[stopdog]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

FANTASY ANSWERS:
1. I've had good teachers and good training, but only you know how you feel.
2. Yes.
3. Because therapy saved my life and I want to share that with others.

My fantasy answers:

1. Not a clue. There is no rhyme or reason for anything I ask you.
2. Of course not. I am not a whacko.
3. There was less math required for this than to become a real scientist.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by sunrise

Do therapists make provisions for their clients if they die?

Do they have a list of their clients and phone numbers and a designated person who will contact them and inform of the death? Do they have a letter that provides referrals for the clients?

Just wondering if therapists provide for this. There was a professor I knew once who had letters of recommendation for all the people in his group, should he die.

This is something I would never ask my T (don't want to be morbid) so it would be the sort of thing I would ask on an anonymous forum.

As mine is quite old, we did have this sort of conversation. It went fine. I did not think of it as morbid, just super reality time.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by stopdog

As mine is quite old, we did have this sort of conversation. It went fine. I did not think of it as morbid, just super reality time.

What were your T's answers? Had he made any provisions?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by stopdog

3. There was less math required for this than to become a real scientist.

rotflmao

[mommyof2girls]

If you could pick one patient to run away with ( if you could without consequences ) who would it be?????

[pbutton]

Originally Posted by stopdog

My fantasy answers:

3. There was less math required for this than to become a real scientist.

HAHAHA.. dying with laughter here... my T and I have had a few moments where I've realized his math skills aren't all that hot. Of course I'm a total numbers-geek. So it sorta makes me feel like T and I don't have much in common.

[mcl6136]

Are you tired and a bit burned out, or just kinda slow witted and maybe even dumb?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by mcl6136

Are you tired and a bit burned out, or just kinda slow witted and maybe even dumb?

been there, said that! (my T's earn EVERY penny!)

[sittingatwatersedge]

Hm. I wouldn't trust enough in any promise of "anonymity" to post a question at all.

Or - I'd be sure that my T would recognize me in the question. Then I would waste time on whether she might wonder at, or even dislike, my going outside the room to lay the question before a lot of other, unseen, unknown Ts. (*)

Just speaking for myself, better to try to ask her directly, if something has to be asked, even if really really hard.

(*) I'm not sure she approves of "going outside the room" even to the extend of PC; whenever I have mentioned it (just twice, in a veiled way), I see lots of questions in her eyes, but she has never asked them or tried to dissuade me from participating here, which I am glad of.

Would it gross you out to know that an unattractive client thinks about sex with you sometimes?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

Would it gross you out to know that an unattractive client thinks about sex with you sometimes?

LOL - they probably have at least one class session devoted to this - How to keep from gagging or laughing at stuff! After a while, I bet they just think, here we go again! I mentioned THAT to my T, and he tried REALLY hard to look innocent! We assume a lot, but I think sometimes they assume more.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by pbutton

HAHAHA.. dying with laughter here... my T and I have had a few moments where I've realized his math skills aren't all that hot. Of course I'm a total numbers-geek. So it sorta makes me feel like T and I don't have much in common.

I assumed my T was innumerate, but I was wrong.

She said, "Trying to be happy without ever being sad is like trying to do maths without negative numbers." I know some maths history, and I know full well the ludicrous knots mathematicians used to tie themselves in to avoid negative quantities.

[crazycanbegood]

Originally Posted by crazycanbegood

I asked my T this. KINDA. I asked her if she ever felt attracted to one of her clients.

She said she had one client whom she found very attractive. She said he was objectively attractive.

Originally Posted by sunrise

Do therapists make provisions for their clients if they die?

Do they have a list of their clients and phone numbers and a designated person who will contact them and inform of the death? Do they have a letter that provides referrals for the clients?

Just wondering if therapists provide for this. There was a professor I knew once who had letters of recommendation for all the people in his group, should he die.

This is something I would never ask my T (don't want to be morbid) so it would be the sort of thing I would ask on an anonymous forum.

I DID ask my T about this Sunny...and he was like "huh. I never thought about that" REALLY, T?!

I asked him how I would find out if something happened to him, what would happen to my file, etc. And he kind of scratched his head. He said "that's something I should probably think about".

That was a couple of years ago, and I haven't asked him since then, so I don't know if he ever did anything about it.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by sunrise

What were your T's answers? Had he made any provisions?

Mine shares a small renovated building with a few other ts. I was told (t was the one who brought up death) that one of them would let clients know if anything happened and would be able to assist with both her death and finding a new t if a client wanted it.

[skysblue]

I once said to T, "You don't know what it's like spilling your guts to a T." And she didn't respond by saying whether she knew or not. So, my question would be, "DO you know what it's like to feel so exposed and vulnerable? Have you experienced the absolute panic and fear of being 'naked' in front of T?"

[Chopin99]

Originally Posted by skysblue

I once said to T, "You don't know what it's like spilling your guts to a T." And she didn't respond by saying whether she knew or not. So, my question would be, "DO you know what it's like to feel so exposed and vulnerable? Have you experienced the absolute panic and fear of being 'naked' in front of T?"

Actually, my T actually told me she knew exactly what it was like to be in my shoes. She suffered from severe social anxiety, depression, general anxiety and has been suicidal. She said she was in therapy a long time before she became a therapist. My T has a habit of breaking the "self-disclosure" boundary.

[nannypat]

I would ask my T if he would parent my adult children for a while. I need a break.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by treehouse

I DID ask my T about this Sunny...and he was like "huh. I never thought about that" REALLY, T?!

I asked him how I would find out if something happened to him, what would happen to my file, etc. And he kind of scratched his head. He said "that's something I should probably think about".

That was a couple of years ago, and I haven't asked him since then, so I don't know if he ever did anything about it.

I think he has delusions of immortality!

Time to ask him again?

[OneRedRose]

I actually asked my T the question I always wanted to ask, but I didnt get a full answer (i guess her answer may have given away other peoples cases so she was being careful) I asked if when dealing with phobias and stuff like that (as we currently are) how does she cope? hearing about something so often must rub off on her eventually?

she just said it doesnt really effect her, but in the case of my phobia she is alot more aware of it in her surroundings now, when before she didnt really notice but now she does.

[ariatboot]

1. Do you really mean it when you say 'you can call me any time when you need me'?

2. When I go through a crisis, do you really care or do you just sigh and think to yourself here we go again?

3. How can you go from a tough session talking about abuse and other crap to your next session with a good attitude like all you talked about in your previous session was sunshine and daisies?

4. Do you get frustrated with clients that make slow progress and wish they would just quit therapy or look for reasons to terminate their therapy?

I could go on but I will stop.

[skysblue]

Do you really understand what your clients are going through or have you perfected your 'empathic' presentation?