I am in shock with what my new T said

So its only my second appt with her so we are still sussing each other out. She asked how I was after last week, I smiled and said ok, she said no really, how were you after? I told her not so good. She asked did I reflect on what we discussed, I said "yes".
So then we got down to business, She asked how I felt about hiding my sexuality from my parents, I said "fine, its really none of their business!"
She then pried further and asked how I got on with them....not this is a very tricky subject for me as I have a complicated relationship with them. There is no llove pr hugs or communication in my house especially when I was growing up. T was v surprised, I told her about how my mam was with me( she basically ignores everything I say, provokes me, she is emotionally unavailable and sometimes pysically hurts me) I never told anyone all of this... T told me to look her in the eye, she said Button, did you discuss this with your last T? I said we skimmed over the no commmunication and no love part. T shook her head, she said Button this is very serious, your mam is very sick lady, its not normal to treat her children like this, she needs help. Please consider moving out and getting away from her abuse. I was like What.. abuse, thats just my mam, she has always been like tht, T looked at me with her big blue eyes and said, this is not a healthy place for you, you have done nothing wrong, you are so used to the abuse you don't see it anymore...I am worried for your safety.
Anyway we discussed this for most of the session, I was always wondering what was wrong with my mother but never mentioned it to anyone, she needs help. T told me that she is a mother and would never even dream of speaking or treating her daughter like that.
I am very upset, I am used to her behaviour and its not that bad, I think T was over reacting a bit, she said I should confront my mother about her behaviour. I said no way as I was scared how she would react, she said if your mam hits you or is violent ring 911...I feel really confused about all of this as I don't think its abuse.

button, I am in agreement with those who said 1) yes, it's abuse. 2) you need to get away. 3) Confronting your mother is maybe a bad idea until you get out or have a place to go.

I confronted my mother in high school. I had a teacher who guessed what was happening to me at home. She asked me if my parents hit. I lied and said that they used to. She said if they ever started again, I could come to live with her and she'd made sure I got to college because she figured that was what was holding me in place, the fear that I could not go to college if I ran away. I told her I was also staying to protect my little sister. The teacher promised she would take my sister also. So, the next time my mother went to hit me, I stood up straight and said, "No. You can't hit me anymore. I have someplace to go. I will take my little sister and leave and you won't see either of us again." She screamed and raged and threw things, but she never hit me again.

Confronting when you're still trapped and helpless is too dangerous.

My kids are cool, I'm so jealous. Sometimes I fantasize about what my life would be like if one of the adults in my life had noticed and got me out of there.

we only have six sessions together and I don't want to spend them talking about my mother...

I wonder why my mum doesn't realise what she is doing? And why she chooses to be miserable all the time.

She suggested I write my mother a letter but not send it and we can go through it next week. In the letter I am to write everything I want to say to her but can't.

Hi button30 - reading your initial post I was like "whoa T, I've only just got here, that's all a bit full on, let me catch my breath!". But nevertheless sounds like you have had some useful advice to chew on.

I am sorry you are going through this with your mother - it can be really confusing when it is a parent who is abusive to you.

Soup

T is obviously in some sort of race with me and I can't keep up. I get the feeling that maybe her and my old T have talked as new t Is old T's supervisor. She asks about what we discussed in with my old T and I get the feeling she knows more then I tell her, maybe I am being paranoid but it all seems to be moving too fast right now.

I think it is possible to call something abuse, to acknowledge that it was abusive, without necessarily condemning the abuser to total damnation, in your mind. Sometimes people who abuse do not know they are being abusive, or if they know it partly, are pretty much out of control. But for you, it is abuse anyway. Maybe you do not have to hate someone to stand up for yourself.