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I have had such a bad week, lots of stuff going on that I have found really difficult.
I was all over the place with my feelings, distraught, angry, numb, but then I suddenly realised something that T has been trying to get me to understand and that was that my emotions were not about the things that were happening, but because my life wasn't how I wanted it to be. It was that, that I was angry and sad about. I suddenly understood that life is how it is, sometimes it it easy to be with, sometimes difficult - sometimes it is not how we want it to be and that is what I must focus on. Not being angry with everyone else for making my life difficult, but realising this is about my reaction to it and moving towards acceptance. It feels a little odd in my head, like I still want to blame everyone else for ruining my life and making me feel like I do - but I see now that thinking in that way does not help me move forward, but accepting my emotions as "my stuff" is what will eventually lead me to being more peaceful. Thank-you T
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Great insight! I believe emotions go along with thoughts (they're uncontrollable too) to help us understand the things that happen. We want to know what we like, don't like, hurts, etc. but don't necessarily want to act on things that way.
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This is so important to learn. Good insight!
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~ ![]() |
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I hear you ... becoming stronger somehow
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That is great that you figured that out, and I am glad you shared, because now maybe it will help me have a little insight about why I am all over the place too, especially angry. Thanks!
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Big Book Third addition
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation-some fact of my life-unacceptable to me, and can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.... I could not stay .......; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world, as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes. This is from Alcoholics Annoymous's Big Book. I keep this as my favorite on my computer and when I start to get angry and ungreatful I pull this up. It literally saves me!! Good going Soup. Proud of you!
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Great post - I am reading a book by Tara Brach right now called, Radical Acceptance that talks about some of this.
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Really great post thanks.
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Wow - I have been blown away by all your comments - thank-you so much - it was a real light bulb moment for me, yet I know that insight will come and go until it can fit really neatly into my chaotic head.
I don't know how many of you know I did that solitary retreat 2 weeks ago, when I did 30 minutes of meditation 6 times per day - I am wondering if that has helped me more than I realised - at times it seemed a real struggle to sit for half an hour, but maybe that stuff does work afterall in clearing the mind and helping focus. I am for some reason scared to share this with T tomorrow - hmm, wonder why?
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AS for the meditation, I cannot speak for everyone but I know for me it helps with my anger. It makes me really calm and gives a sense of clarity and helps see things I wouldn't have seen before. I was always stressed but not anymore, I was a people pleaser but now I please myself. I sit with myself for 30 minutes a day, just me and my thoughts and it really helps.. Like you I couldn't stand to be alone before, I hated my own company, now I love it. |
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There have been so many times when I have been ready to throw the towel in and T has managed to keep me engaged, this really has come from nowhere and has floored me in some ways - it feels like I have been clinging on to that side of the pool, too scared to let go and float without all that stuff that I have been so familiar with, I have been thinking maybe that is why I am scared of telling T, in case T gets me to swim further out - I think I just need to get a little more comfortable with this sudden shift first. ![]()
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We and only we are in control of our lives and the choices we make directly affect our lives, its not that its my fault this happened to me but I have to take respnsibility for my choices...I dont know if this makes any sense to you Soup, but sometimes you have to leave the paddling pool and plunge into the deep end to float on your own and feel free. ![]() |
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