Terms of Endearment

ugh...yes. and it pisses me off to no end. He says "Ok, young lady" at the end of session. Sometimes it's "kiddo". And several times "ok dear". Ick Ick ick. h a t e i t.

HAve you told him? Seriously, tell him to cut it out.

Depression sucks.

Hi Kureha! I haven't seen you around here for a while.

ha...no. Remember me, wiki? lol. So much goes unsaid.

Aha! You prefer to be addressed by name, Stopdog?

No. In therapy there is only me and the therapist - I don't believe either of us is going to get confused so names or endearments or whatever are not really necessary. The one I see does use my name a lot and I am often baffled if she thinks I may believe she would be addressing someone else if she did not say my name.
I don't usually go to mds so it is really not a deal for me, but if seeing them we can both address each other by first names or both use titles. Usually if someone like an md calls me honey (for example), I respond with "sweetie pie" or something and then give my explanation. It usually ends their use of that sort of thing with me.

If my T ever tries it, I am totally calling him something obnoxious in response. Sugar Nuts or Squishy Face or Muffin Loaf.

Sugar nuts is good.

Now I'm worried that I piss my therapist off. I use her name a lot when I'm talking. It's how I often begin my sentences. Or if I'm trying to emphasize a major point that I need her to listen to. I go overboard with it, I know. Sometimes when I mean to say "you" I say her name. She must hate it.

Based upon how rarely people (both here and in real life) jump in with me and confess to joining in my view on almost anything (baffling as that may be), I would not use my experience and extrapolate that the therapist (of all people) has my particular response to almost anything. I am thinking there is a huge probability she does not hate it. Could you ask her if it is worrying you?

I like to make up super hero and nemesis pair names for us, therapy or food related.

T1 called me "girlfriend" a few times, but mostly when I was being sassy and she was arguing with me. I don't think it was a term of endearment so much. To be honest I'd have been happy if she ever used a term of endearment.
Current T, nothing but my name but I'm OK with that. Not sure how I'd react if she did anything else
My MD, though, who is a pediatrician seeing as I'm 17, but also an ED specialist, calls me "honey" sometimes and I kinda like it but I'm prone to liking that sort of thing from certain people in my life because I guess I'm weird that way (somehow confessing that makes me uncomfortable or embarrassed or something)

We aren't supposed to "should" on ourselves, but you shouldn't feel weird for liking terms of endearment. I like them too when they aren't said in a condescending or trying-too-hard kind of way.

And my therapist has also called me "girlfriend". I think she watches too much Suze Orman!

A lot of people like to hear their names. That's while salespeople use them so often. And that (sales) is why some people hate it. It can be a cheap trick.

Sugar nuts is therapy and food related. Can't go wrong with sugar nuts!

I kind if wish my T would use a term of endearment with me, just to see what it feels like. I didn't really get that when I was growing up, and I often want so desperately to be nurtured. But I know that's not the kind of T he is, and I can never get the mothering I missed out on, so it's just kind of a fantasy, of feeling vulnerable and cared for in that way.

I also never call him by his name. It would make our relationship feel more intimate than I'm ready for; weird, I know, given the fantasy I just described above

Off topic I know, but I make sure to call my kids sweetie and dear all the time. It kind of feels like fixing things, in a way.

yeah, right - Super hero Sugar Nuts and his nemesis Dee Fenestrated I'll have to add that to my file of stuff to show him tomorrow!

"Defenestration" means to throw someone through a window. I don't see how that connects with nuts.

Yes, she has called me "sweetie" a few times.

My t calls me "kiddo" all the time, "my dear", and she has called me "honey"... It great cuz it makes me feel liek I matter and that there is someone watching out for me...

if I call him sugarnuts, he will surely throw me out the window.

Mine doesn't use words like this. But 2nd last T i had was about 30 years older than me and when we used to joke around I would call her "young lady". She found it very amusing and liked it a lot.

Yep, forget Sugar Nuts. I now plan to counter by calling my T "young lady". The fact that he's a 50-something man won't slow me down.

too funny!!