Welcome to the Couth that Would Not Die - Episode 37: Clean up that Cool Whip!

Morning all!! I got to work today and flowers had already been delivered from h. Sweet of him especially given out situation these days! Hope you all are having a great day!

Happy Valentine's Couchies. Have a great day, or a mostly not unpleasant day.

ok does no one find it odd that Valentine Day shortened is VD? Ok, so Im 16 kinds of wrong huh? Probably need therapy!

Or a cup of calming chalmomile.
I am anti-valentine's day.
I am pro arbor day.

SD , Is this you?

Hey, stopdog, here is a Valentine you may not dislike entirely:

I'm having a hard morning and want to whine for a few minutes. Marriage counseling was difficult last night and it's looking like my husband is just never going to be willing to do the work to address his own issues, and certainly is not likely to just spontaneously turn into the sort of person who will be willing to stand up for me, or even just stand beside me in a conflict. I think I just need to decide if what he gives me is good enough for the rest of my life or if it's time to just move on. Also, our amazing, sweet, lovely, super gentle dog died last year on Valentines Day, and this year, my weird, wild dog who my dad adored is dying. She had a stroke and has been getting weaker the last few days. It's looking like she won't last through the day. The vet said there's no pain involved so we can just let nature take its course. Just brings up a lot of memories of my father and how much he loved this dog, and would actually kind of romp around with her when he came down to my house, chase her, let her chase him and jump all over him, throw balls for her, etc.

Okay, I need to stop weeping at my desk.

MKAC have you read the 5 love languages? W and I took quizes to find our Love language, when i told her my results she said they were wrong. Turns out she didnt speak my love language!

And now Pandora is playing Adele singing "I Can't Make You Love Me When You Don't." I am actually laughing because my mood today is just ridiculous.

Thanks Lola, we have read that and taken the quiz. My husband's response was to go, 'huh' and walk away.

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=249495141851198

Saw this on facebook and thought of you MKAC. Hope you find comfort in it.

Morning couchkiddos! Happy Valentine's Day to everyone! And good thoughts going along with those who have t today. Hubby and I are celebrating our 15th anniversary today, well actually we're not doing the celebrating part til the weekend, but whatev. I'll admit there have been some years where I have identified with the "I Tolerate You" card, but all in all it's been a good 15 years. I'm lucky to have found him. And I'm finally getting to the point (thanks to therapy) that I can say he's lucky to have found me, too!

Happy day all!

MKAC, I'm so sorry. Losing a beloved pet is really hard and when you don't have a supportive partner, it must be that much worse.

I went to the dentist this morning. I had a 9:00 appointment and they were running 45 minutes late already! Added to my pdoc running 45 minutes late yesterday, I'm getting a complex. I have T this afternoon. I hope he's not running late, too, but he usually is on Thursdays.

Happy Anniversary, Artemis!

It was beautiful, Lola, but didn't help me with that weeping at my desk thing.

I was hoping it would comfort you. Sorry...

ok , well this made me think of you too and it's happy!

Howdy Critter, Happy anniversary Apt!

Sometimes I think I am MKAC's husband.
I took that test with my partner. She was all of them. I was like - I don't like any of this.

W said she thought mine was physical touch and I was all, Ok now I see why you do that!

Yeah, you're not my H, stopdog. I'm pretty sure that if your partner told you that she was suicidally depressed, and if you did X, she thought it would bump her over the edge, then you would not do X. Or if you did do X, you would not act all surprised when your partner became so depressed that she could not get out of bed.

I would have to believe that x had something to do with me. I am a terrible partner like that. So if x was something like - "if you touch me on my forehead, I will respond badly" = then I would refrain from doing it. But if it was "I will respond badly if you go play golf" - I would be all like "what does my golf have to do with you?" (and I would need a good explanation to not go play golf(this is assuming I have not chosen to play golf on the day partner has open heart surgery or needs me to take her to chemo or her award ceremony sort of thing (because even I would not do choose golf over those things).

some times i wonder if MKAC husband would go play golf in any situation if it suited him. i am sorry MKAC that he is being such a but head these days. i know it is hard to think in these terms because i know there is still a lot of love there . have you consitered a seperation to see how it feels or is that to scarey ? i am sorry about your dog. can we all just skip V- day.

it has got to be hard in a relationship that seems to have love but not a lot of like in it

Trigger warning for discussion of suicidal thoughts.





Stopdog, In one instance, it involved the house that we share. I was feeling overwhelmed and totally crowded. My husband wanted more bookshelves (we already had several). I told my husband how very depressed and distressed I was, and I felt like if we had one more thing in an already crowded, small house, I would have a total meltdown and absolutely could not handle it. I think I actually used the words that if he brought in the bookshelves and added more STUFF to the house, it would kill me. Or I would kill me. He brought in the bookshelves anyway, and then called my doctor all distressed and surprised when I could barely get out of bed and only did so to take steps toward the suicide plan I had.

OK , So, for all practical purposes we are NOT celebrating VD on the couch? All in favor say I....

i am doing better and know i can be fine untill i see T next week. i truely am terrified to call her and i know e-mail is a big no no.i know if i called her i would freeze and not be able to use any words. i promice ill say something if things get bad so i can be kicked in the but to call. i know you guys will know if i need to