Couch 52 - Are you being served?

No, it's an ordinary working day... but it's 6pm on Friday afternoon, and he doesn't work Fridays. Can I txt him, do you think? He's said that it's always ok to txt if I really need to.

Edited to add: Just to be clear, there's no need to worry that I'll do anything to harm myself physically in any way. I won't do that.

That is awesome! When I was in nail school ten years ago, I always did well on my written exams, it was the practicals that killed me. And break time kinda felt like being on the set of the movie Reform School Girls. The school was out in the country and the young women were just incredible, really. I was in a daze the whole time, but they were just starting their adult lives and were so funny and energetic and some were just brilliant but didn't have the family backing or resources. It was a great experience.

Mastodon, why the question? You said right here that he said its always ok to txt if I really need to. You just said you need your T.. ask for help. maybe try to think first what you want from him so you can ask for what you want in your text?...

like I would write" t i'm feeling really overwhelmed by feelings from the past and I need you to text me back and remind me of ways I can be thinking about it" or T I'm feeling like you are really distant right now and I need you to remind me that even though its the weekend... that you are still here and all the wonderful good things you have said to me and all the support is still here"

those are just some examples that came to my mind..but if you word the text with what you need you have a better chance of getting a helpful response

Mastodon...if you need him, text him. He said it was okay, you don't have to be suicidal to be in crisis. Crisis takes many forms. Go for it.

Thanks. You'da thunk an English teacher would be better with them words.

It's funny Hanksta, she is really earthy crunchie (I wonder where she gets that from) and she was afraid she wouldn't fit in with the cosmo girls. She is an amazing and talented artist and graphic designer, and she hoped her art could transfer to a different medium (hair/skin/nails). This woman couldn't get over the make over she did for a competition (she won). She gets to meet Nick Arrojo next week (from What Not To Wear) and get a hands on lesson from him.

It's just a different art form. I love shaping nails. And you can actually improve their health and shine with proper care. I had a couple of regular clients, one was like, hey I almost don't need polish, they're so shiny! And she was pretty old. And I'm about as crunchy as they get!!

mastodon you dont need to be in a place of doing any harm to yourself .in fact it is probibly his inten to have you contact him before you get to a space like that. give him a text .somehow i dont see you as all that intrusive and neither does he . i bet he would welcome a text . and maybe it might help some for you.

neat how cool is that mom

Okay.... breathe...

you would think that it was me or one of my boys getting married. We need to leave in an hour and 10 minutes but I'm acting like its only 5 minutes...

self tanner looks good... little one is picked up from school and in the shower..his clothes are ready...

I just have to leave H's clothes on our bed since he is coming a little later ... my H shoved all these clothes in the tiniest suitcase when we went on the college road trip so while we were there every day he had to iron his shirt because I refused to... so I know he could take care of himself but I'm going to do it today since he has less time.

that should leave me about 1/2 hour to get ready... I can finish touch ups or whatever I need to at the church if I had to... since I will be getting there almost an hour early...

I never realized how well my defense mechanisms dealt with my anxiety... or maybe its just new...

I don't know what I was thinking...one of my ankles started to swell a little so I took a Lasix... diuretic... probably going to need to pee constantly... which is really inconvient when you are wearing spanx...

I'll checkback on the couch after the wedding... I think part of the stress is just that I will have to deal with my whole family today. That will be hard.

but since its a happy occasion I'm sure they will be on their best behavior... of course the fakeness is one of the things that pisses me off but maybe I would welcome it today.

wishing you well with the wedding ready i bet you are rocking the skirt and accessories

Spanx are both a blessing and a curse.

hi critter you have not been around. nice to see ya. have you been ok

i found a stamp for my cards that says

"there NO PLACE LIKE
HOME.....
especially when your house
lands on someone wearing
AMAZING
MAGIC SHOES
just your size "

i love it

Hope you're able to work through your feelings and enjoy the wedding, RTS.

(( HUGS ))

It is so rainy and dreary here, even had to put on a light sweater as it has gotten chilly. Some days the weather seems to really fit my mood...

Go-cart racing!

I just took a long nap with my dogs. It's dark and rainy here too, good napping weather.

I love vintage photos, and I came across these this morning, I can't stop looking at them. I think Stopdog is in the one with the pipes...

http://www.messynessychic.com/2013/0...al-sass-vol-4/

LOL! Have you been spying on me? There is a cart track near us, and I bring my grandson when he visits. It's an oldie, I used to race there when I was his age. I love go carts!

Ts can make serious, persistent mistakes. It is harmful to throw every difficulty onto the patient.

Just wanted to throw out some comments re mue's stuff and some issues raised here:

1. This other t was functioning as a consultant t. Is it our responsibility to find a consultant t that doesn't know the original t? I don't think so.

2. The other t was ex group co t leader, so she did know mue.

3. SD keeps raising the fact that the t is male and may retaliate in some dangerous way. What is that about? I mean, obviously I know what it's about, but is it male-bashing or is it unresolved issues? Or what? That "he's gonna get mad if he finds out" sounds like something we say about a parent or sibling as a fearful child, not something an adult says, and is not a reason not to explore something in therapy.

4. Mue said the exgrpcot said that mue was acting like the t more than the t was, and that that bothered her. But from what I've read about termination - and I mean termination as in a long term closing (eg one year) of a long term relationship - an outsider can't tell who is the t and who is the client, if they sat in on a late session. The relationship becomes pretty equal. But specifically, mue has had to "parent her parent" to some extent because of her mother's hearing disability, so this would just be something different she (and I, but for different reasons) brings to t, that t may have to stretch to understand.

ETA: CE: jinx you owe me a coke!

I am also someone who spent much of my time parenting my parent. However, my T has been VERY clear with me that I am not responsible for parenting him, nor did I need to worry about my ex-T (back when I was talking about that termination a lot.) My T tells me to knock it off when I'm doing it.

Afternoon couch.

Well I am back from the senior care place. I was supposed to be helping in the office today, but J got an emergency call and had to leave, so I got to sit with her 96 year old aunt who is pretty far along with deminta. It was an interesting experience. But it is no different than caring for a low functioning autistic kid really. Same sort of everyday abilities and communictaion skills.