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Old Jul 22, 2011, 07:37 PM
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I kinda put this on the end of another post, but I wanted to find out how many people email with their Ts. I think that is great! I never asked my T to do this and am not even sure that she does this with her clients.
How did all of you start emailing back and forth? Thanks!

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Old Jul 22, 2011, 07:39 PM
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My T said that emailing her is perfectly ok...she even gave me her business card several times. Sometimes I do want to contact her, and I'll plan the email in my head, but when it comes down to actually doing so, I can't. In case anything I write sounds strange and needs clarification, I want to be able to do it as soon as she reads (or hears) it.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 07:43 PM
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My T doesn't use email, none of my Ts have.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 07:46 PM
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I've only done it for scheduling and canceling appointments. Some T's I've had use email and some didn't seem to use it with clients. I can't imagine they don't use it at all?
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 07:52 PM
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I've only done it for scheduling and canceling appointments. Some T's I've had use email and some didn't seem to use it with clients. I can't imagine they don't use it at all?
I didn't mean not at all, I meant in the context of using it with clients none of them have.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 08:01 PM
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My t does not use email with clients. If I need him, I simply give him a call, leave a message, and he gets back to me that same day. I've never had a t that used email.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 08:05 PM
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I use lots of emailing with T to keep informed on what's going on since there's always so much. It helps me purge it all out and have a place to put it.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 08:29 PM
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My T seems to like emails.

I send a couple lines... and if T sees it fit, I get back an essay or two.
T's sarcasm matches mine sometimes, which causes me to lol when I get the emails.
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I kinda put this on the end of another post, but I wanted to find out how many people email with their Ts. I think that is great! I never asked my T to do this and am not even sure that she does this with her clients.
How did all of you start emailing back and forth? Thanks!

Hi,
I email my T and he has always emailed back. The emails started when my T emailed me some information, and I emailed him back. I emailed him again (about something else) and he answered, so I just assumed it was ok to email.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 10:06 PM
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Nope. My T does not use electronic communication with clients, I asked.

Sometimes I wish she would, but then the agony of waiting for a response and misinterpreting the written word would likely kill me. So I'm glad she doesn't.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 10:23 PM
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I email my T almost daily because I know she wants to kno every minute detail of my life
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 10:28 PM
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I e-mail with T...I know I'm the first client he's used e-mail with, but I don't know if I'm the only one. I kind of doubt it, since we started using it 4 years ago.

He will only reply if I ask him to using these four specific words (that I now abbreviate)....actually, that's not true. That's how it used to be, but now I can ask for a reply (without those words) and I'll get one.

Sometimes T sends me the most wonderful, perfect e-mails. I treasure those. Sometimes not so much

I don't ask for replies a lot...but I like writing to let him know what's going on. I'm way way dissociative and if I don't let him know things as they're happening, they are just *poof* gone.

I do really like being able to e-mail with him. It makes me FEEL like our relationship exists between sessions. I know intellectually it does, but it's nice to feel it too.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 10:32 PM
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I email about rescheduling appointments. Once in a blue moon T will email me about something, like here is female healer I thought you would really like to know about and give me a link. I don't usually email him about therapy concerns but just scheduling. Within the last couple of weeks I did email him about something big that was happening in my life and he emailed back a very brief note of support. That was good and helped me. That is about it for us. It works.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 10:55 PM
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My T encourages me to email her. I use it as a way to process sessions or deal with stressful situations or to just check in with T. There have been times when I'm struggling with something and T has specifically asked me to email her an update. However, my T does not give detailed replies to emails. She always replies, but it's usually just a sentence or two. Anything more detailed gets a phone call or waits until our next session. She also does not reply on weekends and usually only replies to emails in the morning during the week. So, she's asked me to always call for anything urgent.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 11:37 PM
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I email my T just about every day. She says she likes getting emails. Sometimes when I'm having a particularly hard time she might say "I want you to send me at least 10 emails this weekend." But she's weird like that. As for how we started that, my T is kinda famous and her email is all over her website...she probably also said I could email her, but I don't remember. She does a lot of online work.
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Old Jul 22, 2011, 11:44 PM
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My T lets me email him - although he does not like doing therapy by email and prefers that we either talk on the phone or are face to face.
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Old Jul 23, 2011, 01:33 AM
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Nope, we text.
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Old Jul 23, 2011, 01:54 AM
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No, T and I do not use e-mail. She did give me her e-mail address awhile back, but it was only so I could send her an attachment. Honestly, I'm surprised she gave me her e-mail address at all. In doing so, she had to trust that I would only e-mail her under appropriate circumstances and not become a "crazy e-mailer." Luckily, her trust was well-placed; I have maintained proper e-mail protocols (and contact boundaries in general). However, if I were in her position, I don't think I would have been as cavalier about handing over the @gmail!
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Old Jul 23, 2011, 02:34 AM
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I e-mail my T.

