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Old Jan 21, 2013, 09:32 PM
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(((hugs))) jersey.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 09:41 PM
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Trdle-I am so sorry your mom said that to you. Seriously has more to do with her than you. Can you just try hard to distance yourself from that and realize its probably about her. Hugs hugs hugs
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 09:41 PM
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((((Healed))) thank you for the hugs with all the crap you are going thru.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 09:43 PM
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Hey couch...
Anybody have advice on how to be content and stay content in your life? I need to be content/happy in the life that I have.
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"You fail to recognize that it matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be!" - J.K. Rowling. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 09:46 PM
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Jersey I can just hear my xT saying that he needs to suffer the consequences of his actions/lack of actions... he said this when my H. was making financial mistakes but my money was covering them up so we ended up separating our money...
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 09:48 PM
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Healed... my advice be true to yourself...
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 09:49 PM
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Healed-lots of radical acceptance....but you don't have to settle you deserve to be happy.

RTS-I am also suffering the consequences of his actions.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 09:56 PM
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Hey couch...
Anybody have advice on how to be content and stay content in your life? I need to be content/happy in the life that I have.
Sorry, no words of wisdom. Take time for yourself. I struggle with the same things. I wish you well.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 09:57 PM
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Jersey... it stinks that you have to pay for his lack of initiative.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 09:59 PM
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Good night everyone. Short week for me this week. We are going to Wrightsville Beach on Friday. Looking forward to it. Even if it is cold. i love the beach in the winter. My favorite time.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 10:01 PM
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Enjoy the beach Ike. Any time around water is good.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 10:05 PM
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Goodnight Ike

Thanks RTS. I'm slightly calmer. The vodka is going down like water and since I have not eaten a lot-it's not gonna take much. Not the best coping strategy but.. Whatever works.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 10:07 PM
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((((Lola))))
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but is already present,
in open relaxation and letting go.

Don't strain yourself,
there is nothing to do or undo.
Whatever momentarily arises
in the body-mind
Has no real importance at all,
has little reality whatsoever.

Don't believe in the reality
of good and bad experiences;
they are today's ephemeral weather,
like rainbows in the sky.


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Old Jan 21, 2013, 10:08 PM
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Jersey - my coping mechanism right now is a nice bottle of Shiraz.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 10:10 PM
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busy week...
therapy three days in a row....
day 1 - reg therapy
day 2 - massage therapy
day 3 - art therapy

i don't think I planned this very well.
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Happiness cannot be found
through great effort and willpower,
but is already present,
in open relaxation and letting go.

Don't strain yourself,
there is nothing to do or undo.
Whatever momentarily arises
in the body-mind
Has no real importance at all,
has little reality whatsoever.

Don't believe in the reality
of good and bad experiences;
they are today's ephemeral weather,
like rainbows in the sky.


~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~

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Old Jan 21, 2013, 10:13 PM
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That's lots to do RR-goodluck!
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 10:31 PM
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goodnight everyone.
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Old Jan 21, 2013, 10:36 PM
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Goodnight dear couch friends. I'm taking something to sleep and going to bed.
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Old Jan 22, 2013, 06:08 AM
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Good morning couch..

So glad that today is actually Tuesday.. Mondays are better when you don't have to work. Although, I do have to work full days on my normal half days, so I still have a long week ahead of me. I hope you all have great days today, GL to those who have T today.

Lola- praying work goes well for you.
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Old Jan 22, 2013, 06:50 AM
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Healed. Have a good day at work. At least it's distraction.
Lola-will be thinking of you today.
Granite-Hope you wake up feeling less scrambled today
MUE-Hope you Don't wake up in too much pain
Wiki-Hugs hugs hugs
Nightlight-thinking of you

Hello Everyone else. T today at 12. Might be the last one for a while if H's boss needs to stop operating the tow truck the end of this week. Here we go again-in crisis mode. Can't believe it's happening again so soon. That job was barely contributing to paying bills but at least we were staying afloat. We have no savings though. So this is it.. If the guy has to park the truck, we are up a creek without a paddle.
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Old Jan 22, 2013, 06:55 AM
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Jersey - I hope things change for your husband's work situation soon.
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Old Jan 22, 2013, 06:56 AM
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Good morning, couch peeps....

I'm trying to decide if I'm going in to work today. I only work 1 day a week, and more than half of the day's pay is deducted from my unemployment so it only makes it financially worthwhile for me to work 3 hours. I am still suffering greatly with this migraine, and my boss last week told me that I wasn't really needed much because not much is going on - but that without me there, nothing much will come....so it's a catch 22. Not a good feeling.

I don't want to be seen as unnecessary as I am still holding onto the hope that I will get a full time job there....and I don't want to be seen as unreliable either. And when my unemployment does run out, if I don't have full time work, I want to at least have that one full day each week. So, for those reasons, I want to go in. But I am feeling SO poorly right now with this migraine.

I could ask to go in another day, but I have several appts. tomorrow and Thursday....so the only other day I'm available is Friday...which wouldn't make sense cuz I'd be going in on Monday.

If I go in for at least a few hours, then I'd at least get some work done - and the company wouldn't have to pay me for a whole day which saves them money (especially when there's not much for me to do at the moment anyway). But, that goes back to me being seen as unreliable and unnecessary.

Ugh. Decisions, decisions.

I guess I'm gonna just brace myself and go to the office. That's the safe thing to do.

I have group T tonight and then am meeting with my comedy class. Not sure if I'm gonna make it to either of those things. Migraines are the worst.
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Old Jan 22, 2013, 06:58 AM
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Mue - sorry you are having such a horrible time with your health.
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Old Jan 22, 2013, 07:02 AM
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Thanks, stopdog.....I see my neurologist tomorrow, but unfortunately the treatments that DO work for me (botox injections in my neck and base of skull) are not available to me right now because my insurance won't cover them. I'm hoping he'll be able to do something to help me.

((( Jersey ))) - So stressful. I am keeping my fingers crossed that things fall into place somehow. Financial stress is among the worst. I know it all too well at the moment but am in a place of denial yet again. *sigh*
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Old Jan 22, 2013, 07:28 AM
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Jersey, you really made my day. I've been feeling a bit invisible. I'm thinking of you too and sending you good thoughts. I do relate to how it feels when despite best efforts, everything still seems to be heading off down some awful, dreadful, scary path. I really hope it doesn't come to that for you. Hope T goes well too. I'm guessing it will be challenging, when everything is so up in the air...
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