[mztwizler]

i was just wondering i know theres something wrong with me but i cant put a finger on it.. like i get real angry a lot .. like i will snap on people when i feel disrespected.. and they may have not ment it but i get mad for the reason that i was disrespected and because they are soo stupid that they dont even think? i mean i think about what i do.. I also get mad at stupidness like if someone asks me where something is when they have every reason to already know where something is.. Or when i know someone islying and they deny it ... mostly its stupidness i get severly pissed off and someitmes even get violent..with ppl and with things around the house?>. what does this mean?.. and i just short tempered?..and have every right to be angry when someone is stupid?

I think you should make more allowances re other people's shortcomings, or what you call their "stupidity". Sometimes people just blurt things out without necessarily thinking and/or ask the same thing several times (forgetfulness or just their not paying attention). It does not necessarily mean they want to get at you or "disrespect" you. Do give them a chance...

If you feel offended, do (calmly) ask them what they actually meant. If they meant to hurt you, then you might be justified in being angry. But not bursting out and/or being violent. You only serve to hurt yourself and them in the process. Before hitting out (either verbally or physically), I'd recommend you either take some time out (leave) or give them the benefit of the doubt (asking them to justify their behaviour). Usually, people do not mean any harm but it is human nature to just open their trap and let loose. Your lashing out is not the option.

Anyway, just my two cents.

[Rapunzel]

Welcome mztwizler and Always!

You certainly have the right to feel angry. We tend to fear anger and be uncomfortable with that particular feeling, and some people tend to not know what to do with it. But anger is a legitimate feeling, and feelings are not right or wrong. Feelings just are.

Now, on the other hand, what you do with your feelings needs some consideration. Snapping on people or getting violent probably isn't going to help you win friends and influence people. What effects do you think that has? Are you happy with the results?

There are ways to channel anger productively if you can teach yourself to stop and look for them before you act on your anger.

If you do a search for anger management you will probably find some good ideas. I found a website that I was really impressed with about anger, and I hope people aren't tired of me posting that site, but I refer to it a lot and ask my kids to read it. No affiliation. http://www.angriesout.com

if you are asking for a diagnosis no one here can diagnose your problems we can read what you post about your problems and let you know what our experiences are with that problem and how we handled that problem for ourselves but we cannot tell you what is wrong with you., for that you need to contact a therapy professional and medical doctor in your area for diagnosing.

[(JD)]

I wonder why you take someone else's "stupidity" so personally? Your perfectionism is obviously affecting how you view and treat? others. Find someone to take with, who can help you and who you will trust their ideas? TC

[mztwizler]

i dont know why i take others stupidity so serious.. I dont really think i am perfect by any means.. i do think im very logical tho..which may have something to do with it?. i know ppl cant all be logical ? which i dont understand why... but i guess thats why they make me angry?.. .... I wasnt nessesarily asking for a literal diagnosis.. but if maybe this would run across n e one who might have similar or same problems.. They could tell me what they have done and what they have been diagnosed with. I do plan on checking into seeing a psychiatrist... but right now im under the medical card.. and if it doesnt cover it for some reason i proably most likely wont end up going threw with it.. Im a new mom with a new apartment and a not so great paying job..that i couldn afford it otherwise..Well thanks anyways.. Oh yeah I forgot to mention ..that after i get done telling ppl off.. i normally so feel good.. Getting how i feel about whatever the situation may be out and giving them a piece of my mind. .. aside from the psychial violence... then i feel so low and ashamed of myself..

[CompGeek]

There are no such things as correct or wrong emotions... The only thing that is correct or wrong is how we act on our emotions. There is nothing wrong with getting angry at situations or people. Just try to act on the emotion in a constructful way. Instead of yelling at them try to explain to them that you get a little anoyed when they do what ever it was that they did that made you angry. If you do this in a cool collected manner than the other person will most likely also respond in a positive manner...

Hope this helps some,
Jason

[jennie]

What's wrong with you? You are human. You have anger issues that need to be dealt with in a safe setting, preferably with a trained mental health professional who you cannot upset or injure. You have a right to feel anger but you do not have the right to hurt someone just because you are irritated, angry, or upset OR if you think that person is stupid or deserves it.

(Sorry OT: but thank you Rapunzel)