Trigger for terminating Therapy.....

I feel you. I am hoping that it goes from fine to even finer.

the thing with banging my head against a wall? It feels good to quit.

I know how attachment feels and this wasn't it!

You're the right size, it's the pants that don't fit!

Don't make the mistake of deciding you're no good with "electronics" when it is the programmers who don't design or program well; the machines are supposed to be designed to help us, not us being required to struggle to use them.

If the T isn't helpful to you, she's not helpful to you; it doesn't have to be a "personal" thing where one is "right" and one "wrong", resistant, whatever negative word you are trying to apply to one or the other of you. You can decide you are being resistant when the same thing happens after trying five therapists :-) Trust what you "know" (what attachment is and this ain't it, etc.). You're in charge, it's your money, life/time, therapy!

I hate having the term resistent used at me. I think it is a term usually used by therapists when they get frustrated by their lack of skill and so blame the client.

thank you for your support......I have been internalizing so much of this and then...there are breaks in the clouds and i can see blue sky ...when I think: HEY! If this last session had not COMPLETELY degenerated into the therapeutic equivalent of a FOOD FIGHT, then I would not be free to choose a new path. I'm only sorry that it had to get that BIG for me to see it. Goes to show just how much I am willing to tolerate. My old and amazing therapist (years ago now) used to have me do "home work" that consisted of going into a private space, listening to myself and writing a list of "THINGS I AM TOLERATING."

It was a good exercise. A therapist, in my view, should not top that list, week after week.

Anywhooo....thanks! and warning, I may be posting horror stories in the days to come ...I will try to limit myself.

I agree. Once my T used that word on me, and I was blown away. I just didn't want to do what she wanted and I got labeled. It wasn't her finest moment. Still, for the most part, I trust her. Anybody can make mistakes.

Resistance is a useful concept, and I have certainly resisted in my time.

However, Ts are trained to recognise resistance and to overcome it. It's not supposed to be an excuse to blame the patient.

Eg: http://www.sageofasheville.com/pub_d...TERED_VIEW.pdf

As I understand this (perhaps poorly), the patient resists when the therapist tries to go too fast, and especially when she tries to tell the patient what is wrong before he realises it himself.

SPECULATION:

T thinks she has the answer and doesn't listen to what the patient has to say. The patient feels bullied and manipulated into a viewpoint he is not ready for. He resists.

Resistance is a useful concept but in my particular case, it came into play when my therapist resisted my decision to terminate therapy.

I don't think that most of what I have read or seen labelled as resistance is from the client - I think of it as the therapist being wrong. Their "interventions" are not always (or even usually) correct and when you tell them, they call it resistance.
The one I have seen used it in relation to my throwing up before going to an appointment and shaking throughout it.

Resistance is futile! You will be assimilated.

I have the Picard Borg doll. oh pardon I mean action figure.