The small things....

T did something so small.. but it made me feel so good. It may sound silly to most people..

I go to t once a week.. He has a receptionist that does his scheduling so I talk to her about my appointments. Usually, t just asks if we are scheduled for next week at the end of our appointments. Well, I realized last week when I went to my appointment that I wasn't scheduled for this week and it was unlikely I would get an appointment with t. I was ok with it..

However, at the end of the session T says, I saw that you weren't scheduled for next we so I put you in there. Simple.. but for some reason, it made me feel so cared for!!

Has T ever done anything small for you that made you feel so good?

That sounds so caring on your T's part. How lovely.

My T is surprises me with the things she does.

Aww, don't you just love those warm and fuzzy moments?

I'm not in a place right now to recall those things with my T because I'm a bit peeved at him right now.

But, I'm glad you're having one of those moments now. Enjoy it.

A bunch of times.

My former T went on maternity leave during our work together and I was simultaneously seeing a dietitian she was in practice with. I was paying a cheaper rate for therapy- individual T took insurance only from me so I could afford to see her, group T and dietitian gave me reduced fees. The dietitian was raising her rates for all her clients and told individual T that she would have to raise my rate, to which T replied "Oh no, you're not!" The dietitian was the one who told me the story, so I doubt that T even knows I know.

Another smaller thing was when we were preparing for my move across the country, she kept referring to the name of a major city nearby, but not the actual city I was moving to. She knew she had it wrong, and I never corrected her because it was close enough. Then one session, she suddenly said the specific little city name and I was so surprised and touched that she bothered to learn the city even when I was fine with her referring the larger major city a couple hours from here.

It's so nice when our T's do something small out of care

That does sound nice, Healed. Good on your T!

That's lovely of your T! I have to say I would find it very anxiety-inducing if I didn't just have a standing slot agreed with mine...

Small things tend to mean a great deal to me. The first time I called my T in crisis and left voicemail, he texted back rather than calling as he knows I hate the phone. Might sound trivial but it meant a lot to me.

My T gave me one of those Valentine's cards that children exchange on Valentine's Day 2012. We are both single ladies and I guess she assumed that I'd be lonely, even though that's far from correct. It was like the second time I had saw her so I think she was just trying to connect with me. I keep it in my purse so that everytime I pay for something, I'm reminded of her. It's something I can always have that's a part of her even when I have no contact. It's like a comfort object.

She played a game with me one day, which meant alot to me. Make me feel very special.

I once saw an intern for a few sessions. She would pat me on the shoulder as I walked out which was always nice.

Sometimes my T would offer to say a prayer. I could always ask her to do that, but it meant more when she offered.

thats so sweet!

my T has done so many sweet things. the most recent being i was having a rough time and asked for an extra session, at the end of it she gave me her favorite little stuffed animal from her office and was like "here take this little guy with you, its my favorite. he can ride shotgun with you this week"

Healed, yes it is the 'small' things that feel so good. Especially if we never had that. Glad your T did that for you.

I love hearing things like that! I am happy for you

My t does lots of small things that make me feel loved and i appreciate it so much.

that's pretty awesome...

So a little thing my T has done....the way the office is set up is that T can pick from multiple chairs to sit in..some further away from the chair I sit in and then there is one where it is directly in front of me. For a long time now T would switch which chair he would sit in whereas I always sit in the same place. I always felt more connected when he would pick the chair closer to me and less connected (or rejected?) when he picked one of the further away chairs. I've noticed that since we've been working on some deeply emotional things he has been picking the closer seat every session. It seems like a subtle reminder that he isn't going to pull away from my pain or something.
Maybe not as cool as those of you who got actual objects but it makes me feel safe

My T has a tv on in his waiting room to help ensure we can't hear what's happening in session. He always has on CNN and today when I arrived he quickly came out and changed the channel because he knew that I would be disturbed by the big news story today. Very thoughtful of him.

My T has done so many small things that I couldn't even list them all. Some of the most recent ones:

- Switching the chair she sits in during our sessions to make me feel more comfortable
- Taking a quick peek at my blog before each session so she knows what has been going on for me
- Sharing with me some personal stuff about her, which helped me feel more connected
- Setting up a regular weekly session for the rest of our time together

She is pretty awesome!!

I think that's pretty awesome!

T#1 gave be back $25 of his fee and told be to go do several random acts of kindness before the next session and write up what I did. I have been seeing him for 7 months and that is the only thing I can think of.

Wow - I would love to know what you did with the money!

With my T, I think it's things he says, rather than things he does. Last week he said: "I hold your hand such a lot in here, in my mind." That made me very happy.