Dear Client

I'm not a T, but how about hearing some comments from therapists on here? Sounds like some of them read our posts. I'd like to hear what they would say to us but can't because of protocol. I'd like to know what T thinks of us. Does anyone else feel like that? Do any T's care to offer some thoughts about how they feel about their clients?

I have trouble imagining a T having the time and inclination to read here.

Before I joined this forum I recall reading that some members spend their " hour in session" viewing this forum and analyzing members in here WITH their T..rolleyes:

While there are a small, few T's who post here, I suspect none of them aren't going to post anything that would be anywhere near any kind of specifics about any of their clients. If you have general questions about what you would like to know from their point of view, you might ask those specific questions, but a loose, general, "tell me what you think of your clients" kind of thread probably won't result in much. They ARE professionals and all seem to remain very professional in their postings. And like with all things therapy, if you want a specific questions answered, you need to ask it specifically.

What a terrific waste of time and money.

Before I joined this forum I recall reading that some members spend their " hour in session" viewing this forum and analyzing members in here WITH their T..Some T´s must be up for it.

I couldn´t agree more!

Perhaps for some, but not for others. What one person may find useful can be very different from what someone else finds useful. Just because something is not what one person would do, does not make it universally a waste.

To share one's own posts with T and examine them together could very well be productive; I have a hard time believing any credible T would spend time with a client examining others' posts.

We'll just have to disagree. I cannot fathom how reading random posts on an internet forum for an entire hour of therapy would help me work on MY issues and MY life. Seems avoidant and voyeuristic. I can't imagine a therapist finding this kind of activity specifically relevant to a clients' well-being. If a client finds A thread or A post relevant to themselves, I would assume they could print it off and take that one thread in and use it as a jumping off point for their own therapy, but to simply spend an entire hour of therapy analyzing OTHER people's lives seems entirely irrelevant to a clients' OWN therapy. I suppose people can feel free to waste their therapy time that way, but it does seem like a waste.

The fact that one cannot fathom something still does not make it universal. But if you don't find it useful, then I suppose you would not do it. I would not find it useful personally, but feel no need to criticize that some might.

I'll consider my hand slapped and move on.

I'm seeing my "T" today, and we'll probably go on the forum - only the part that is open to non-members. I like to use it to help me understand my responses to things I read, and things I write. My memory is for sh**! We use the forum as to how it affects ME, especially in questions and doubts I may have about my own life. I don't think we've ever done a whole "50 minute therapy hour," but I suppose we could. Fortunately, I have a lot of time in therapy that it doesn't seem like time wasted. Since last Sunday I've had ~12 hours of therapy, and we have barely talked about the forum, let alone go on it together. I might change my mind today about going on - don't know though.

If what one does in therapy works - why would one change it? Even if others see it as a waste of time or money? It's yours to do what you wish.

Thank G, my therapy works for me! Especially around this holiday time.

Sorry to the OP, because she was looking for post from therapists, and I am only a consumer.

I mention pc probably every session. I'm on it a lot. But it usually ends up as going says - I am pointing the finger at someone else but 3 more are pointing back at me.

These forums here aren't really for therapists, only if the therapist is looking for support themselves. In fact I think DocJohn is dead against therapists joining here as it wouldn't feel safe having a load of professionals trying to put their two peneth in. I think there can be acceptions to that rule though. I don't think there is anything wrong in discussing your thread/post with your own T if it has raised an issue for you. Hugs

I am not telling anyone how to do therapy. However I don´t think highly of a professional who want´s to view this forum with a client. Aren´t we suppose to talk about things and built up/understand IRL relationships? I don´t think there´s anything bad in refering to stuff from here in sessions. Just find it funny for a T and client to sit together behind the screen/ look at prints. As I recall before joining, a T knew the histories and had several comments about members in here. Personally I would think a T like that got his or hers degree in some sort of short online program.

My therapist doesn't go on here, unless its at the request of a client, and from our conversations I know she will never join.

Question: If another thread, or post has triggered you, is it not legal to share the link, or look at the computer together with your therapist to figure out "your" stuff - how it affects you?

Also, at a conference recently for therapist PC was brought up. Now more therapist do know this forum exist.

I think some may not be able to fathom it helping, some may render it to be immensely helpful for reasons we might not be privy to, and some may want to share their own posts but not others and so forth. I don't see a right way or wrong way, a right view or a wrong view, but I see different views and methods for different people.

From the community guidelines -

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Forums are Research-Free

These forums are open for all to see. Again, I think it is ok to discuss issues about something that may have brought something up for you or it may be useful to discuss a thread where you felt you handled something well or badly. I think it can be therapeutic to do that. I would suggest to anyone worrying about their identity to make sure you are anonymous on here.

I can imagine it being useful, especially for the T to learn more about the client and their tendencies, the choices they make, what gets stirred up for them, etc.

I, personally, wouldn't prefer to spend my session that way - although there's certainly been times when I've brought up instances where things that happen on PC for me that mirror certain things in real life.

The reason I remember, that some clients were discussing this forum with their T´s is because one wrote that he or she had been looking and talking about members long before joining? That doesn´t seem safe and why do that in session if one is not even part of the forum? It took me awhile to join and become a member after that info

My therapist speaks honestly within session. Honesty isn't effected by protocol. Perhaps you are confusing internal anger and projection.

???Did you post this on the wrong thread?

I can certainly understand one being hesitant. I, too, felt a bit unsafe and nauseated with that idea.

I did that when I was just a lurker. It helped me because it affected me. I would be surprised if some of the other lurkers don't discuss it in therapy. It affected me a lot back then. Not now, and when it does I make a pact with her sometimes to stay off, ignore certain things, etc.

To each his or her own - I'm late for therapy!