I think it started after a session where I wanted to say lots of things but couldn't. I try not to, but when my brain gets overloaded with stuff it helps me to carry on functioning if I can write it all down and send it - I don't need to have a detailed reply, it is enopugh to know that my T knows. At the most it has been 3 per week, but some weeks I don't send any.

I get a brief reply / acknowledgment mostly. My T has said we can use it more, but that may mean renegotiating their fee as it would be using more of their time - which I think is fair.

However my T does not bring up my e-mails in the sessions - I think this is try to force/ encourage me to talk about these things there in the session.

I know my T would prefer that I used the phone, but I just can't do that.
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Old Jul 23, 2011, 04:25 AM
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My email started about 6 months into my therapy. Not sure how that came up. I think I may have been upset about something, and just sent an email without even asking her. She was elated! Her words were something like, "YAY! Now I see that you are a writer. I love it! Keep them coming."

My therapy was struggling really bad and I was to the point of giving up ~ thinking that therapy was just not right for me. I am sure that was probably what I wrote about in that first email.

She does respond to almost every email. If the content is a bit too complicated, she will acknowledge that she received it, and then tell me that she would prefer to talk about it in our next session. She allows me to call her if I don't feel that I can wait, but I have only called her twice in the past 16 months. I don't do well with phone calls.

Luckily for me, I am the only client that emails her to process. She is in private practice (part time) so this makes it wonderful for me! I don't have to worry so much that she is being bombarded with too many clients sending her emails. If that were the case, I don't think she would be able to respond to me in such detail like she does.
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Old Jul 23, 2011, 01:14 PM
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I do e-mail my T. He has realized that writing is often an easier way for me to express myself. Most often I will tell him I don't need him to respond, I am just sharing some thoughts but he always does with-in a short period of time. Sometimes it is just a few words, other times it is more. I don't like to call him on the phone, even if it is urgent. I feel like e-mail is less interrupting to what he is doing and I know he is always on his computer if he is not with a patient.( He is semi-retired) His computer goes everywhere with him. Even when He goes on vacation, he invites me to write to him to feel more connected,though reminds me it will take a little longer to get back to me if he is off doing something.
I try to be reasonable about it all though, and at the most send one e-mail between our weekly sessions. If something came up that I felt I really need him I know it would be ok to send him another, but he is so giving of his time as it is I don't ever want to abuse it.
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Old Jul 23, 2011, 03:23 PM
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I will have to get up enough courage to ask my T about emailing. I love to write and think that email would be great, I just don't know if she does that with her clients.
I love the fact that so many of you either text or email your Ts.
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Old Jul 23, 2011, 05:36 PM
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My T lets me email her. She took my email before my first session and said she liked to send email reminders of appointments. At the end of a couple sessions she has said to email her and let her know about things we had talked about that I was going to do. She normally responds within 24 hours with at least a couple senetences.
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Old Jul 23, 2011, 06:09 PM
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Not me. I would never be comfortable with that because I would worry too much about confidentiality.
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Old Jul 23, 2011, 09:26 PM
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I do and he answers every one. He is awsome!
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