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I held off on getting any of my Christmas decorations out. Until today it still felt like fall. Now that we have 3 inches of snow it feels more appropriate. Plus the Packers game is depressing right now so if I set up the tree at least something good will have happened during the game.

Oh yeah. That was awful.

Yes I'm sure this is it but I'm not listening until he can talk to me about it like an adult.

Yes...its more like manslaughter than murder...don't know for sure if the intent is there but the result is the same... my love for him is dying...

These are the best kind of "dates"... totally under your control...enjoy these times...

Sorry you still aren't feeling better. Did you go to the dr? I had a sinus infection last week and a dr gave me a zpac and it was gone quick. Hope you feel better soon...

Nope just calling it like I see it. It benefits RTS not one iota to hear how other people dislike her based on her husbands narrative of who she is. Sure there is a reason for his passive agressive nature , but thats not what we are discussing... We are discussing the hurt it causes her to hear him say that and he has to know it hurts her.

Now it is definitely the Christmas season... Dominic the donkey is on the radio!!!!

I did finally go and get some antibiotics. But I think it is not just the sinus infection - it may be flu too. And traveling over night did not help. Spending 15 hours out of 36 in airports and planes is not conducive to good sinus health.
I will be okay - it just feels bad and I am terrible at being sick. The dogs are losing patience with my lack of fun for them too.

He only told me that the group said stuff that wasn't nice about me... I told him well now that you said it...I want to know what they said... But like I said it doesn't bother me what these other people think because I know 3 things... 1) these guys only know what my H says - they don't know the whole story 2)my husband does not tell what he does or doesn't do that precipitates the complaints know this by his own admission 3). they aren't part of my life but my H is...

but what he calls b*&chy behavior I call a boundary... no we are not mixing our money if you are bouncing checks and not paying bills and affecting my credit... no I'm not going to be ignored all week and then roll over and have s*x on Saturday morning just cause you want it...

Okay the rant and TMI is over...

RTS - have you and your husband talked about him not telling you anything about this group? It does not sound like hearing about it is useful to you. It would not be useful to me.

My niece flys from LA to NYC a lot and she swears by Airborn...takes it everytime before she flys... between all the people and germs and the dry air its no wonder you don't feel good. Its funny because my Dr told me to take Allegra with the antibiotic and I said I dont have allergies and he said it helps shrink everything back... it did make a difference...

Hope your dogs aren't too young.. if I didn't play with my golden when she was young she had a habit of chewing on things...

What kind of dogs do you have?

Thanks SD..yes I have asked him before to not tell me things that goes on in group... that he is only to tell me stuff that he has learned/figured out if he wants too.

Reading your posts is making me start to wonder if my husband is a bigamist. Maybe he was already married when I asked him if we were ever getting married, and he didn't want to tell me because he was afraid I'd be mad.

MKAC, i laughed right out loud...thank you.. I don't know maybe its true... he has watched sister wives with me one night... and laughed a lot.

I cant stand that sister wive guy.... ugg, why is that polygamy is multiple wives...why not multiple husbands... looks to me like he just buys a newer model every few years.

-pokes around from under the couch-
I've been feeling really shy and quiet lately.

i just type an email to my therapist (not sent). i actually feel ok in this moment... and i'll take it. it's the first ok moment i've had in 3 days.

(((Sila)))

Glad you are feeling not as bad RR.

Polygamy is the word for having more than one spouse (husband or wife) at the same time.

Polygyny is the word for having multiple wives, and polyandry is the word for having multiple husbands

They couldn't have a show called brother husbands cause they couldn't find a women who had lost her mind and wanted more than one husband.

Thanks for setting me straight RTS..... I couldn't handle more then one W ( hell i can barley handle that ) and the only upside to multiple husband would be purely economical.

g'night, cool couch people ... trying to go to bed on time ... so I gotta get off here.

I feel pretty good myself. Whether what happened in my last session is my fault or T's, I have effectively shut down. I don't want to talk to her anymore. I don't trust her. While the last year's worth of progress was totally worth it, I feel like I'm starting over at square one.

Before everyone jumps all over me, at the end of the day, my point is, T did not act like her normal self last session. It could be for a myriad of reasons, but she made a mistake, at least with me.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

Goodnight RR