[WikidPissah]

I really hate this time of year everyone is stripping off their layers and showing skin. I wear baggy long sleeved shirts year round, especially to t. I can't let him see my scars. Plus I had that mastectomy and reconstruction last year and I am so self conscious. I keep thinking if my shirt is snug he's going to *look* out of curiosity. Many people do, I even had a *friend* tell me "they look real" which put me in bed under the covers for a week.

Am I the only one who is self conscious of T looking at me?

[lostmyway21]

Omg I have SO been thinking about this as it gets warmer. I always hide in my hoodies and sweatpants and now I won't be able to and I'm stressing about this.

I'm not particularly uncomfortable with T seeing me, but I do try to spare the world a bit. I'm getting too old to show too much leg. Generally I don't wear shorts anymore; I wear capris. Obviously short sleeve shirts. I'm in Texas, and last summer the average temperature was 107. It's a survival issue.

[PiperLeigh]

You're definitely not alone. I'm also a Texas girl. It will be over 100 degrees soon and I know me...capris will be as far as I go with changing how I normally dress. I also don't bare my arms- I can't be comfortable unless they are covered below my elbows.

[sarahplainandshort]

In Texas, too...I do everything I can to hide in T, including long sleeves and jeans year-round. I have scars I want to keep covered, and I just feel safer buried under a few layers.

In the summer (and summer starts around mid-February in these parts ), I wear sleeveless tops and throw on a cardigan before I go to T, or out in public.

You're not alone. I've not shown my legs since I was about 14, and this last couple of years it's been necessary to wear long sleeves at all times. I also put on a bunch of weight, so tighter tops are also a no-go. It's started getting warmer and I've started getting stressed about what I can and can't wear - not to therapy especially, just in general. I actually went to book a tattoo today with the idea of covering up the scars on my arm, trying to put the past behind me - but they're only going to be able to do so much at the moment because some of the scars higher up are too fresh - apparently it could be another two years before I can get them tattooed over and hopefully disguised, so that's a little disappointing. I was hoping to be able to start to wearing short sleeves again - but 3/4 length sleeves is a start, I guess.. and, I'm working on the weight issue - no more chocolate for me. Maybe one day I'll be able to look forward to summer again.. til then it'll be cotton shirts and baggy combat pants, I think.

[Bmee2]

Me too. Made the mistake of looking in the mirror at the back to see if there was a bug bite in a spot that itched something fierce. Well now the thought is the neck is too fat...the body in general was always thought to be obese. Since the mirror thing a few days ago, depression has increased and withdrawal too. Cancelled T because thought and felt too fat to go out in public. Fear being to fat to sit on the couch without causing the floor to give way. Keep telling myself this is insane thinking...but currently stuck.
Does anyone feel their overweight issues are their fault...?

[noodle_82]

I'm in the UK so probably have a better chance of it not being too hot for too long, but I dread the hotter weather! Not just for therapy though, although I do try and dress nicer for it. I also hide my scars, but I like to hide my body too as I hate it- too much fat! I hate the thought of T having to look at me for an hour without being hidden in layers.

Originally Posted by Bmee2

Does anyone feel their overweight issues are their fault...?

Yep. Although I'm sure my extra weight is a result of unresolved issues, it is my choice to put too much food into my body. In the winter I can hide it so it is easier for me to pretend I dont really have a problem. When the summer comes there's nowhere to hide

yes-and we live in florida so we understand

[WikidPissah]

Yea, my weight is an issue as well *sigh*. I have short hair and I start to perspire when it's this warm...embarrassing. I will show my ankles and my feet, so capri's and sandals help!

I feel the same way. I don't think he would judge you. I know he wouldn't. I know it's hard though.

[healed84]

I have been thinking about that as well. I have been wearing long sleeves and 3/4 lenth shirts on purpose to T. Now, that it is getting warmer I am nervous about wearing shorts, skirts, dresses.. However, that stems to my SA abuse history. I am parnoid that somebody will think (my T in this case) that I am dressed to "sexy" especially on purpose!

[WikidPissah]

Yes healed...that is a huge issue for me as well.

[InTherapy]

I'm the opposite. T (and boyfriend) are really the ONLY people I feel comfortable in short sleeves around. Everyone else gets the jacket treatment.

