Used T's toilet.

I hate, hate having to go loo outside. Spent my session debating in my head whether to ask to use T's loo or struggle home.

6 mins to go & my mouth spurted out 'do you mind if I use your loo before I go?" T said "of course not, do you need to go now? Come back when you've finished". I relied that we may as well call it a day now. T said but its not time yet. I said don't worry about a couple of minutes.
So I sat on T's loo staring at her corners and stuff lol

She's not very house proud. I know this already. But it still kinda surprises me. Doesn't go with the idolisation lol.

I understand this is probably a painful issue for you but I did have to smile. It reminded me of when I had a consultation with my very first private t who worked from home. Up until then I'd only seen ts in agencies and other professional environments. I was desperate for the toilet but didn't know if it would be imappropriate or a boundary breach to ask, especially as her toilet was upstairs and we met downstairs. In the end I 'held it in' until I got home which was obviously uncomfortable.

I remember posting a thread when I got home asking whether it was okay to use a t's toilet! Now of course I know that it is but at the time it horrified yet amused the child part of me at the same time. I didn't go back to see this t but I now see another private t and I use her toilet a lot. Luckily she's quite clean but it still feels quite strange to me to see where she showers and um does her private bathroom business.

Dreamy, no it is funny. All these yrs of therapy and working through the desire to merge, feel closer. All I had to do was ask to use her toilet. There lies the answer to all my questions & desires lol

I always seem to need the bathroom at my T's house. It always feels like I've ruined the boundaries when I see her dressing gown and "relaxing" bath salts..!

Wow, I never thought about the bathroom aspect if a T was practicing out of there house. Heck, I stop off at a reststop before I get to Ts office building just so I don't have to use the one there.

My T works in a therapy centre so there's a toilet that isn't personally his. I've only used it once and it felt kind of weird even so.

That would be way too weird for me. But I'm glad that it was a positive experience for you.

It wasn't good or bad. Just flipping hilarious to me.

My T has a toilet/shower room that patients use, but I also know she has a private bathroom in the main body of her house.

It's those sorts of moments that I think bring the lighter side into the therapy room, or at least the bathroom!

It has seriously made me consider boundaries though. One time I went to the bathroom and a bedroom door was open (normally all the doors in T's house are closed apart from the room where we are working). For a brief second I was almost attempted but no I couldn't look. That wouldn't be right. But it was a strange feeeling.

Makes you realise why boundaries exist. It is to protect the therapeutic relationship. Friendship just doesn't hold the same opportunities for self discovery & growth as the therapeutic one does. We need parts of our T's life to be shut of

Ooh, I never got that brave; the best I could do was have to go back and ask to use the phone because my car wouldn't start.

Wasn't brave. Was desperate lol

Once with XT I forgot my cell. It was not a regular appointment, and when I got there (a 45 min drive) he told me he had just gotten an urgent call from his son. He told me I could wait, and he came back in about a half hour. At this point I had been out of contact with the world for an hour fifteen, adding an hour session and an addition 45 minutes for the ride home. I knew H would be worried. So I sucked it up and asked if I could briefly use his phone. I thought I would use his office phone on his desk, but he reached into his trouser pocket and pulled out his cell. It was warm. It felt gross and weird and way too close. I called H anyways. That was a huge boundary issue for me.

I've never used the loo at any t's office.

I think I may take shampoo & sling a towel over my shoulder for my next session ;-)

I just wanted to say that I thought of this thread today as I desperately had to go potty at the T's office. I kept thinking, " don't over think it....don't over think it..." Lol