Is there something you want your therapist to tell you?

Come here everything's going to be alright. You're a lovely girl, and you will find your place in life.

your words are important
i believe you
i dont hate you

I am finally coming hme after this whole freaking year away and i am never going away again.

still waiting on that one

She already tells me everythng else i need to hear. I just need to hear THAT one..

The reason I say x is for y.
The way therapy works is x.

"I admit that it was wrong of me to tell you that you life is a soap opera."

i want her to tell me that i am going to be ok that i can trust that she knows how to help me.but mostly i want to feel that.anyone can just say the words.

You are special. You are worthy of being loved. I don't think that you are stupid, or selfish, or messed up-crazy. I won't abandon you.

Oh, and I will hug you as long as you want. I know you need it. (she doesn't hug.)

He's already said "You are safe with me." That felt good to hear. Now if he would only say:

I care about you.
I'm here for you. email me any time.

I feel so fortunate with my T. I've been in a caring, supportive relationship with him for six years, and I can honestly say that he's expressed everything I've needed to hear from him. I know where I stand, I trust him and the relationship, I've earned his respect, care and support - I know he's with me and will never give up on me until we terminate.

She has said the following, which was meaningful to me:
"I'm not going anywhere."
"I love you."
"Do you realize how much you're worth?"
"It's okay."
"I forgive you."
"I've been where you are."
"____ made me think of you this week." (Outside of session)
"I promise you there will be healing."

These were very validating to me.

My fantasy phrases:
"I would love to have a daughter like you."
"May I sit next to you and put my arm around you?"
"I genuinely like you as a person."
"I'll always be there for you, even after your therapy is over, if you need me."

only thing i can think of is i'd like her to be psychic and tell me "it's ok to ask me for a hug i won't say no" cuz I'm still too chickensh!t to ask.....

T has already said one thing that I had wished would come out of his mouth at the beginning of disclosing rape and he said he wasn't going anywhere in response to me saying I could either run far away from this whole process or jump right in.. wasn't sure which one at that point. However, my problem is believeing in. So, do think I want him to say anything else is futile b/c I am not sure I could believe it.

Your right and i'm sorry.

she has said these things before that were nice and helpful:

- you're going to be ok struggling
- you're doing good
- im honored that you feel that way (after i told her she reminds me of what i wish my mom would've been)
- i like you

What i wish she would say right now.......

" i can be the rock that you need right now. i WANT you to call me when you're struggling and cant pull yourself out of it. dont go to sleep. call me instead"

im having a really rough time right now...rougher than i think she knows. but im not good at reaching out for help. i would love to be able to know what its like to be able to depend on someone who can help. someone who can hold everything together while i fall apart. i know i CAN call but i need a little more encouraging to actually do it. and i dont want to get used to doing it.

My T has said many of the things I wanted to hear including today when she said, "I will think about you next week when I am on vacation." My inner child would like to hear that one more time, though, lol, because she is feeling a bit vulnerable.

I'm not gonna ever try to send you to a hospital. =P

"You mean more to me than the paycheck"
"You're a joy to be around and I would be sad if you took your life"
"I truly care about your health, well-being, and you just being YOU"
"I think about you outside of this 50-minute boundary (i.e. I wonder how you're doing when you're not here- I care about you enough that you cross my mind occasionally even when you're not within these walls)"
"I DO have confidence in my ability to help you, but even if I DIDN'T, I would tell you"
"I will always be honest with you: I won't go behind your back. It's your treatment and you will be involved in every process and every decision"

And last but not least, the FINALE: "Allein, YOU ARE LOVED. I BELIEVE IN YOU. I WILL NEVER ABANDON YOU."

"i miss you" no idea how he feels. it's only been a week since he moved placements and i suspect he's forgotten me already.

One more, drifting into a real fantasy world here:

"I'm going to sit down on the couch next to you, and you can lean your head against my shoulder for as long as you want. And if you need it, I'll give you a hug so you'll feel safe and protected and loved. And we can stay this way the whole session if you want."

Ain't never gonna happen. But a girl can dream.

I will protect you, like you've needed for so long.

You are a good woman. You have a good heart.

"Yes. I understand why you need to talk about the relationship. Let's do that."

I can relate to that!