Is any couch better than none? Welcome to Couch 41

Does custard in a tart qualify as a fluid?

I'm in. I hate my effin earplugs. Is that what shark tank is? I watch Dragon's Den on Canadian television. I used to be intimidated by it, now I'm cool with it. Progress in t.

I honestly don't know which is which. I know H has The Fourth Bear.

I like to talk sci-fi, though I don't read nearly as much for fun as I used to. My favorite series is Niven's Ringworld.

I like J Fforde. I both read and also listen to his books from audible too while walking the dogs.

I found this to be an interesting article. I wonder if anything has changed in 20 years.

http://articles.chicagotribune.com/1...tient-feelings

Wow SD where do you find these things? Daniel Goleman, the Emotional IQ guy. I wanted to marry him last century, not that I ever met him, but I loved his writing. So you can see from this article why I don't take if the wrong way when my t tells me I sound just like my mother. I have talked to him about the feelings or identification being like a hot potato - I don't know if it's him or me sometimes. Like I can't say if you're feeling angry or protective along with sad. Why those 2, why "along with", Idk why I said that either, I guess cuz I feel that way towards my t. But to answer your original question - I would call it a fairly timely article, ahead of its time. I like Gabbard, have come across him, maybe Ogden too.

Good morning, peeps!

I never talked to my parents about sex and where babies come from.....I have no idea how I learned it all....but my exposure to sex began at age 5....and oral sex at age 7....but I'm sure I didn't understand that it wasn't about fear, pain and control until way later. Matter of fact, I don't think I ever learned that it isn't about fear, pain and control.

....ooh, Shark Tank. Never saw it, but my T told me that he got a letter from them asking him to apply to be a contestant. That was quite some time ago, so I'm not sure what came of it. It would be so weird to watch my T on that show.....

I knew about sex from the get go, but at about 11 I learned that's how you got babies. (I thought it was how you became a girl). When I realized he did that with my mother as well, I puked for 2 weeks.

this:
Seriously, between the nerves and stomach churning and the embarrassment and the shame, as well as trying to think up things to say, I don't know how this is possible. I did have the sense xt would get this way though, sometimes his questions about events was just off the wall. Like "did you do anything kinky with him?" or "did you orgasm" ICK. I hated that shite. Glad I'm with a woman now.

Eeek, Eeeek, Eeeeeeek!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wiki - ACK! I have a male T, but his wife is so beautiful and petite...and I am the complete opposite, so I don't have that fear with him.

For the longest time I really did think Bab Ghanoush was a person.

Wiki....I would have been sckeeved by those questions...

Like MUE...when I saw xT (male) I didn't have those concerns but for different reasons.
Early on in therapy when discussing my H xT said "well maybe your H isn't sexually attracted to you" and I figured it was xT projecting his own feelings... (although I knew at the time it was true about H)

I wonder how many female therapists thought that versus male ones. I think it sounds more like projection/wishful thinking on the part of the therapist.

His email went rogue and sent me his porn contacts. They were punky women with short spikes hair and vibrant highlights. My hair was punky, and I always did funk colors. His wife was kind of chubby with long blonde hair.

Ummmm... did you ever talk to him about that Wiki??? I don't think I could have been able to get that out of my mind enough... way too much information

At church typing with thumbs... Forgive spelling please!

My x Female T was the one who askes me those type of questions regarding SA. It made me angry. Pretty heavy conv for a sunday morning couch.

I think all of them ask about sex/sa in some form at some time. My projection comment was about the appear to orgasm part of the article. I really do believe you have to have a strong voyeuristic streak to want to be a therapist no matter about gender.
The part of the article I focused on was their rage at clients.

Wiki....

I'm trying to talk myself into going to church...

My mind is all garbled up and has been since my last session on the 21st... the anxiety has reared its ugly head again... the racing thoughts...all followed up with old coping mechanisms...

so I'm back to being invisible in my house... if I can't be what people want me to be then its like I'm not there... its the old reward and punishment system...

I wish I had stuck to my promise to myself to not speak about the past to this T... it just makes things so much worse..

SD it was my fenale T who wanted to know if I liked it.

Im headed to church... Then softball this afternoon, have a good day. RS take care of yourself, you deserve it.

I realize they all have a deal about sex. I just think the thought by the therapist that the client was actually having an orgasm at the appointment part seemed a bit like wishful thinking. And she was already a little weird about you being gay as I recall.

I really had to reread the article to see the sex part. Seriously - focus on the rage part, people, and that they had admitted they had deliberately done something to the client in retaliation. Vindication is mine - clients are NOT always wrong when they think the therapist is like that.

I WANNA GO HOME!!!!!!!!

Actually, I am home. But I wanna STAY home.

I am so tired of being at my mom's house. I can't imagine actually having to move back home which is a real possibility at the moment. I don't feel comfortable there. Every minute that I'm not busy, I'm anxious and wanting OUT of that house!!! ACK!

It's not like anything bad is going on either. My mom and I are getting along. I feel like my life is completely on hold when I'm there.

I am home at the moment, feeding the pets, etc. I just want to click my heels and have things back to the way they were.

MUE...its like you are in a catch 22 or a self fulfilling prophesy....

the more time you spend at your mom's taking care of her the less time you have to find a job the more likely you will have to move in with her...

life just sucks sometimes and I'm never the one to see the way out of situations before they happen... hope you can...

ETA... sorry that was supposed to be supportive in that I see the situation in which you find yourself but I don't have any advice to help you find your way out...

Well I'm off to do laundry and clean kitchen since I couldn't bring myself to go to church.... I need to earn my keep somehow... since I'm failing on the good wife and mother job...