I have been in therapy for a little under two years now with three different ts! I am not sure I can handle it anymore! My ts keep telling me I come from a dysfunctional family! I have been in an unhealthy relationship and everyone around me has been abusive! I don't think I can handle this anymore! I just need to hear that somebody cares about me but the reality is they don't and it hurts! Therapy I think is just making me feel worse, I wish I was ignorant to all of this information I have learned and wasn't so aware of everything.

Originally Posted by button30

I have been in therapy for a little under two years now with three different ts! I am not sure I can handle it anymore! My ts keep telling me I come from a dysfunctional family! I have been in an unhealthy relationship and everyone around me has been abusive! I don't think I can handle this anymore! I just need to hear that somebody cares about me but the reality is they don't and it hurts! Therapy I think is just making me feel worse, I wish I was ignorant to all of this information I have learned and wasn't so aware of everything.

Cant un ring that bell, and it sucks. They should warn you ahead of time. However, you should start by with caring about you, the rest will follow.

[rainbow8]

Two years is not a long time to be in therapy, especially with different Ts. It may seem like you're worse, but the first step is to be aware of your problems. The quote "ignorance is bliss" may seem true, but in life, you've got to know what you're dealing with before you can work through it and become happier.

Have you talked with your T about feeling like no one cares about you?
We care about you on this forum! I agree that caring about yourself is important. Do you feel your T cares about you?

Originally Posted by button30

I have been in therapy for a little under two years now with three different ts! I am not sure I can handle it anymore! My ts keep telling me I come from a dysfunctional family! I have been in an unhealthy relationship and everyone around me has been abusive! I don't think I can handle this anymore! I just need to hear that somebody cares about me but the reality is they don't and it hurts! Therapy I think is just making me feel worse, I wish I was ignorant to all of this information I have learned and wasn't so aware of everything.

I care about you.

Maybe part of the problem is having so many different T's...thats a lot for two years.

We may be consciously ignorant. But this stuff was inside us before therapy. Therapy is hard. But living in ignorance is harder.

[Dreamy01]

I hear you. Feeling like no one cares is really painful. I guess that having three different ts in such a short space of time hasn't helped because there probably hasn't been time to build a good working relationship with one. I hope the latest one is the right one for where you're at. It sounds like you would benefit from looking at your background and current relationships but building trust in the T is important. Once you can work deeply with a therapist things might settle inside as you feel safer internally. Then even when you're ploughing through the horrible stuff there might still be a sense of solidarity. It sounds like you haven't found that with a T yet and that can cause a loss of faith in the whole process.

Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

Cant un ring that bell, and it sucks. They should warn you ahead of time. However, you should start by with caring about you, the rest will follow.

THanks lola, I would do anything to unring that bell or to never have entered the door but its done now and I need to face the consequences.
It feels like all the dirt that was burried has resurfaced ((((

Originally Posted by rainbow8

Two years is not a long time to be in therapy, especially with different Ts. It may seem like you're worse, but the first step is to be aware of your problems. The quote "ignorance is bliss" may seem true, but in life, you've got to know what you're dealing with before you can work through it and become happier.

Have you talked with your T about feeling like no one cares about you?
We care about you on this forum! I agree that caring about yourself is important. Do you feel your T cares about you?

Thanks Rainbow, Therapy is not really supposed to be a long thing here in this country. Six sessions is usually all anyone goes for so I am in it longer than most which means I am insane in this country.
I havent talked to T about no one caring about me, I dont really tell her much to be honest, all three of my ts have said I spend too much time talking about everyone else. I don't beleive that T cares about me because its her job, I am paying her to care about me so its not genuine.
This feeling or realisation has come about since I started seeing this last t and our discussions about my mom and I realised that there is nobody who cares about me anymore.

Originally Posted by TentativeConnection

I care about you.

Maybe part of the problem is having so many different T's...thats a lot for two years.

Thank you tentative, its nice to know that somebody cares about me. I seen one T for 1 and half year, T2 for six sessions and now T3 for god knows how long.

