Message to Therapists

If psychology has measurable evidence based results, then maybe.
Until then show me the broken glass.

I actually smiled when you admitted to being a little tipsy. :-)

Your writing was very moving, I really felt what you were saying. Do you have any ideas about how to reform all of this?

To pioneer new frontiers you have to break the established institutionalism of contemporary psychology and be an unashamed activist on behalf of the patient. Some therapists may lose licenses in the process.
There are losses in any reformation but there are also gains.
Many things can be done within the current framework.
Such as replacing words like resistant with words like caution.
The therapeutic relationship feels so synthetic.
The great intervention is so obvious to me...

Get the patient to suspend their disbelief in the cautious stage.
Encourage idealizing fantasy and transference.
Threaten the relationship (in my case)
Get the patient to rise to defend the great relationship that they were encouraged to create.
Remind the patient of the past failed relationship and abandon them.(in my case)
This will force the patient to choose the better imagined future over the terriblr realities of their past relationships and produce lasting change that has better outcomes.

At this point the therapist says, "I did my best."

Sometimes, it backfires.
All the patient sees themself as is a textbook collection of disorders rather than a unique individual with unique experiences.
How about a unique approach for a unique person that fits them like a finely tailored suit.

I like my old suit better. It fit.

Pour water into a cup, it becomes the cup, into a vase it becomes the vase.

Psychology was poured into me finding a malformed vessel.
It was easier to live in obscurity or the attic so to speak than to have all eyeson me staring at me psychologically disrobed .

Imagine going skinny dipping with the person you trust the most and the person you trust gets out of the water and steals your clothes and leaves you their naked.
Would you ever go skinny dipping again?

Now imagine them enjoying not regretting what they've done to you.
The second condition is worse than the first.

That is my therapy.

(((Live)))

I want to say something significant here to help ease your pain, but there are no words.

I think I let alot out in my rant.

I am so sorry to read your thread. I thought I had found a great T too who really understood me. I confided things I never should have and will be sorry I did for the rest of my life. My T also lied to me and betrayed me. It is the worst feeling ever and most people don't understand that. To say to move on to another T after being royally betrayed by someone you trusted...someone you truly cared for...well...I can't imagine doing that. I understand why you're not jumping into the fire again.

At least your T confessed. Guess it wasn't easy to pull that out of her. It's surprising that she admitted to the whole charade, isn't it? Mine won't own up to his part in what he's done to me yet but I'm still hoping he will. How can they sit there and lie to our faces? What is the point in lying to your client? I can't believe they just lie to us to make a living for themselves. Is this true? How can your T abandon you? She has no remorse? Did she even apologize? I know an apology doesn't cut it but it would be something. I don't understand it. This is so cruel, so heartless, so immoral.

What to do now? It hurts so much. It is so unfair to have this on top of all that's happened to you in the past. Maybe the only people who can really understand are the one's who have been through a similar trauma. Only problem with that is you'll just have two people hurting together instead of one. No healing going on here. I literally feel sick right now and must sign off.

She only admitted her wrongs when I threatened an ethical review of her actions. Then she went into damage control mode.
She insulated herself from failure and exposed me to the detriment thereof.
She knows that I wont put her in front of a review board because I dont want my therapy exposed because of the nature of abuse that I suffered as a child.
It's almost as if she found safety and confidentiality more in me than I in her because she knows what that exposure would do to me. How sick is that? She feels allowed to do that to me.
How reminiscent of my childhood.
Oh well, I knew I didn't mean **** to anyone going into therapy. It's no surprise to discover I don't mean **** coming out.
She actually said she learned a lot from me. What does that mean? What was I just some data gathering experiment?
Before therapy, I believed in God, was married, had friends and family etc...All of my support has left me and the moment I lose all of that completely...she terminates.
Therapy for me... never again.

It says that you are a courageous, smart and gutsy person!