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#1
Aug 18, 2012, 04:32 PM
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Does your T ever call you "dear", or "honey" or anything like that? My T once called me "sweetheart", but I think that was distinctly ironic.
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Aug 18, 2012, 04:40 PM
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No. Thank god. It would not end well for her.
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#3
Aug 18, 2012, 04:56 PM
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No. Thank goodness. I would be mortified, embarrassed, and seriously confused. I like clear and concise boundaries. This would cross them for sure, in my mind.
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Aug 18, 2012, 04:57 PM
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Terms of endearment? NO WAY- he knows better.
BTW I don't like my name- have one nickname for my family and one for my friends once he tried calling me that but I hated it. Hated when he used my title instead. So now he manages to speak to me without actually addressing me by any name. 
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#5
Aug 18, 2012, 05:04 PM
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Over a year I've been seeing her, and just recently she's called me 'hun' - twice - the first time was over the phone, and I figured it was a slip, but then she said it again in session the other week
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Aug 18, 2012, 05:05 PM
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She calls me sweetie sometimes..
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#7
Aug 18, 2012, 05:08 PM
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That would sound condescending to me... if it came from my therapist. She's never done it, and I don't think it would ever cross her mind. The therapeutic intimacy we share would not be proven or honored by calling me "dear" or "honey." Yuck.
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#8
Aug 18, 2012, 05:20 PM
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T calls us sweetie, honey, baby, sweetheart, kiddo, kid, and probably some others i cant recall.
Plus having DID we all have our own names, and T makes quite a few of those into silly nicknames. We like it when she does it. I use lots of terms of endearment for the children in my class as well. |
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#9
Aug 18, 2012, 05:33 PM
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No, and I don't think I'd want to hear it very often, but I'd like it if she though of me fondly enough to think of me like that after the years we've worked together.
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Aug 18, 2012, 05:34 PM
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He called me 'kiddo' once, but I did not like it. At all. At. all.
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Aug 18, 2012, 05:35 PM
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Aug 18, 2012, 05:44 PM
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Not that I remember.
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Aug 18, 2012, 06:29 PM
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Not that I can recall. It would bother me if she did.
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Aug 18, 2012, 06:53 PM
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No, but I call people using terms of endearment, so if offended please let me know.
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Aug 18, 2012, 07:10 PM
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Oh dear lord, no, he hasn't. I think it would be completely inappropriate.
It's entirely different when my friends do it or I address them that way. But for my therapist to do it? Ick. |
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Aug 18, 2012, 07:23 PM
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I am curious as to why a term of endearment mightbe something youdont want to hear from your t? Would it be different if it were someone in your family, or a friend?
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Aug 18, 2012, 07:28 PM
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I'm curious too, SarahMichelle... I liked it...
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Aug 18, 2012, 07:30 PM
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I use terms of endearment with my husband, my kids, some family members, and often with my students. But I don't use them with any adult who I'm not related to. My T is not my husband, so "sweetheart" or "honey" or "dear" would be creepy. He's not my dad and I'm not a kid, so "kiddo" or something like that would be . . . I'm not sure . . . creepy again for lack of a better word at this moment. We relate to each other as adults and pretty much as equals, so we use each others' names which seems most appropriate and comfortable.
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| critterlady, pbutton, stopdog
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#19
Aug 18, 2012, 07:32 PM
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No...I wish he would...
 . For some reason I could picture him using "sweetheart".
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Aug 18, 2012, 07:34 PM
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I agree with farmergirl!
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#21
Aug 18, 2012, 07:35 PM
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no, I would find it very upsetting. but when we text she always uses just her initial at the end of text which is kind of cute
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#22
Aug 18, 2012, 07:41 PM
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She uses "my dear" almost like a punctuation mark. Even in her emails. She also calls me "sweetheart" and "sweetie". Once she called me "honeyheart", which I remember only because I've never heard that one before.
Maybe it's because I'm from the South (and she is too), where terms of endearment are flung around all the time, that it doesn't bother me. My therapist is also quite older than I am, so what would seem condescending from someone younger doesn't come across that way when she says it. |
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#23
Aug 18, 2012, 08:10 PM
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I've been called "kid, kiddo" and when I moved away (long distance therapy) he said bye sweetie. I don't think anyone else could've pulled off sweetie, but I've known him a million years.
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#24
Aug 18, 2012, 08:16 PM
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I too, agree with farmergirl
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#25
Aug 18, 2012, 08:26 PM
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My T has called me "darlin'" a few times, and chere (dear in French) once. I don't mind.
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