offer support? Yes. For sure.

[granite1]

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. true (not attached )
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. False
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. true
4. I want to be t's favorite client. true
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. false
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. true
7. I love my t. false
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. false

Thanks to all in advance for participating in my survey. I do not have any real ideas of what to do with the results except to compare my feelings and see which ones are the majority norm to therapy and which ones are my own yuck. I will answer my own survey first. And just a side note on the last question. I had a really weird dream a couple of weeks ago and it was that we found out that we all had the exact same t! In my dream PC turned into mayhem.

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. TRUE
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. TRUE/BOTH
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. TRUE
4. I want to be t's favorite client. TRUE
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. FALSE
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. TRUE
7. I love my t. TRUE (and hate)
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. FALSE[/quote]

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t.
God yes.

2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients.
Family yes, big time. Clients, not really.

3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise.
No. I knew this would happen, and I told her straight away that it would. This has happened all my life.

4. I want to be t's favorite client.
No. I don't feel threatened by the others, and I feel loved enough and special enough. I do want to be her child though.

5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client.
I hadn't thought about it like that. I think I do believe that I'm the one that gets the most of her attention.

6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life.
Yes. But I also know that because of therapy I'm living my life now.

7. I love my t.
Yes.

8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers.
Argh! Support them, yes. Care about them, yes. Read about the things my T said and did with them? Not so much. Thanks for sharing this nightmare, Kacey

[Omers]

I'm going to look a little nuts here but I have T and massage T (who does therapy and massage) so I have 2 sets of answers

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. False (and this is the first T I can say that about... in the past I had major attachment issues)
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. False I am however jealous that she loves my cat more than me!
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. False (our very first "real" conversation was about my attachment isses in therapy)
4. I want to be t's favorite client. False (can't imagine my T having favorites... other than my cat.)
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. False (except when I bring the cat)
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. False (I used to but don't any more)
7. I love my t. Very True
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. OMG Aaaah! Nope, wouldn't be OK with it... but would still be OK with fellow PCers.

Massage T

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. On the line with this one.... I have a strong attachment to her that would be an issue with others but she is really good about it. Because she is a massage T she is able to have different boundaries.
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. False
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. True... It had not happened with massage therapists in the past and massage T has a personality I usually can't stand.
4. I want to be t's favorite client. False
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. False
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. close but false
7. I love my t. Very true
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. Maybe. Massage T has a very small number of clients which lets her be very available to me. If her availability changed (even though I rarely use it) I would be really unsettled about it... but it wouldn't matter if they were PCers or not.

[SpiritRunner]

True or False
1. I have attachment issues with my t. - I AM attached to her, true! But it feels like a secure attachment, rather than an attachment issue.
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. - False. Not jealous of her family or her friends or her other clients.
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. - True. Never thought of it. Of course, never realized I would be staying with her very long, or that I had enough issues to end up in therapy when I really went for a teeny bit of counseling!
4. I want to be t's favorite client. - eh, probably true. I guess tho I don't care if I am her very most favorite, because I don't necessarily want her playing favorites! But I am glad to know that I have touched her heart, that she trusts me in a way she can't trust all her clients, that she enjoys working with me....
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. - eh, more true than not! She'll certainly never say, either.....
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. - False right now, although it has been more true some weeks. I try not to obsess, and it's a challenge for me.
7. I love my t. - true. I don't completely buy the idea that my feelings can be explained away as a reaction to/within the therapy process and not to her as a person, too; I see her as a genuine human being, not perfect, but with wonderful qualities that I also see in the other people in my life whom I love the most. She hasn't been a blank slate, and I think I have seen her as she is - and not just as an ideal that I have......
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. - true, although I can't pretend to be so righteous I would think it would be easy! But if everyone here had the same T, I would know you were all in the hands of a very competent and caring T, and that would make me happy for all of you!

[WePow]

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t.
*** True. But it is a negative thing - I fight hard to keep from withdrawing due to my fear (terror) of close relationships of any type.

2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients.
*** False. In fact, I am very glad my T had good people in his life to support him. He is a wonderful human and deserves to have those friends and family. As far as clients, I hope he keeps getting as many as he wants because I want him to stay in private practice until one of us retires!

3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise.
*** False. I went to therapy in college, so I knew a bit more of what to expect.

4. I want to be t's favorite client.
*** False. I know my T cares about me, so that is great. I think my T just has opinions about every client - like a normal person - and there are some clients he likes and others he has to work harder to like.

5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client.
*** False. I know I am one of T's clients he likes, so that is cool.
I do think I may be one of his more interesting clients due to my history. But I don't think that makes me his favorite. I do think I may be high on the list though of those he enjoys seeing in the office.

6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life.
*** True. But it is not about T or even about therapy. It is because I came into therapy with this T when I was at the end of my rope. I was beyond suicidal and was in a full burn-out / mid-life crisis. I should not have waited until I was that broken before searching for help, but it was what it was. So the past year has been spend with all my energy focused on staying alive and working through the trauma healing. Now I am learning the skills I need to have a solid foundation in my life.
The amount of time I think about my therapy healing is lowering with each day as I am starting to be able to live in a healthier way again. But it is a slow journey and I am intentionally staying very close to my T while I find this new balance in life.