Originally Posted by Dreamy01

I hear you. Feeling like no one cares is really painful. I guess that having three different ts in such a short space of time hasn't helped because there probably hasn't been time to build a good working relationship with one. I hope the latest one is the right one for where you're at. It sounds like you would benefit from looking at your background and current relationships but building trust in the T is important. Once you can work deeply with a therapist things might settle inside as you feel safer internally. Then even when you're ploughing through the horrible stuff there might still be a sense of solidarity. It sounds like you haven't found that with a T yet and that can cause a loss of faith in the whole process.

I haven't found it with a t because I was so attached to T1 and when she terminated me out of the blue after I told her I wasn't ok, I was suicidal I was afraid to get attached again, to really open up and bare my sould to them. I am afraid to even let them help me I think.
T3 is brilliant, she is doing everything she possibly can to help me but I can't let her in. She wants to email and to text but I won't allow myself to get attached because it will hurt to much when she terminates with me.

[~EnlightenMe~]

Originally Posted by Dreamy01

I hear you. Feeling like no one cares is really painful. I guess that having three different ts in such a short space of time hasn't helped because there probably hasn't been time to build a good working relationship with one. I hope the latest one is the right one for where you're at. It sounds like you would benefit from looking at your background and current relationships but building trust in the T is important. Once you can work deeply with a therapist things might settle inside as you feel safer internally. Then even when you're ploughing through the horrible stuff there might still be a sense of solidarity. It sounds like you haven't found that with a T yet and that can cause a loss of faith in the whole process.

Ditto - I agree with what Dreamy is saying.

[~EnlightenMe~]

Originally Posted by button30

I haven't found it with a t because I was so attached to T1 and when she terminated me out of the blue after I told her I wasn't ok, I was suicidal I was afraid to get attached again, to really open up and bare my sould to them. I am afraid to even let them help me I think.
T3 is brilliant, she is doing everything she possibly can to help me but I can't let her in. She wants to email and to text but I won't allow myself to get attached because it will hurt to much when she terminates with me.

Button, I'm in the same boat, or a similar one, as you. I'm so sorry that T1 terminated you out of the blue. Mine terminated me over about four months or so, but it wasn't my decision. I now have a brilliant T but am not sure I can let him in at all. I don't know if I can let anyone in after trusting someone (Past stuff) and having them take advantage of that. I wish I could tell you to relax and let yourself attach, but the reality is, that I can't guarantee that she won't terminate you. I wish I had the answers for you but I am here if you need me!

Originally Posted by Antimatter

Button, I'm in the same boat, or a similar one, as you. I'm so sorry that T1 terminated you out of the blue. Mine terminated me over about four months or so, but it wasn't my decision. I now have a brilliant T but am not sure I can let him in at all. I don't know if I can let anyone in after trusting someone (Past stuff) and having them take advantage of that. I wish I could tell you to relax and let yourself attach, but the reality is, that I can't guarantee that she won't terminate you. I wish I had the answers for you but I am here if you need me!

Thank Antimatter,
I wish there was no termination, it sucks. And the worst part is we will never no why they do it. WE have to tell them everything but they can't even tell us why they don't want to see us anymore, its like a really awful break-up.
I am so glad you like your new T Antimatter, this is great news

[KazzaX]

At 2 years into therapy I would have thought the "it gets worse before it gets better" stuff would have been finished by now? I had a T i was with for 3 years and it was irritating but in the end I had to give her the flick because she was just not producing any results. Maybe you should look around for a T with a better fit. There are lots of Ts out there. I would say if you have no results by the 2 year mark then its time to find a better T.

Originally Posted by KazzaX

At 2 years into therapy I would have thought the "it gets worse before it gets better" stuff would have been finished by now? I had a T i was with for 3 years and it was irritating but in the end I had to give her the flick because she was just not producing any results. Maybe you should look around for a T with a better fit. There are lots of Ts out there. I would say if you have no results by the 2 year mark then its time to find a better T.

Maybe it's cos I keep starting over with a new t! Or maybe it's because they are all humanistic and integrative, maybe I need to try a new type of t! Bu
t the t I am with now is a lot different than other two, no angel cards or silly tricks like that. She just tells me what I have needed to hear for a long time and answers all of my questions and doesn't analyse my questions instead because that really didn't help!