[quote=WikidPissah;2360910]I really hate this time of year everyone is stripping off their layers and showing skin. I wear baggy long sleeved shirts year round, especially to t. I can't let him see my scars. Plus I had that mastectomy and reconstruction last year and I am so self conscious. I keep thinking if my shirt is snug he's going to *look* out of curiosity. quote]

WikidPissah, you might want to look into Rash Guard/surf shirts. They are very light weight and you can buy them in long sleeves. Surfers tend to buy them fitted, but I found that I could purchase them in a bigger size so that they didn't fit snugly AND I'm covered shoulder to wrist so no one can see anything.

Once everyone found out about my SH and mental health issues I stopped caring. At home I don't cover my arms at all. I never hide my right arm where the scars aren't so visible and I just wear tubi grip on my left arm it means I can wear whatever I want. And when I'm just got to the corner shop or walking to dogs I don't even wear the tubi grip. But I must admit that this is because they are scars and I don't cut on my arms anymore.

As for my legs I cut high enough up that I can wear shorts but no bikini with out shorts on top. I have to be careful with my legs cuz no one other than T knows I still do it.

And as for feeling fat it something I can't avoid I am fat no matter what I wear. If I've fasted I feel better and therefore where more revealing tighter clothes but if not I have bag tops I wear with sweat pants.

[Gently1]

I am saved from this as my appointments are in the early evening and it feels like the heat is turned off and the air conditioner is still on.
I come with layers and a mug of hot tea.

[WikidPissah]

T has never mentioned my non-seasonal clothing in summers past. I do wonder what he thinks. He probably doesn't even notice what I am wearing.

i hate thinking t is sitting there disgusted my layers of fat. hopefully this isn't why he keeps talking about exercise over and over. and he mentioned a client that was overweight and how it takes longer for drugs to leave his system. mine too cause of the extra poundage.

Originally Posted by jbmomg

i hate thinking t is sitting there disgusted my layers of fat. hopefully this isn't why he keeps talking about exercise over and over. and he mentioned a client that was overweight and how it takes longer for drugs to leave his system. mine too cause of the extra poundage.

our ex-counselor always,always made snide remarks about our weight under the guise of "concern"-we understand the pain♥♥♥

[venusss]

well, for women there is always bohemian style. long flowy skirts (much more comfortable then capris). Long sleeve blouses from light material (the type that opens in the front is the best... just wear a top under it...

just some fashion advice

[WikidPissah]

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

bohemian style.

great, now I have a Queen song stuck in my head

I look stupid in skirts. It's weird, I am just not girly enough to pull it off. I do have some super light linen shirts though.

[eskielover]

I don't have a weight issue.....but I used to have it in the opposite direction.....didn't want anyone to see how bony I was......but for me, I like the warm feeling of my sweats......& whenever I go anywhere I end up getting so chilled even in the heat....I always take something to snuggle up in when I start to shivver.....which really blows people's minds when they are sitting there fanning themselves & my teeth are chattering

Love the sweat pant, know capri's.....end up wearing short sleeves, but bringing a long sleeved sweater or jacket along.

Only style I go to is making the colors coordinate....beyond that.....who cares.

However, I noticed that I feel funny if I don't specifically think about getting dressed in something other whan what I'm wearing around the house when I go out....even felt funny just jumping in my truck & taking my prescription to town in my grey sweat pants, turquoise shirt & brown crocs ......on well....no one at that time of night was going to really care anyway....just didn't feel right for me.....but I never do put on makeup....in would only melt off anyway or cause me to have an allergic reaction. Such is life

[with or without you]

WP, I am extremely shy so I understand this very well. I have a hard time with "showing my body off". I think it's because I have a very fair complexion and people teased me when I was younger. I hide a lot behind hoodies & jackets as well. As a matter of fact, 3 months ago I went to Florida for the first time in my life, and I wore shorts for the first time in approx. 13 years. Progress? LOL.

I've learnt a new word now: capris

I'm more body conscious/shy now than I've been in former years. I'm not exactly obese, but certainly overweight, and most of all I've got kind of a weird shape. I hate seeing pictures of myself that show more than my face (which is OK, as faces go.) And I no longer like to wear shorts. In Sweden, shorts season is obviously, er, shorter than in Florida for instance - but on the other hand, in May to August you're seen as pretty freakish if you don't peel off as much as possible and expose yourself to the fresh air and sun. I shall just have to be seen as freakish.