7. I love my t.
*** True.

8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers.
*** True~! There are many on PC who already have wonderful Ts though, and that is excellent. But for those who don't have a good T, I wish sometimes I could clone my T and let them have access to him! I believe strongly in the sharing of good medicine!

[Kacey2]

Great answers! I really like it when you guys give a sentence or two explaining a little. .I think that this is very thought provoking and already started a thread from Melbadaze. I love it. Thanks to everyone who has participated. If anybody wants to add more questions feel free.

[bpd mess]

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. true, big time
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. false, but i would like to be part of t's family
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. true
4. I want to be t's favorite client. true
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. sometimes true
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. true, and it drives me crazy
7. I love my t. true, definitely
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. false

[ladyjrnlist]

Here are my responses. Hope this helps.

Originally Posted by Kacey2

Just humor me ok? Anybody who looks at this thread for the first time would you be so kind as to answer the following questions. Obviously I can't make this anonymous which would even be more fun. However this may be something that we could have future discussions about.

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. TRUE
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. FALSE
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. TRUE
4. I want to be t's favorite client. TRUE
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. TRUE
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. FALSE
7. I love my t. TRUE (not romantic)
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. TRUE

Thanks to all in advance for participating in my survey. I do not have any real ideas of what to do with the results except to compare my feelings and see which ones are the majority norm to therapy and which ones are my own yuck. I will answer my own survey first. And just a side note on the last question. I had a really weird dream a couple of weeks ago and it was that we found out that we all had the exact same t! In my dream PC turned into mayhem.

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. TRUE
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. TRUE/BOTH
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. TRUE
4. I want to be t's favorite client. TRUE
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. FALSE
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. TRUE
7. I love my t. TRUE (and hate)
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. FALSE

[Travelinglady]

If I had done this survey concerning a T I had years ago, then I would have indicated that I was very attached, jealous, "in love," and so on. We were dealing with very intense psychotherapy, with her working on "re-parenting" me, so I guess I was like a little kid, being very attached to "mommy," wanting her to love me best, jealous of my "brothers and sisters" and anyone else who came between us, etc.

But I have had a number of T's since then, with varying levels of attachment, but no jealousy, etc. It does depend on the type of therapy that's taking place. I didn't expect all that to happen, but I do think it was needed for me to work through my major issues. I don't think, then, that anyone should preceive it as "wrong" or "inappropriate," if that's what the patient needs at the time....

I do like my current T and respect her thoughts. If we didn't care what a T thought, then I think it wouldn't be a very therapeutic relationship. However, I perceive my current relationship comes from where I am now and the less serious issues I'm dealing with. I'm now more in "supportive therapy," where I'm talking about what's gone on during the last week since I saw her and so on, with her helping me to get through the trials of life at the present mainly.

[sunrise]

1. I have attatchment issues with my t.
False. I am strongly and securely attached to my T but I do not have any issues. Attachment for me is a positive thing.
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients.
False. I feel a kinship with my T's other clients and like hearing about his family.
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise.
N/A. I had not heard of issues arising and they haven't. It has been interesting to participate on PC and learn of the issues some clients experience.
4. I want to be t's favorite client.
False. I am OK just being honored, appreciated, and valued for who I am.
5. I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client.
False. I don't secretly believe this, I openingly know it. T has told me I am one of his favorite people in the world. It is not that important to me though to be his very favorite. I am extremely HONORED to be one of favorite people. He is one of mine too.
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life.
False. But earlier in therapy, this was probably true.
7. I love my t.
True. Absolutely.
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers.
False/True. I am not sure I would be OK with it, as people here describe their Ts often as being so different from mine, so I would have a hard time reconciling what they report with what I experience with my T. But I would probably be able to continue to offer support.

[velcro003]

Good questions, Kacey!

True or False
1. I have attatchment issues with my t. I think so. I don't let myself feel too close to her because I'm too scared of the potential hurt.
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. No, I just don't even think about other clients. I like to believe I'm the only one! One of her daughters' participates in some of the programs at my work, so I've seen my T and her partner..but I'm not jealous of it.
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. I knew there was some deeper stuff, though I didn't think I would still be in it 3 years later.
4. I want to be t's favorite client. Nah, I'm her ONLY client!
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. I am pretty sure I'm not
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. I go through periods, but not right now, though therapy is a huge part of my life.
7. I love my t. No. I like her, and think she is professional and well-qualified, but don't "love."
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. Sure! It would be VERY interesting. Though I may have to back off because it would be odd to see how people react to T's different ways.

[rainbow8]

True or False
1. I have attachment issues with my t. YES, but I think I have a secure attachment to her, different from what I had with any other T.
2. I have jealousy issues regarding either my t's family or my t's other clients. YES
3. I started therapy blindly, completely unaware that such issues would even arise. My first time in therapy the answer was "yes". Since then, attachment has been my biggest issue and I told my T that before our 1st session.
4. I want to be t's favorite client. NO, it's good enough that she has told me she likes me--more than once.
5 I secretly believe that I am t's favorite client. NO
6. I think about therapy more than any other element of my life. YES
7. I love my t. This is a hard question to answer. I want her to love me, but I don't know if I love HER. I like her very much and need her, but it doesn't seem the same as love.
8.If I were to find out that everyone else here on PC had the same t as myself I would be ok with that. And be able to continue to offer support and caring to my fellow PCers. YES. We'd have such great discussions about IFS and EMDR!