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#1
May 26, 2012, 03:40 PM
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she cancelled my session.
 well, not really cancelled. i can still pay the same expensive price for video chat.no. thank. you.
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#2
May 26, 2012, 03:53 PM
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I am sorry that she cancelled I know that must be very hurtful.
 I have never done video chat, but my T has always offered to skype while he was away in case of emergency...seems weird.
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#3
May 26, 2012, 04:10 PM
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when i got her email, it hurt so much - couldn't stop crying.
i am so over feeling this hurt when it comes to her. i have until tonight to fully cancel. 
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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#4
May 26, 2012, 04:13 PM
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xxxx How can she charge the same for video??? I am so sorry RainbowRose, that really sux.
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never mind... Last edited by WikidPissah; May 26, 2012 at 04:58 PM. |
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#5
May 26, 2012, 04:25 PM
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Hey Rainbow
I'm so sorry that your therapist cancelled on you. I know how hurtful that can be. Did she give you a reason for doing this? Do you know when you can see her again if you decide not to go ahead with the video chat. I sort of agree with wiki in that how can she Justify charging the same for a video chat! I guess she is thinking you get the same amount of time but it is not the same and really it should be a bit less at least, esp as she is the one cancelling on you. If thinking calmly we could perhaps wonder if there is a very good reason she cannot see you for the session and instead of just canceling she is trying to give another option? I do understand how upsetting it can be though .
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May 26, 2012, 04:32 PM
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poor rainbow. i am sorry!
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#7
May 26, 2012, 04:45 PM
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Wow. Is it unusual for her to cancel in person but be available to video chat? It seems odd to me that she is unavailable in her office but could do the appointment by video. Sorry she cancelled in person on you.
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#8
May 26, 2012, 04:47 PM
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#9
May 26, 2012, 04:54 PM
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she had good reason and apologized. i am not condemning her. human error and all. and yes video chat mention is made to be an option to cancelling altogether. that's just not what i need.
doesn't mean i have to happy about it. i know the key to less pain is acceptance. i'm just not there.  
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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May 26, 2012, 04:54 PM
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never mind... |
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May 26, 2012, 05:10 PM
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Quote:
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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#12
May 26, 2012, 05:48 PM
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I wish it was easier.....(( HUGS ))
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May 26, 2012, 05:50 PM
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Do you know D'Artagnan? From the 3 Musketeers? He always whipped his sword out when he thought one of the others were in trouble...even if they were not...lol. I always liked D'Artagnan best.
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May 26, 2012, 06:17 PM
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Okay, everyone is going to probably pile on and say that I'm uncaring, but I have to say, why would any of us expect that our therapists would spend 55 or 60 minutes with us for less than they charge any other time? I GET it that meeting with my therapist on line (via Skype or any other online video mechanism) wouldn't be the perfect venue for me, but if it was offered because face-to-face wasn't possible, I think I would sincerely consider it, especially if I really needed that contact with my therapist.
I know that I'm thankful when my therapist goes on vacation but offers email access. It isn't what I want. I WANT her sitting near me and available. But I also know that she can't do that. She NEEDS a vacation. I hope you're not hearing this as dismissing how you feel, Rainbow Rose. I truly GET it that you're feeling abandoned and alone by this offer. But I hope you're able to step back and really think about what is offered. No ONE, certainly not me, wants to face a cancellation in their therapy. But if something else is offered, it can truly be viewed as a gift. I don't know your therapist, but I wonder if he/she offers this option to everyone. I am also not saying that you shouldn't refuse this option if it isn't something you think will work for you. You are the only one that can decide that. I guess I'm just suggesting that you view it from a distance. Is this something that is offered all of your therapist's clients? Is he/she trying to maintain the connection? If he/she is there "present" for the full 50 or 60 minutes does that mean that he/she is not giving you her full attention? Should she not still get her fee? If it isn't for you, then you can decline and I think your therapist would understand. As much as we hate to admit it, our therapists need to be paid for their time and expertise. No, video isn't as perfect and comfortable as face to face, but it still time paid to us. |
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May 26, 2012, 06:29 PM
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And I wanted to add that I totally and completely understand wanting to have a tantrum about your therapist having to cancel!!!! NO ONE wants that to happen! It totally and completely sucks!
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May 26, 2012, 08:12 PM
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my session is officially cancelled.
i feel so alone now.
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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May 26, 2012, 08:14 PM
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((((( Rainbow Rose )))))
I can imagine how sad you're feeling right now. I feel your sadness, and I'm so sorry....We are here. (( HUGS ))
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May 26, 2012, 08:35 PM
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So sorry that your session is "offically cancelled", rainbow rose. Any chance you could contact your therapist and let her know that you're open to a video session? I'm not saying it will be the same as sitting across from her/him, but it might make the pain of abandonment less. I know that I really and truly want my therapist sitting across from me .. . as much as the face-to-face is painful and uncomfortable. . . but having that face-to-face connection is powerful and real. But when we're not able to have that, it has to be better . .. "good enough" to have some degree of contact. Is there any way to recontact your therapist and tell her/him that you are open to whatever they are willing to offer? Or is that too shaming?
I'm so sorry that things have not worked out for you the way you wanted them to. I sincerely hope that things get better! |
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May 26, 2012, 08:51 PM
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(((((((((((rainbow rose))))))))))))))) ugh
i'm so sorry your T had to cancel like this
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#20
May 26, 2012, 08:58 PM
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Thanks, Jaybird. thanks for the hugs, tigergirl.
a vid session is definitely not what I want ... but also, it's not what I need. having a session over the computer feels like a 'i'll take what i can get' kinda thing. i used to do that with my friends and it's not very satisfying. right now, i need to see my therapist in person. this is a need she's not able to meet at this time. i'll live. but in the meantime, i'll be very sad.
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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May 27, 2012, 12:47 AM
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My T is in China right now. I would not want a video chat.
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May 27, 2012, 05:25 AM
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When is your next appointment rainbow_rose?
I am really sorry this has happened, I know how hard it is to handle! Sometimes no matter how much we know the rational side of things it doesn't stop us from hurting in the moment
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#23
May 27, 2012, 12:23 PM
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I understand your upset. I just had the same thing happen to me. My appt got cancelled on thursday because my therapist had to go to a mandatory mtg. But I was ok because it got rescheduled for Friday. Then after an exchange of email at 10pm on thursday night when she was STILL at the office and in which she said it would be nice to see me, she called in sick on Friday. Very frustrating.
I wrote her an email about my abandonment issues being activated and requesting some reassurance that she cares about me whenever she gets back to the office. So we'll see what happens. I'm just focusing on my other relationships this weekend. |
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May 27, 2012, 04:09 PM
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thanks so much for the comments and support. this definitely was an experience to learn from.
i do have an update: my therapist must has worked something out because she contacted me - we will have our session. i am so thankful.
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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#25
May 27, 2012, 04:55 PM
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that's awesome RR!
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never mind... |
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