May trigger if U fear a T's abandonment or if you feel a T may not care.

I want to tell my T that the fact that she said she cared about me; when I blantantly told her "no one cares about me..." really pisses me off. It's been like 4 weeks since she said it...but, I don't want to seem like an A hole. I have no idea why it makes me mad. It's like they stay stuff like that but, then one day they will not see you again....so maybe they care or something but, dont say that and let me go through the loss.

jazzy, someone caring can be kind of frightening.
And hearing it spoken unexpectedly could be startling.

Maybe your anger about this is something really good to explore with your T !

I understand exactly how you feel. I went through something similar with my therapist.

Because of my anger, I started the conversation via an email. That allowed me to get the point across, while editing out my anger. Unfortunately, of course, he wanted to talk about it in person, which I guess is their stock response. After that pretty intense session and several follow-up emails, I felt better

With that being said, I think for the most part they are human and probably do care, in the confines of their office, about us. But, for their own sanity, they really can't care.

They really do need to come up with some other stock phrase, though. Or, here's a thought: maybe, they can be truthful and when we say we have no one in our life who cares about us, they can either question it or say, "hey, you are right, now how can we make that OK or make a change to get someone in your life who does care." But that mamby, pamby "I care" isn't true and because it isn't true, it comes off as insincerity, which we pick up on.

Jazzy, I understand about feeling uncomfortable about going back to something a t said a long time ago that hurt you, and worrying about being a jerk for doing. I just did it anyway, only with me it was something my t said from like 2 years ago. I think it's a good thing to do anyway. I can't say it totally left me feeling better, but a little better, and at least that secret isn't there anymore. It sounds like Echoes has a good point.

It's defintiley "frightening" and "Startling" and Snakebit---oh dear, am I the girl who is highly sensitive-- highly sensitive personality--that picks up easy on subletities in my enviornment--- thats my problem, I pick up on too much with people. and T. and I know what happened with my old T--learning, which is why I don't want it to happen again... nothing all that bad actually happened, I just made more of the therapeutic relationship then I should have-- because, mentally, I was already overwhelmed by so many other life rough patches I just fell into the attachment easily. Now, I am not in that ''helpless'' state of mind and rather not have someone who is a professional "care" about me because... idk why. I would just rather them help me grow as a person but, to me, that doesn't mean they have to deeply care or anything-- i offer advice to people all the time and some people I deeply care about and others-- I barely know but, I'm still able to help them and they are still able to receive good things from our encounter. I think the same can happen in therapy. I can grow and change without necessarily being "cared" for, in the sense, that it would confuse what the therapists role in my life is alll about... I hope that made sense? I usually edit my words but, I'm just posting.! thx peeps.

Perhaps its not T's caring about you that hurts, its the comparison to earlier times when you should have been cared about and wasn't, and until we mourne these things fully we cannot completely accept it into our lives now.