Couch 55...And on it goes....

I'm wearing six layers with the heater on!

H does not usually ride. He has ridden a handful of times. And your fantasy is pretty close to the reality (at least in the past). I used to go on two day horse trail rides maybe 10 times a year. We would camp out on Friday, ride Saturday, camp and cook out that night, get up and ride Sunday and then go home. I went on one horse trip last year and this was my first one this year.

H is now talking about going on those trips and I'm not sure how my friend with whom I bought the horse trailer will feel about that. My whole family used to go sometimes in the past and she would get really jealous and irritable.

Your friend has said in her heart: "That trailer is MINE!"

Good insight, CE! She definitely has. She puts her stuff up on the walls of the living quarters. She leaves her tack in it all the time. She takes my stuff out and leaves it in a storage place or asks me to take it home, etc. We've talked about it a few times, but she is so conflict avoidant that it's almost impossible to get her to address it. I've tried to get her to buy me out but she cannot afford to and says she likes the connection of sharing it. Yeah, sharing is awesome when you keep the damn thing the whole time.

She must be a really good friend because I would never have expected that you would let someone use you like that...

The relationship didn't start out that way. It's one of the things we discuss in therapy. My T says some relationships don't survive therapy. I have no long term female friends other than this woman. This woman is really the first woman I ever had as a long term friend. I feel kind of like a failure if I cannot somehow work this out.

Do you have room to keep it at your place? Could you ask for just your family to use it? Or do you need her truck to pull?

I think if it's a good friendship other than this... I wouldn't let it come between you but if this is just a symbol of how the friendship runs...then if would work to change the dynamics

ETA: But I don't have many friends so u might not want to follow my advice

Wiki...I'm glad you were able to make those cookies vegan... I hope your little girl feels better soon...

Lola...how are things going unpacking? Been praying for you.

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First time back at healthcare job in months (I had a part of a finger amputated). The clients were super happy to see me, so that was nice. And my worry that the not eating would make me weak was unfounded. I did just fine cycling to work. I think it will be a relieve when I tell T tomorrow. Maybe enough of a relieve that I'll quit this sillyness. It's the weirdest thing ever - to know I'm doing a stupid thing and to then turn around and go like "yeh, but just one more day of this won't hurt".

Hi couchies. I've had a migraine for most of the last 9 days. I finally went to the doctor today and got good drugs.

I've been struggling in T, too. I've had this feeling for a few weeks now that something is about to blow. I can't figure out what it is - it's just beneath the surface. Like trying to remember someone's name when it's on the tip of your tongue. And yesterday's session was the most frustrating I've ever had. It was the first time in 18 months that I felt that T didn't understand.

Off to try to catch up on the goings-on around couchland.

It is not the only issue we have, but we've been friends a long time (for me anyway). I have a truck that can pull it and I have room to keep it at my place, but if I take it to my place she calls, asking when I'm going to bring it back. She will even go so far as to lie and say she really needs it to take a horse somewhere and doesn't have time to pick up the trailer, so I really have to bring it back.

Originally, it was only my truck that would pull it because she didn't own a truck big enough. When that was the situation, I let her borrow my truck to take the trailer to go to competitions even when I was not going. After she got her big truck, mine broke down and I asked to borrow her truck to go somewhere in the trailer, and she just said she really needed her truck and couldn't let me use it.

Anyway, it's a really long story and an ongoing problem. There are good things about the friendship, other than issues with the trailer and her lying to me to avoid conflicts or get her way.

I was feeling something similar today, critterlady. We were talking about anger and the vast well of rage I feel like I carry inside, but I kept feeling like I was going to cry. He said something at one point (and I have completely blocked out what it was) and my eyes filled. He tried to ask me what I was thinking or feeling, but I cut him off, interrupted him and kept talking over him until he gave up and let me change the subject.

Same readytostop! Our cat once was playing with our fish, and ended up pushing the aquaruim off the table!! lol

Obviously something important.

I absolutely despise this phrase... So how you doin? This is what my h says to me all the time and it pisses me off. If I thought he really cares how I am feeling, then it would be different. It's like he wants to know something else but this all he has the courage to say or it's just a way to acknowledge my existence on his way to his recliner and sports on tv.

Two things: 1. You know that's what Joey on Friends says when he's trying to pick up chicks, right? So the h IS trying to be cute and flirtatious. Or at least borrow that persona. So it's kinda like you're living with me. Oh. Okay, now I understand how that would be depressing like VERY depressing. ..

2. Yeah my t only watches sports on tv too. He'll say stuff like, oh I saw part of martha stewart making noodles but I was on my way to something else. Then later he'll admit it was like one second worth.

What's going on granite???

Does anyone else keep the air conditioner on colder than they really like because of the fact that it makes the dog happy?

I have done the same thing with the heat in the winter to make cats happy.

I have no air conditioner but with one of my old cats I would sometimes turn on the sauna, briefly, to make her happy. She liked sleeping in there.

My cats are easier in the summertime and in the winter, they use me or the dogs to cuddle on or they go sleep by the radiator pipes which stay pretty warm. My one dog is quite the summer heat hater, and he digs up the floor registers for the air conditioner vents if it is not cool enough for him.

ha Stopdog...that is hilarious. I doubt either of mine would be smart enough to do that. I have one (the younger one) who loves to lay in the sun. She will lay herself in the oddest positions just to get a little sun. Yesterday she was sleeping across two steps. The older one likes cool air, and she usually finds a dark spot to curl up in when it's warm. I do leave the ac on in my bedroom during the day (even when I am not home) to keep her happy.

Crazy day today...I have to meet with a client 2 hrs away, then be at the wildlife clinic by 11 (somehow finding a phone booth to change from business suit to clinic scrubs in).