It was worth revisiting that past session!

I am just calling them like I see them, Rainbow. I think the next step in your healing might be to respond differently to the inevitable same kinds of posts. I'd like to see you move towards accepting that some people will always have the same negative response to you and that while you can acknowledge that everyone has a right to think and post what they want, you don't have to engage with them. Or, rather, that it's not productive for you to engage with them. Let it go, and let go of the desire to change them or get them to see what you believe. You can still hold on to your truth no matter what anyone else says, as it belongs to you, and it doesn't change no matter what someone posts in response to your experiences.
Yes! I need to do what you say. My DBT skills flew out the window! I'm too vulnerable. I get triggered too easily and I get defensive when I'm criticized. It's hard because of course there IS some truth in those posts. Thank you again, Anne.
I think on trauma-- that many of the good trauma people that I have known, and much of the professional literature, sees borderline behavior and BPD as primarily a response to unresolved trauma. The good news there is that resolving the trauma, acknowledging it happened, dealing with its effects, offers real promise for healing. I see you on the cusp of that. I am sorry that you had to grow up with these experiences, but I think by putting them out there in the open (including here), you are on your way to a better place. Keep moving

Maybe I didn't make my point clear. No, I didn't mean to suggest that if a person has a strong reaction to a thread that they should not post.

I'm just saying that if they notice in themselves that they seem to be overly reactive to a thread, it would be a really good idea to look at themselves to see if their strong emotional reaction is based on something in their own past that is unresovled and needs some attention.

That's all I meant.

I sort of see caring like I am with students in conferences or appointments. I care about my students in a sort of detached way. When they are in my office, they are my focus for the amount of time they are there. I do not answer the phone, or check texts or whatever - for that period of time - they are my focus and I do care that they are okay, getting enough sleep, can learn the material, are having a useful experience, I want them to do well and succeed and have decent lives and so forth. Some I do like better than others, but they all get my focus and attention individually. And then the student leaves and I go on to the next student or task. I have boundaries and do not become friends with them. I do not go to their weddings, or baby showers or golf tournaments. I care, but not like I do about my lover, my dad, my friends and so forth. They come and go, as it should be. I am more unique to them than they are to me - like I think therapists are with clients. It does not mean not care, just it is not the care of friends, family and lovers.