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Nov 08, 2012, 12:23 PM

Sorry it didn't work out the way you planned it, it wasn't for lack of trying.

Wishing you well.

stopdog · Nov 08, 2012, 12:28 PM

I had a dog (I adored this dog and she was "mine" in the sense that she really was a fairly one person dog who viewed most of the humans as her minions) who I took to t-touch workshop and they had thunder coats. My dog endured the workshop but did not enjoy it and the being t touched (particularly by strangers) and the thunder coat made her miserable. At the end of each exercise - the touchers would give a report and for the other dogs it was like "I felt him relax under my hands" and "She seemed so much calmer after the touching" and when they reported on my dog "This dog did not seem to like it" "I could not get her to relax" "She seemed more worried at the end than at the beginning."

When I got home with her (and I had to buy back her happiness that day with tater tots and a hamburger) and told my partner and friends - the first thing out of everyone's mouth was "how did you make that dog a replica of yourself?"

Nov 08, 2012, 12:31 PM

My dog Hippo, was my one woman dog.... I miss her. Hippo and I would go to garage sales together on Saturdays and she always got a sausage biscuit from McDonalds... LOL

healed84 · Nov 08, 2012, 12:44 PM

You know what a miserable feeling is?? Having chapped lips and not having Chapstick!

Just checking in

mixedup_emotions · Nov 08, 2012, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by healed84

You know what a miserable feeling is?? Having chapped lips and not having Chapstick!

Just checking in

Tru dat, healed!!

Nov 08, 2012, 01:42 PM

Hey everyone.

((((Wiki)))))

Chopin-sorry the proposal didn't work out. I hope you come up with another solution that works.

Hi lola, Granite, MUE, Healed, Hank, MKAC, PButton, CritterLady,SD,Rain and anyone else I forgot.

Sila · Nov 08, 2012, 02:15 PM

Thanks MKAC. <3 I could've considered a separate thread but I guess I'm a bit shy :P

It's scary for me since I've always had something external to break out of them whenever they even started. I was never really alone so there was always loud noises or other people talking etc, which let me stop it before it even happened kinda. But I'm more trusting and more...open? with my T, so they come more easily. I think if my t leaned forward it'd scare me too, but maybe not if she came by my side. Direct confrontation vs indirect y'know. I dunno. I'll have to talk about it with her, but it's tough.

Going quiet is a good indicator, true. I usually am making little 'Uh huh' or 'Yea' sounds as she speaks because it helps keep me focused and processing what she says, and it helps to make sure I remember it. I'll have to tell her that.

Thank you for replying. <3 I wasn't really expecting anyone to, but it's nice to see I'm not alone.

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I'm a little concerned this post might get overlooked because of the nature of this thread. You might get more responses if you start a separate thread. I am NOT saying you shouldn't post this here, but I would like to see you get a lot of responses and some help with this.

My T and I discussed this. He cannot tell even from my eyes when I am having a flashback or dissociating. My complete and utter silence is the only clue, but sometimes I'm silent just because I'm thinking. We agreed that he will just check in with me periodically if I'm silence for an extended period.

In terms of what helps during the flashbacks, that varies a lot by person. For me, having him touch me is helpful. Several times, he has bumped my foot with his. This last time was really horrible. He leaned forward and took my hand and talked to me fairly softly but firmly and that was hugely helpful. I have read others mention that having the therapist lean forward toward them makes them more fearful.

sconnie892 · Nov 08, 2012, 02:51 PM

Hi all
I am trying to be nice at work. It's hard today.
Chopin - I am sorry your proposal didn't work out as you hoped. I hope your boss sees your initiative though.
Sila - I've had times where I blank out in a session but never flashbacks. T usually just says "you were quiet for a long time." I know if I start to stare at the outlet on the wall or at the fence outside that I am starting to zone out during session. The only thing that keeps me from slipping into it is to make eye contact with my t. Sometimes that is really difficult when I am upset.

Nov 08, 2012, 03:05 PM

.............

(that's Wingless Birdish for "I hate myself and I'm broken beyond repair and my T does not like me and I am pathetic")

healed84 · Nov 08, 2012, 03:28 PM

Wohooooooooo...school is out until Tuesday!! Looking forward to sometime at home and time with friends!!

CantExplain · Nov 08, 2012, 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Chopin99

We can't prove she did it, so nope. He said/she said.

