[zooropa]

I called T, she called me back a few hours later, but I wasn't able to answer right then, and she left me a voicemail. I called her back, left another message.

So the next day she texted me, and I asked her a question, but for some reason she didn't get that text until the afternoon, several hours later.

I called her AGAIN this morning, still haven't heard back from her.

It's just...I know T isn't doing this, I know I'm not doing it, but man. It sucks how we just seem to be playing endless rounds of phone tag. I'm trying to tell myself that it's good, it's showing me that I can sometimes work through whatever is going on without T's support in the moment. But really it just feels pretty bad and I'm so discouraged and worn out and upset. I don't know what T could say that would help, or if there IS anything that would help, but I'd like to at least talk to her for 5 measly minutes.

[darkrunner]

(((((((Zooropa)))))))

Sorry you're playing T phone tag.

Maybe you could ask her to give you a timeframe that would be best to call, where you'd be most likely to reach her?

[karebear1]

Well, that's frustrating Zoo! - I understand why you are seeking her out. For me just hearing T's voice is calming and helps me settle. Did she say anything in the message she left that you can just hold onto until you do finally contact her. Can you hold onto the idea that she called and left a message and then she texted you as well?? Darkrunner has a great idea with the time frame thing. Just keep reaching out- you'll connect soon.

[SpiritRunner]

Zoo, I'm sorry you're having trouble connecting when you need to so badly....the time frame thing is a good idea. I hope you can connect with her, too!

[rainbow8]

((((((zoo))))))

I hope you can connect with your T soon!!! It's crummy to have to play phone tag with a T! I agree that it would be a good idea for you both to tell each other a time you can be reached.

How are you doing with your kids and all? Are you still feeling as overwhlemed? I think you posted that it was getting a little better. I hope so!!

[zooropa]

T hasn't returned the message I left this morning. I don't even...I am trying to be okay, thinking she will call me tomorrow. I don't want to call her again right now because it's getting late-ish (9pm) and I'm not exactly in a crisis right this very second. It seems like it would be rude to call her now.

I went to juvenile court with my boys today. I'm not handling the behavior problems of my 16 year old who has ODD very well. It is wearing me down. And down. And down.

I just need to know T is out there. I need to know she cares and that she's not thinking "wow, that situation sucks, I don't know how to help so I will avoid it."

ok, so I just sent this email to T. I'm going to bed now.

So, we've pretty much been playing phone tag since Monday. I am trying to take this in stride, which as you may know isn't exactly easy for me. I'm trying to trust that you just haven't had time to call me back, and trying not to think that you are avoiding me because you don't know how to help. Or for any other reason, actually.

I feel like I'm on the verge of calling you too much, or that I will be bugging you if I do, so I was wondering if you could let me know when might be a good time to call you?

thanks

[mixedup_emotions]

((( zoo )))

How frustrating!! And I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with your 16 year old. That, in itself, is incredibly draining on your resources...and very difficult to endure alone.

Your email to T was great. You expressed your concerns and your needs...and I really hope that T gets back to you soon. I know that my emotions go haywire when it comes to waiting for a response from T.

((((( BIG HUGS )))))

[PTSDlovemycats]

Phone tag sucks and when it is with T, that is ALWAYS THE WORST!! Big Hugs Zoo!!

[zooropa]

I don't know if she got my email, but T called me this morning. Unfortunately, I was taking my kids to school so couldn't answer the phone.

She left a message letting me know when would be a good time to call her, though, so I will try again to connect with her this afternoon.

[SpiritRunner]

Originally Posted by zooropa

I don't know if she got my email, but T called me this morning. Unfortunately, I was taking my kids to school so couldn't answer the phone.

She left a message letting me know when would be a good time to call her, though, so I will try again to connect with her this afternoon.

I'm glad she let you know a good time to call, and hope you can connect with her!

Zoo, it sounds really stressful. That was a fab skilful email to T- well done. So glad you now know when you can catch her. Hope you get what you need

[zooropa]

it got to be time that T said she would be free, and I couldn't think why I had called her, or what I would say. So I texted, thanked her for her message and for calling, and said I don't have anything to say right now, so I will see her on Monday. She wrote back and said "k. call if you want or need to."

I feel lame for not connecting to her when I finally have the chance, but I'm just really blah right now and don't know what I would say, and I think that would be frustrating to her to have me call for no real reason. Of course now I'm sad that I didn't call, but still can't think of anything to say, so here I sit.