Help Me!?!

Sometimes I just want to stand on top of a chair and yell at the top of my voice: "Help me!!!!!!!!!!"

And I will feel ignored.

Sorry Lauru!

its dangerous, u fall off.how are u feeling?

Don't feel ignored, Lauru. We're here, if no one else!

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(((((Lauru)))))

The feeling is familiar.

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Thanks all for the hugs and replies. I have so much going on, everything is hitting the fan all at once. I want to fall back in to old ways to ask for help. If I do it moderately, by simply asking for help, it will be ignored or dismissed. I feel like I need to yell so loud for others to hear me. I don't know anymore, I just don't know.

Who do you hope will hear you?

My T and more importantly, I think, maybe, the part of me that can help me. If that makes sense?

Makes a lot of sense Lauru, and I know the feeling. But if you do choose to stand on something and yell HELP ME can you just do it from something more sturdy than a chair Hugs to you...I know..when it rains it pours..but keep working...we are here for you..

i am there.just about ready to explode too.i want to yell help me then start throwing a fit about all of the people cloging up the system with worthless claims because to them it is like buying a lottery ticket maybe they will win and get a check and never have to work while i wish so bad that i could work again.now it is a hassle just to go to the kitchen and i have not been able to go get grocerys by myself after 15 months post aneurysm.

yes! It does make sense! In fact, why don't you try it at your home to see how it feels to say that out loud?

Funnily enough, the idea of me doing that, scares me, a lot. The sound of my voice calling for help feels wrong. Like I'll get in trouble if I tell, you know? It's like if I say I need help, people will ask why and if I tell, I'll get in trouble, too much trouble to even elaborate on that here. So maybe the problem is not that someone won't hear me, but that it won't come out as a yell, but a whisper. I don't know, now I am just scared feeling, so I will stop. But thank you for your always wise input.

Lauru.....I completely understand! Esp. around my family....being ignored by loved ones is always ******......and you know what....sometimes you do have to stand up and yell to get them to listen.

It's hard when you feel no-one hears you and you have no voice. Maybe you could "scream" for help in an e-mail or text to T? It's only natural to be scared but just remember that you DO deserve help

It feels like this may be worth you exploring. If the idea of asking for help causes fear, there may be a root issue. My T would ask me "What is the first time you remember feeling that way about a similar situation?" .... So maybe that is something you can try to find out for yourself and bring it with your T?

Thanks WePow! I will try doing that next time I see my T in a couple of weeks. It does appear to be an issue that I didn't even realize I had till just posting this thread. I really appreciate yours and everyone's input.

I had a rather unsatisfactory interchange with T on this subject:

Me: Help me!!!
T: What is it? Tell me and I'll help you.
Me: I don't know!!!

((((Laura)))) It is hard to dig deep enough to see those roots. Just go slowly and let yourself stay honest about what you need.

You feel that if you ask for help you will be ignored--has this often happened with you or are you just hesitating to voice your troubles?Sometimes we presume something which is not really true.Even if you were neglected in past,it does not follow that everybody you come across will respond in a similar manner.Therefore don't fester inside.Ask for help.Even when the going is rough,a change in perspective helps to soothe the mind.
Check my blog post "Choose to be happy" http://jeeteraho.blogspot.com

I do hope you come out of this mood fast.take care.

Exactly!

It is very unfortunate that you cant ask for help from those around you-that"s decided-then what CAN you do ? Ts are fine to go to &vent your feelings,they give you support & advice...but ultimately my dear,YOU have to support yourself..build up your inner strength...grow a thick hide to ward off hurts..as Eienstein said we use only 20% of our potentials...you can do it..& focus on the brighter aspects of your life..there must be some,no ? Wishing you the very best..LOL.

First of all, I DO support myself, in many ways that you would never understand. What you have written here is a basically "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" type of message. Which I find rather insulting. I also don't appreciate the "LOL"
. Are you laughing at me or with me? And by the way, I'm not laughing.

All in all, I found your reply inappropriate, rude, and insulting. Please refrain from replying to this thread.