The board knows the truth.

CantExplain · Nov 08, 2012, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Chopin99

The way my boss put it: "People who like her are starting to be quite concerned."

So you don't like her?

CantExplain · Nov 08, 2012, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Apteryx

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(that's Wingless Birdish for "I hate myself and I'm broken beyond repair and my T does not like me and I am pathetic")

((Apteryx))

I don't think any of that is true.

Chopin99 · Nov 08, 2012, 04:01 PM

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The board knows the truth.

Actually, they don't know the truth about who sent the mailing. We have our suspicions. It was anonymous. So, there's not much we can do.

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So you don't like her?

I like her just fine...I've supervised her and co-worked with her. She's having a hard time being a supervisor. People are walking all over her. I just didn't know that until today. I'm rather insulated from the personnel issues of the group home. I don't find out until they get BIG.

granite1 · Nov 08, 2012, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Apteryx

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(that's Wingless Birdish for "I hate myself and I'm broken beyond repair and my T does not like me and I am pathetic")

you are none of these things

Nov 08, 2012, 04:25 PM

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you are none of these things

I agree Apt.... whats going on honey, we are your friends here.

healed84 · Nov 08, 2012, 04:53 PM

We need some action here.. I keep on clicking back to the page and refresh hoping that somebody has posted on the couched, sent me a pm, or started a new thread, and nothing.. lol!!! Come on people, wake up.. Or stop being so productive and veg out on the couch with me..

Nov 08, 2012, 04:59 PM

What do you suggest we talk about healed?

I have been looking at craigslist for a decent used car for my daughter. She turns 16 next month. I hate this kind of thing. When I bought my first used car by myself, I knew I wanted a minivan for a trip to Canada. I knew what it cost to rent one for the whole trip (almost $3k). So, I looked at newspaper ads for vans in that price range, called one guy, he met me and let me take the van. I drove it to a mechanic friend who looked it over, and I drove to the bank, got money and drove back to the guy's house, paid him and got the title. My husband was HORRIFIED. But, it was an AMAZING van and lasted an amazingly long time. I loved that van and cried when my husband and the mechanic friend refused to let me keep fixing it. [Tie rods went out finally.]

healed84 · Nov 08, 2012, 05:03 PM

Mkac...

it is sweet of you to be thinking about buying your daugther a car! I hope we can help our kiddos out like that when they are older. I am pretty sure my parent's life was much eaiser when I got my own car and stopped asking them for rides everywhere, lol!

Nov 08, 2012, 05:05 PM

That's awesome that you are helping her get a car.... Its a huge milestone in ones life and everyone remembers their first car....LOL

Nov 08, 2012, 05:06 PM

Sorry to be a downer and thanks for kind words. I'm gonna try and get some sleep now.

Nov 08, 2012, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by healed84

Mkac...

it is sweet of you to be thinking about buying your daugther a car! I hope we can help our kiddos out like that when they are older. I am pretty sure my parent's life was much eaiser when I got my own car and stopped asking them for rides everywhere, lol!

We're helping her get the car, but not buying it for her completely.

She is not entirely pleased about that.

Nov 08, 2012, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

That's awesome that you are helping her get a car.... Its a huge milestone in ones life and everyone remembers their first car....LOL

Totally different world. Completely.

Nov 08, 2012, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by My kids are cool

We're helping her get the car, but not buying it for her completely.

She is not entirely pleased about that.

I did the same with both the girls.... sorry gotta work for it.... gas and tires don't grow on trees....LOL

granite1 · Nov 08, 2012, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by My kids are cool

What do you suggest we talk about healed?

I have been looking at craigslist for a decent used car for my daughter. She turns 16 next month. I hate this kind of thing. When I bought my first used car by myself, I knew I wanted a minivan for a trip to Canada. I knew what it cost to rent one for the whole trip (almost $3k). So, I looked at newspaper ads for vans in that price range, called one guy, he met me and let me take the van. I drove it to a mechanic friend who looked it over, and I drove to the bank, got money and drove back to the guy's house, paid him and got the title. My husband was HORRIFIED. But, it was an AMAZING van and lasted an amazingly long time. I loved that van and cried when my husband and the mechanic friend refused to let me keep fixing it. [Tie rods went out finally.]

i bought myself a new car and gave my son my old one that was only 6 years old

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