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#1
Aug 23, 2011, 09:31 PM
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it's so hard when feelings are triggered by your therapist ... and you have to go to session and talk about that... my session is on thursday... and I'm feeling very overwhelmed.
 i feel very alone. 
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#2
Aug 23, 2011, 09:36 PM
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((((((((rainbow rose)))))))))
I'm so sorry you feel alone Maybe it can help a little bit to know that there is a community of people here who understand, who really GET it, AND who care about you??  I used to feel like it was almost a waste of therapy time and money to go and deal with the feelings that were triggered by T...by the big feelings that were triggered by him, or the ruptures we had, or really anything that had to do with the therapy relationship. But honestly, now that I am able to look back with some perspective, I see how important those sessions were. Maybe the most important, really. Because they taught me SO much about myself, and about relationships, and about honesty, and about dealing with feelings, and about trust, and so many other things...and without that stuff, I couldn't have done the other hard work I've had to do. And for me, nothing else from therapy translates into the "real world" more than the work I do with T on the relationship itself. It's made all of my relationships better. BUT. I know that when you're in it, it. just. sucks. I know SO well. So I am sending lots of hugs and wishes for some moments of peace while you work through the yuck 
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| BonnieJean, rainbow_rose, skysblue
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#3
Aug 23, 2011, 09:56 PM
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Rainbow Rose - I know what you mean. Having to face T when you're triggered by T is something I didn't sign up for (I thought).
Treehouse, thanks for offering your perspective. I know it's true. My issues will be resolved within the T relationship and if they're not faced there, it's doubtful they'll be faced at all. |
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Aug 23, 2011, 10:35 PM
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(((((((((Rainbow Rose)))))))))) for what it's worth, we're here with you
Would anything make it feel less overwhelming? eg. does writing down what came up last session lesson or increase the hard feelings
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#5
Aug 23, 2011, 11:00 PM
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tigergirl - I've found a way to show her how I'm feeling. i have an art therapy journal where I've tried to show it.
It's just me ... in the same room with my feelings ... and the person who triggered them. ... I don't do that. that's not my M.O. i see dissociation happening 'cause I don't know any other way to handle it at this time. (I start to dissociate just by imagining my session) i can't think of what to do to keep myself present ... or i just wonder if I need to be... let the feelings be as they present themselves. but i don't want to feel it. seeing her will force me to do that. (and I feel like I'm whining. ... sorry 'bout that )
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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Aug 24, 2011, 04:34 AM
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Think about how relieved you'll feel when the session is done and the hard part is over?
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#7
Aug 24, 2011, 05:01 AM
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wow do i know this panic.sometimes talking to T about these feelings can really help the trust and bring you a lot closer.to see that you and you relationship with your T can survive these strong feelings.and can maybe even learn from them.but it does mean taking a huge risk to share them with T and believe me i know how scary that can be.
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#8
Aug 24, 2011, 02:56 PM
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I hear you and support you in talking to your T. I got triggered by something my T said in session yesterday and even though it was HARD, was able to talk about it.
However, I was still feeling like this little kid today and called my T to do a phone session. Hang in there! |
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#9
Aug 24, 2011, 02:59 PM
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I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. I do hope you feel better really quickly.
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Aug 24, 2011, 08:55 PM
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You're not alone, rainbow_rose! You've got all of us supporting you.
. Can I jump in your pocket tomorrow? You're not whining, just stating your feelings. I know it's the hardest thing to talk about T triggering you, but it's probably the most productive and healing for you. When I felt so bad after the hug from my T last week, I knew I had to tell her even though it was SHE who caused it. But it's not really about our T; it's about others in our life, so talking about it will definitely help. You have drawings to show your feelings? That's great! I hope you can share what you're feeling tomorrow, at least some of it.
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Aug 24, 2011, 10:16 PM
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thanks, everyone for the support!!
 rainbow, i more than welcome pocket riders. I'd appreciate that. I've never had pocket riders before.
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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Aug 24, 2011, 10:46 PM
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willing to pocket ride as well  ...... and I really didn't hear any whining in what you were saying, more just sharing what is going on for you and your concerns there if it's not too .. personal, can you share a bit about your art therapy journal? if it is, ignore that question __________________
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Aug 25, 2011, 07:18 AM
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leaving in 15 min......
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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Aug 25, 2011, 06:33 PM
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How was your session? I'm thinking about you!!
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Aug 25, 2011, 06:37 PM
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Aug 25, 2011, 06:39 PM
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i hope you are ok.and T went ok.we are here
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Aug 25, 2011, 06:58 PM
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((rainbow_rose)) How did it go today? Thinking of you.
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#18
Aug 25, 2011, 08:19 PM
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you guys are so sweet!!
thank you for checking on me. I am ok. I will post about my session in a new thread in a bit. to all.
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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