[racee]

Oh therapy what did i do to deserve this. why can't psychiatrists get it through thier heads that therapy is a safe place for us, and if they don't show up for an appointment we feel abandoned (especially if we have issues in that area ,neglected, and like your trying to give us a hint!

I know she has forgot about me before but she was at least there and we rescheduled later that day but yesterday! i waited 25 minutes (yes i am that kind of person hopefull) and no sign, i am also the person who wont call because i feel like i would be imposing and i am in the wrong somehow. I am also the type where if there is no sign out i won't knock but wait because i am too afraid someone is in there and i will ruin their session

we had a major breakthrough and i finally opened up about a few things and it was wonderful, at the same time when i tell people about that certain subject i feel shame and for opening up and i get mad at them for getting me to talk about it so what i did was schedule the next appointment for a month away to give me time to calm down and regroup (yes it takes that long)

so when she didn't show i thought, great she thinks i'm a horrible person (which i'm sure she doesn't) but the whole coincidence with everything was just too unerving. and basically put me out becasue i don't leave the house much and getting up the courage and mood just to leave took a bit.
so anyway now feeling sad about it i went to the store got some coconut bliss dark chocolate ice cream bars went home layed in bed and watched netflix.

I know most of this probably would have been resolved if i called her, i get nervous when i call people, she has yet to call, i need to just leave a message on her V.M. service and not direct cell phone line. funny thing is she live right down the street from me but we respect our privacy's

I think i'm scared because i'm afraid it's my fault somehow. i know thats probably childhood issues about that somehow but maybe i should have waited longer.

[ECHOES]

I think you will feel the way you feel until you begin the process of finding out what happened.

I think you wated long enough.
And now you need to know if you and she had the same date for your appointment or different dates or there was some other kind of innocent mix-up.

[WePow]

You deserve sanity and peace about this. Please call and leave a msg just saying "I waited and you did not show. Did I have the time wrong? When is my next session?"

She may have had the time wrong and thought YOU didn't show up. So it needs to be clarified.

Did you call? Is everything okay?

[learning1]

I hate it when there is a scheduling mistake and I've had it happen a lot. Sometimes t's fault, sometimes mine. So I have an idea how upsetting it is. Still, you should call and find out.

[mixedup_emotions]

racee, I can understand how hard it is to take that step and reach out to T to find out what happened or to let T know you were there waiting....And the awful feelings that it brings up are so so so hard to deal with it.

I find that I tend to take something and turn it into something bigger than what it is...or, by not addressing it, it adds so much more turmoil for me. Of course, the act of raising it with T, in itself, is incredibly stressful...but I find that by finding my voice and addressing it, it generally leads to a great deal of relief...and sometimes great understanding.

The pain and process of what you're going through is also something worth sharing with T, as it could be incredibly vital to your therapy.

(((( strength vibes ))))

[sunrise]

racee, when I was first getting started with my PNP, it seems like we frequently had schedule snafus--she would think it was one day or time, and I would think it was another. I started emailing her a day or two before every appointment for confirmation. It would just be a brief message, "just wanted to confirm we are meeting this Wednesday at 2:30 pm" or something like this. This really helped us get on track. If she did back out at least I had a day or two notice and didn't show up at her office. Now we have greater trust on this issue, and she is better about keeping her schedule straight and I don't feel the need to email her for confirmation. Yes, we shouldn't have to do something like that, but if it helps the appointment happen as planned, then it is worth it.

Hope you can get it sorted out with your psychiatrist.

[lastyearisblank]

My psychiatrist stood me up a few weeks ago. It's such a turn off but if you go back they generally have a good reason and it's worth it.

[disguise123]

do call her, its such a waste after all your hard work not to!
Xx

[WikidPissah]

My old T and I had a few scheduling conflicts. I would show up at the office and his door would be open but he wouldn't be in his room. I would wait, 20 min or so, then leave. The first thing I thought every time was "I screwed it up again." I never once thought that he messed up or anything. So I would call and leave a VM...something like "I think I screwed up the appt time again, can you call me back and let me know when it is, or if we can reschedule". I always paid for the missed appt if he had me at a different time then I thought. Well, over the years I have learned something. I have never screwed up an apt with any other T, doctor, pdoc, hairdresser...etc, you name it. Makes me wonder.

[racee]

haven't called her yet... i waited too long than it became the weekend....and i hate bugging her on weekends. i'll call monday...makes me think i wonder if she put me down for the 10th?... i'm better about it now..i just get diapointed ya know.
yeah it doesn't seem right how at times if we miss appointments with people we have to pay for the appointment or get chewed out ,but if the tables are turned we are just supposed to accept that (people make mistakes) and brush it off.....we should charge them if they don't call 24hrs in advance! lol my rant for the day

My T always writes down the next appt time on a little card for me. Perhaps your T could do that.

Just my 2cents.

[racee]

yeah she did do that.....i also have two organizers that get used and misplaced..my memory works for 5 minutes worth of memory even my sticky notes get misplaced it's hard to stay focused and my my wonders so even if i think i put things in the right place it's not there when i look for it..i'm a work in progress