[Twisted_Soul]

My T is world's best in my opinion.
She supports me. Cares about me. Goes the extra mile for me.
Often, though, she has to cancel appts because of things going on with her family.
It is hard to keep the "beat" if you will of going thru my issues when there is stop and start all the time.
But, I don't want to work through my abuse with anyone else.

I just guess I am writing here to let out some of my feelings.
I am sad for the personal things she is going through right now. Her Mom is sick. I know it cannot be helped and all.
I just miss her!

[(JD)]

((((hugs))) yes, that is a tough one. Be sure that the T is just as caring about you and how this is affecting you,too. Do your best, and both of you will get through these tough times. TC.

[SweetSunshine]

Susan~ I totally understand! I havent seen my T for 5 weeks now! And I've had pleanty of stress and things I've needed to talk to him about. But he's been on medical leave, and yesterday he had to cancel because he had an all night crisis and was on call for it. So it got cancelled agian. Its hard to be patient and understanding when we need them. But it is doable. We just have to realize they are human too and have lives outside of that room . Just take care of you . Do some good things for yourself during these times she is not there ok? It will be a little easier then.

Beth

somtimes, in pain, it is hard to remember that a life is a life is a life. a T went to school for years, probably married, had children and established a practice. they are genereally in their field to help people who have pain and need support and education about their issues.

that being said, a T has the same kinds of duties that the rest of us have. they shop, they go to school functions, they eat, sleep, get sick and perhaps go to church. and occasionally, they find time to take a vacation. they suffer burnout just as others do.

unless we've signed an agreement that a T is going to be on call for us 24/7, the T has a life of their own. when they are exercising their rights, those are the times that we have to suck it up and find some other way to help ourselves. supporting others is a good start. reading the forums and giving someone else some love and help goes a long ways towards helping us forget that we can't contact our Ts 100% of the time. xoxoxo pat

one more thought on having a T that is available every day of the week.

people who are in the professions of helping others have to have time to recharge. who would want a T that spends 98% of her time on you?

where and when would she ever have time to regroup and grow on her personal path? T's also want to have good lives. In order to have a good life, there has to be time for study and reflection. this is on top of all of the other obligations, of life, that they have.

we're at our best when we are helping others. but we all need time away. and if an illness is in the family, her time is consumed with being available for her loved ones.

twisted soul, i know that we've been over this before and i understand that you feel badly when she's not available. as i've said, there are so many people here who could use a hand up and it would help you take your mind off your problems. pat

[Twisted_Soul]

Thanks for the support.

I do know my T is a human who has responsibilities in her personal life!!

All I was doing was acknowleding that I miss her but at the same time I get she has a life of her own.

And that it sometimes is difficult to start something really deep in therapy and then sometimes not get in to see her for 2-3 weeks.

Oo blah dee....Oo blah dah.... Life goes on!

susan, sometimes the support that we want to hear, isn't the support that we need...........i am fully aware of your missing your T. i believe that helping others would help you. period. xoxoxo pat

[allthegirls6]

Missing a T and wanting a T is one thing. But I really dont see how helping others is the answer to this problem. I can and indeed do help others in a variety of ways, but it doesnt take away the pain i have when my T is away or when she is busy. And yes we cant have a T 24/7 but it doesnt make it any easier to know that when things are tough.

Helping others as a way to get better almost sounds religious to me. And in a way its like saying my own pain is irrelevant, should be set aside to help others. Doing good deeds does not take away personal distress. It may well deflect how you feel for a while but at the end of the day the pain is still there. The real answer is to help yourself and that normally means working with a T.

[Fuzzybear]

[Twisted_Soul]

Allthegirls...EXACTLY!!!

[(JD)]

Not having your T available... whether you would contact your T or not... is an "unsafe" feeling in a way, imo. It makes you take total care of yourself...something you (I) might be able to do, but don't want to do alone? (And don't do a good job alone.) Just knowing I can call my T whenever, wherever is a great therapy tool for me... even though I really debate whether to "bother" him when I think I need to.

It's a tough time! (((hugs)))